Poboy Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 My fiancee's dad just had a heart attack today. due to some past history among her family members , not everyone was informed about our marriage being fixed. as a result , i cant visit her at the hospital. she was so very upset on the phone. im a strong hearted person but this just made me so uncomfortable that im feeling uneasy and bad from inside. i had to lie down for sometime to get up to type this. she wants to meet me and so do I but its just impossible as that can lead to drama at the hospital between her family and now is not the time for that. all im doing is praying for her dad , her and her family. kindly say a prayer for his well being if possible. i can sms her and she is replying back after sometime giving her support ( cant call her as all her family is around ) but what else i can do if any. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 ...this just made me so uncomfortable that im feeling uneasy and bad from inside. i had to lie down for sometime... i can sms her and she is replying back after sometime giving her support ( cant call her as all her family is around ) but what else i can do if any. Certainly I'll hold her dad and family in my prayers. As to your post, I'm not sure if this is about you giving her support, or you getting support from her. (It could just be the way you phrased things.) You two both understand why you can't be at the hospital, so I'm not sure about the uncomfortable and uneasy feelings...or are they more feelings of resentment towards the circumstances that make it difficult for you to be with her physically during her time of need? If she will allow herself a short break from sitting with her family, perhaps you two can meet at a nearby coffee shop or something? I don't know the full story, but just on the face of it, there is a bit of drama in feeling "bad from inside" and having to "lie down for some time" over news of your fiancee's dad's heart attack. Not that the news isn't worrisome and/or shocking, just that the reaction sounds somewhat over the top (and not strong hearted, either) ~ again, my views are just based on what you've typed, and it could be choice of words that's sending my thoughts in a wrong direction. I certainly don't intend to make light of the fact that heart attacks are serious, nor to facilitate worse feelings within yourself. Mine is just a different view, offered for your consideration -- if it doesn't fit with your own truth, please just reject all of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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