maedayvis Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 I am a divorced woman who is now in a loving relationship with a wonderful new man. We have been dating for over a year and have lived together for 7 months. We are both in our mid 30's. Here is my problem-he never wants to have sex. He says he just doesn't need it and never is "in the mood". When we have sex, it is phenomenal! I just can't ever get him to bed. I know most of the time, the men are complaining about this...any ideas, thoughts, or suggestions?!? After a while the ego takes a big bruising when you get "shot down" all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Has he always been like this since you have known him, or just here recently? Link to post Share on other sites
Author maedayvis Posted January 30, 2008 Author Share Posted January 30, 2008 He has always been this way...nothing new I guess. We waited a long time to have sex in the first place. Now we have sex MAYBE once a month! Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 He has always been this way...nothing new I guess. We waited a long time to have sex in the first place. Now we have sex MAYBE once a month! Does he seem depressed? How are other areas in his life besides in the bedroom? Maybe his sex drive is just lower then yours. Have you discussed how you feel with him on the issue? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 He has always been this way...nothing new I guess. We waited a long time to have sex in the first place. Now we have sex MAYBE once a month! I'm afraid that he's like that and not much you can do... not everyone has high sex drive although it is quite unusual for a man.. You knew from the start that he was not a sexual guy.. I don't know why, now, you think it's a problem... You have two choices: get a good dildo or leave him if sex is really important to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Desperate HH Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Once a month, and he's not that into it? When you are married, it will be far far less. Are you prepared for this, over the long haul? You should chat with some other women in similar situations. http://p094.ezboard.com/bsexlessmarriage Run, don't walk, for the exit. 'Cause it ain't gonna get better. DHH Edited January 31, 2008 by Desperate HH Link to post Share on other sites
pisces fish Posted February 6, 2008 Share Posted February 6, 2008 I'm afraid that he's like that and not much you can do... not everyone has high sex drive although it is quite unusual for a man.. You knew from the start that he was not a sexual guy.. I don't know why, now, you think it's a problem... You have two choices: get a good dildo or leave him if sex is really important to you. Which one would you do? Link to post Share on other sites
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