i caught my long dist relationship in a lie and then i lied and told the truth

[kaysnoop]

i went on facebook and created an account and i snooped on the guy tha ti'm have a ldr with ex page.

i found some pics of them , i have been snooping for a very long time. but this time i failed to deactivate the account. and his ex emailed me. I posted up pics of some guy, apparently some hot guy so she would accept me. i started to converse back with her pretending i was some guy. She thought it was her ex of 8 years but it was me, i didn't think anything of it and jus pretende dlike nothing happend.

My guy calls me up the next day and asks if i was on my computer and i lied and said no... he freake out and told me the whole story and i tried to turn things around.. i lied for 2 days, he had threatened to kill me and hurt me if he evr found out it was me that pretended to impersonate him. I was impersonating him i was jus pretending to be some guy i knew of not him tho. He said he was contacting facebook and blah blah blah...... once i finaly told him the truth he was still pretty upset He said he wants nothing to do with me, but its been about a week now and the way i see it is that life is too short to dwell on what i did. I lied and then told the truth bc i love him and he is the first person i havae ever had such strong feelings for and we both see a future. I have been txting him all day for the past 5 days and he jus keeps saying that he needs time to get ovr the fact that i lied , he keeps saying i'm crazy and psycho, but i'm ovr all this... i'm done with fighting and i don't understand why he need so much time to get ovr what i did. He had lied to me 10 months before ithis happened, he had moved to overseas and failed to mention that he brought a girl with him and they were living with each other for 4 in a half months.... i don't know whether or not if i should continue the relationship or not. I love him and we both see each other having kids and family and marriage... but is it worth it to continue this if i have trust issues iwth him??

[SeraBella]

If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. It's that simple.

 

BUT, you made a major mistake in what you did. And, he may never forgive you. It was completely wrong.

 

I can understand why he's calling you crazy and psycho. And your constant texting is probably making you seem even worse.

 

Leave him go. If he decides to forgve what you did, then he will contact you. But if you don't trust him, you shouldn't even think of marriage and kids...hello?

[TMichaels]

Let me get this straight...

 

Your LDR "boyfriend" moved overseas with HIS g/f, lived with her for 4.5 months, and never told you about it, so YOU TRUST HIM SO MUCH, that you created a fake Facebook identity, "sorta didn't" impersonate him, but do manage to snare his "ex" in the ruse, get caught re-handed, lie to cover your tracks, then decide to come clean, are now pissed off your b/f is taking so long "to get over it" AND YOU WONDER WHETHER YOU SHOULD CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF TRUST ISSUES?

 

Are you nuts?

 

He lied to you, you lied to him. What are you hoping? That somehow, two wrongs make a right???

 

Stop calling/texting and harassing the guy -- he's not worth it and you don't deserve to be forgiven.

 

You've both seriously violated each other's trust, and you need to figure out why you seem to think that's no big deal.

 

Best of luck,

TMichaels

[kaysnoop]

yes thats pretty much what happened, but he says that he nvr said we were exclusive yet and that he never said i was his girlfriend. weve been tryin to work things out, either i move to where he is .... we spoke last night and he just said that he needs time to get over what i did, but apart of me feels like i just need to let him go.

i didn't see anyone for that long... a year and a few months for an attractive girl to jus sit at home, gets quite boring. and i think i deserve more than that.. he says that whatever he did he did bc he didn't want to lost or hurt me and that the girl he brought down with hi was jus to comfort him, he vr planned on her coming but it jus happ, he said its old and ancient history that we will both move on from that. what i did was very immature and psycho and i know that icame clean and he jus needs time to get over what i did.

i know he loves me otherwise we still wouldn't pursue what we have, but sometimes i feel like i do need to let him go... right?

[THE THRONE]

he had threatened to kill me and hurt me if he evr found out it was me that pretended to impersonate him.

 

And you ask if it is worth continuing because you have trust issues? LMAO! If you don't do the right thing, you'll have permanent health issues, and by that, THE THRONE means he's going to either push you down a flight of stairs, drill a bullet in your skull or hack your body to pieces with a butter knife.

 

Walk away now while you still have the ability to walk.