Lizzie60 Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 My friend and I went on a 2-week vacation in DR. We met a lot of people... made a lot of friends... Being two single, sexy, attractive women, we were 'looked' at by a lot of W who caught their H looking at us... Some were talking about us.. it was quite obvious... they were quite 'insecure'.. But we met 2 couples, one of the W was fairly jealous, but she didn't let it show too much.. except on a few occasions.. anyway.. we became good friends... she was a sweetheart, we will keep contact. I knew her H had a crush on me.. because I overheard some things he told his friend (the other guy) on a few occasion or making 'jokes' while I kinda knew he was making a 'pass'...but in very subtle way. My friend then said one thing that I've been thinking about and it makes sense in a way. I've noticed that before with other couples. She said : M's wife is being friendly with us because she wants to make us her allies not her enemies. I think it could be a way to keep women away from your H if you get really friendly with them... It works sometimes. In this case, it did... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 I don't know if its true 'allies' so much as it is preventative. I'm sure that what goes through some W's minds is "if I befriend her, be nice to her, and show her that I'm human OW will be decent enough not to go after my H, and would feel too guilty to do so." Ah, but so many W's overestimate decency. I see plenty of OW who bed the H's of women they pretend to be friends with. I guess if it works even a little, its far worth it to befriend OW and hope that her conscience will keep her from going after H, than it would be to make OW an enemy and nearly guarantee that she will out of spite. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Most definitely true!! When it comes to matters of other women I keep my friends close but my enemies even closer as the old saying goes....women can be catty wenches but if you become non threatening to them and they like you then it's safe all around. In some cases though the women are just incorregible it's happened with my pas b/f's friend's g/fs or wives that they were threatened by me in some way and the more friendly I become the more jealous or catty they became, and if that's the case what can you do? You can only try so much and then at some point you simply give up or slip them a Psychiatric Assessment pamphlet. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 [OpenBook rant#24,693] I have never understood jealousy between females. My question would be, why is she even with the b*stard to begin with, if she feels jealous every time he looks at another woman?!? To me, jealousy indicates insecurity in herself. Her greatest fear is that she's not "woman" enough to keep her "man" (and she is so wrong about this, on so many levels!). And (typically IMO) it's the H that's causing her to feel this way in the first place. What she should REALLY do is turn the tables on HIM, in whatever form that takes - whether it be calmly walking away from him, his sh*t and the poor excuse of a M - or looking at and commenting on other men - or doing the exact same things he's doing to her - make HIM feel jealous and insecure for once. Flip the script. [/rant] Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 This thread made me laugh. How exactly do you know the W's were "jealous" of you? That is a pretty arrogant assessment. Women are extremely intuitive... you're a woman you should know this. Maybe..just MAYBE they knew you were the type of woman who likes to sleep with MM?? Maybe it has nothing to do with jealousy at all.And maybe the woman who "befriended"you, was simply being nice because she's just nice and secure enough to not worry about her husband cheating on her. If you are getting "dirty" or catty looks, maybe it's because you are portraying yourself in a way that is deserving of it. Just a WILD guess... Link to post Share on other sites
BareGoddess Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 I don't get the point of this thread. The title says "For all W out there." I'm a W. So what am I supposed to get out of this? My H doesn't ogle other women anyway...only me. Those guys, if they were really ogling you, obviously had no class. Also, are you sure you interpreted this right? Because lots of times my H and I like to people-watch and we'll comment on the way a man or woman looks and talk/laugh about it. We do try to be discreet though so that the person doesn't know we're doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I can't fight the urge anymore. Just reading this thread makes me want Lizzie more and more. Link to post Share on other sites
BareGoddess Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I can't fight the urge anymore. Just reading this thread makes me want Lizzie more and more. Uhm, no offense Pyro, but I wouldn't give up my day job for an acting career. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Uhm, no offense Pyro, but I wouldn't give up my day job for an acting career. :lmao: Everybodys a critic. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I don't get the point of this thread. The title says "For all W out there." I'm a W. So what am I supposed to get out of this? You're supposed to take note and remember to befriend all potential OW's that your husband ogles in your presence, especially if it's Lizzie, cuz it might prevent her from agreeing to your husband's advances. Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My friend and I went on a 2-week vacation in DR. We met a lot of people... made a lot of friends... Being two single, sexy, attractive women, we were 'looked' at by a lot of W who caught their H looking at us... Some were talking about us.. it was quite obvious... they were quite 'insecure'.. But we met 2 couples, one of the W was fairly jealous, but she didn't let it show too much.. except on a few occasions.. anyway.. we became good friends... she was a sweetheart, we will keep contact. I knew her H had a crush on me.. because I overheard some things he told his friend (the other guy) on a few occasion or making 'jokes' while I kinda knew he was making a 'pass'...but in very subtle way. My friend then said one thing that I've been thinking about and it makes sense in a way. I've noticed that before with other couples. She said : M's wife is being friendly with us because she wants to make us her allies not her enemies. I think it could be a way to keep women away from your H if you get really friendly with them... It works sometimes. In this case, it did... uhhhh..thanks for the "advice"???? Link to post Share on other sites
