smileysmile Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 It might be that your ex is over you BUT not over the pain and anguish you caused her. Therefore, she is civil to you in as not being your enemy as Lyndia said but she wants no part of you for she believes and rightly so in my opinion that you could only hurt her again and she just doesn't want to open up that wound. Or to state it differently, she doesn't trust you enough anymore to want to place her heart in your hands again. You are, so to speak, high risk. I think that is very true. My ex is stubborn by nature and she will whilst in the R do anything to make it work. But then if its still not working after some time (like I wouldn't or she couldn't see me changing my behaviour) then she ENDS it period! In her eyes she NEVER goes back Although we have this connection with our daughter you can never say never. But there is no rule book. She might be influenced by family/friends never to go back but there are no life guarantees with other men she may come into contact. She may find someone who she will love more than me. That hurts but it does happen Link to post Share on other sites
Author hayati Posted February 1, 2008 Author Share Posted February 1, 2008 With my ex, she's stubborn and easily influenced too. With that said, it makes me wonder why I want(ed) her back haha. But it's true, she's a rock by times. And I know for a fact she'll wanna come back but it will be too late. I just know! Link to post Share on other sites
strife Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 And I know for a fact she'll wanna come back but it will be too late. I just know! Too late meaning you'll get over her again? No offense, but if that's the case then she is making the right choice in going NC. She may have been rude to you in the mall but from her side she was probably shocked and was just trying to protect herself. If you hurt her like you said, then give her the space to heal. If she contacts you on her own and apologizes for her behavior, perhaps you can pursue her again at that time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hayati Posted February 3, 2008 Author Share Posted February 3, 2008 No buddy I dont think I'll ever get over her. I know it may sound lame, but I dont think I will. She owns my thoughts- But .. I will settle eventually and find someone else and be as happy as I can. That's what I meant when I said it will be too late. I'm done waiting for her. Link to post Share on other sites
princ3ss06 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Sometimes there is just no going back. Sad but true. My last relationship, while relatively short, was very painful for me when it ended...I didn't want it to end. Just 2 days ago she called me saying she wanted to talk it out and try again. Problem is...I dealt with it...I felt shi..y...dealt with it and got over it. Now...I have no interest in being back in a relationship with her. Things change...people change...nothing we can do about it. Take some solace in the fact that if it were meant to be...it will be...and if it isn't, then you're better off with things as they are. No point blaming yourself for something you can't reverse (although we all do it). Best to file this one away in the memory bank and try to make sure you do it differently the next time. Hey Swan: how did you deal with it so fast? I broke up with my boyfriend over a stupid fight 2 months ago and regretted doing so the very next day. We met up two nights after the break-up and I tried explaining myself but he was like i think you are right - I thought it through and i think i make a bad boyfriend. And truth be told, we never fight before that! It was a superb relationship that worked well for us. but because of my rash act, he actually was ok with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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