BareGoddess Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 You're supposed to take note and remember to befriend all potential OW's that your husband ogles in your presence, especially if it's Lizzie, cuz it might prevent her from agreeing to your husband's advances. Oh, I see. Well, as stated, H never ogles. Anyway, who would want to be friends with any women like that? (Oh and very funny there Pyromaniac!) I hear you, outofdarkness. That was my first reaction when I read the first post too. I was like "waaaaa?????":rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
becauseofyou Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) "I think it could be a way to keep women away from your H if you get really friendly with them... " If I didn't trust my partner to not cheat then I wouldn't be with him. Simple. I'm not up for playing silly games the rest of my life in order to "keep my man". Edited January 31, 2008 by becauseofyou removed error Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Well, as stated, H never ogles. How sure are you? How about when he is not with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I am confused. Does Lizzie go out trawling for married men? If I was out with my H I would not worry about making friends with girls who look like they steal husbands, I would question my marriage if I had to worry about women 'stealing' my man. I would not be that insecure to stay with a man whome I thought was 'stealable' And on a side note, if I was out and Lizzie and her friend came along and tried to get with my man I would not befriend them, I would b*tch-slap them both to the ground for being so slutty and disrespecting me! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 If everyone could get over Lizzie's confidence they could see that her intuition is in tact. A lot of Ws know they have WSs and many use this tactic if they still want to stay married. I used it when I was still fighting for my M. I cozied up to my H's OW and I believe she caught on that I caught on and she backed off. Now I kind of wish it hadn't worked, for anyone who knows my story. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) For what it's worth, my exH's exOW did this to me...got friendly and so forth to check me out. I, of course, was oblivious at the time. But she was insecure. Go figure. Insecurity (and insensitivity) comes in all shapes and sizes...and seriously, anyone would feel insecure if their partner intentionally makes them worry by ogling other people or flirting outrageously and only caring about whether his/her own ego gets sufficiently stroked. As for women (or men) trying to get one over on each other...I know people do this crap - make others feel jealous because it makes them feel good - but what I really don't understand is glorying in it. Fine, they need the ego boost, but do they really enjoy seeing other people's hurt? I'm just saying. Edited January 31, 2008 by serial muse Link to post Share on other sites
justice Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Geez.... If this was a pointer then it was a "fail". If this happened to me and my partner was looking at women like that while I was present, then I'd laugh and reach for my cell to call my attorney, cause I wouldn't want to be with a piece of crap who looks at...well nevermind the descriptives. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Aren't bored married men easier to catch...... It seems to me it is the excited single ones that are a tad more slippery. Lizzie you are fishing in a bath tub...... Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My friend and I went on a 2-week vacation in DR. We met a lot of people... made a lot of friends... Being two single, sexy, attractive women, we were 'looked' at by a lot of W who caught their H looking at us... Some were talking about us.. it was quite obvious... they were quite 'insecure'.. But we met 2 couples, one of the W was fairly jealous, but she didn't let it show too much.. except on a few occasions.. anyway.. we became good friends... she was a sweetheart, we will keep contact. I knew her H had a crush on me.. because I overheard some things he told his friend (the other guy) on a few occasion or making 'jokes' while I kinda knew he was making a 'pass'...but in very subtle way. My friend then said one thing that I've been thinking about and it makes sense in a way. I've noticed that before with other couples. She said : M's wife is being friendly with us because she wants to make us her allies not her enemies. I think it could be a way to keep women away from your H if you get really friendly with them... It works sometimes. In this case, it did... AND?? Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Lizzie, I think this woman is one smart cookie! Then again, woman AND men betray their best friends all the time. Smart, but she needs to have a really good game going on here to make sure you are Her friend and not her Husband's friend or lover. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 if I was out and Lizzie and her friend came along and tried to get with my man I would not befriend them, I would b*tch-slap them both to the ground for being so slutty and disrespecting me! I'd probably do the same. Then tell my husband, "If you want it, go and get it. Just don't expect me to be hanging around, waiting for you, I've got better things to occupy my time." Because if he doesn't understand that when I said I do, I meant that I'd give up doing that kind of shxt, and he damned well better be on the same page, otherwise the relationship was a waste of time. Drastic, yes, but I don't believe in game-playing. You say you're going to do something, then do it, dammit, don't get sidetracked by stupid bullshxt. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 if I was out and Lizzie and her friend came along and tried to get with my man I would not befriend them, I would b*tch-slap them both to the ground for being so slutty and disrespecting me! I'd probably do the same. Then tell my husband, "If you want it, go and get it. Just don't expect me to be hanging around, waiting for you, I've got better things to occupy my time." Because if he doesn't understand that when I said I do, I meant that I'd give up doing that kind of shxt, and he damned well better be on the same page, otherwise the relationship was a waste of time. Drastic, yes, but I don't believe in game-playing. You say you're going to do something, then do it, dammit, don't get sidetracked by stupid bullshxt. Exactly. I always thought that Highschool ended at 17-18 years of age. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 For some reason a T-shirt with the words "parking garage" on it popped in my head. That aside, Lizzie my H is available. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 For some reason a T-shirt with the words "parking garage" on it popped in my head. That aside, Lizzie my H is available. It doesn't work that way. You have to be oblivious to the whole thing. You are not suppose to know. Link to post Share on other sites
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