Ghawam15 Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 Theres this girl on my team and i think i like her the only probelm is that i have no classes with her and i only see her on the team meetings and i want to get to know her better but like i said i dont see her that often. i want to talk to her but i dont want to talk about the team or weird her out what should i do. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 How About You First Try To Talk To Her When You Guys Are On The Team Together Because That Is The Only Time You See Her. It Would Be Weird To Have Someone Come Up And Ask You Out On A Date If You Don't Know Him/her (unless It Is Obvious That You And Them Are Physically Attracted To Each Other) After You Actually Learn To Speak To Her, Then Come Back Here And Ask Us For Help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ghawam15 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Share Posted February 1, 2008 *** u buddy Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 lol so you have the balls to tell me off yet you seem to lose them when you try to find a way to approach this girl? The way you handled my response, I guess I have to just laugh b/c you took such offense to it. Did you even read what I said? I'm really not surprised that no one else has replied to this post, because it's so ridiculously obvious what you have to do. But because I have a little time on my hands, I'll do my best to help you in this situation. So you don't want to talk to her about the team and "weird her out." Well, CONSIDERING you guys have little in common except that your on the same team, its VERY HARD to create a conversation based off anything else without coming off as weird, peculiar, or maybe even desperate. Lets also ask this question: Why would it be "weird" to talk about anything that is team oriented? If you guys are on the same team, wouldn't it be NATURAL to talk about it? And who says the focus on conversation has to revolve around the "team." Simply use that as a springboard for other topics of convo (starting off with something familiar and common helps to ease any tension or awkwardness between two people. . . but apparently you're lack of social skills/confidence has blinded you from seeing that). Remember to listen to what she says and always seem interested; if the convo dies, just ask another question from there, you've started the conversation and if she is talking, then you don't need to worry; she wouldn't talk to someone she doesn't want to be around (but don't take this as her "liking you in that way", she could just be friendly. . .which isn't bad either). Also, if you fail horribly with this girl, just view it as a practice for later on; it'll give you some experience talking to girls (b/c it seems you're lacking in that department) and hopefully make you more comfortable approaching them and being with them. Rejection happens to everyone, it just depends on how you take it and use it to your advantage. Oh and you're welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ghawam15 Posted February 2, 2008 Author Share Posted February 2, 2008 fuc k u buddy Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 sorry i don't understand fuc k u but i do understand someone's inability to express themselves in the way they want. If you want to really piss me off, you could do more than say three words. . . but I guess that just shows how limited your social vocabulary is. Good luck with trying to talk to anyone with that attitude; I sort of see why now that some people always find themselves asking why they can never get a girl. I guess it all starts with their own self-esteem and personality issues. In your case you seem to afraid of coming off as an awkward kid; I would worry more about being perceived as a stupid little piece of **** that can't seem to get past the idea that maybe, JUST MAYBE there might be something wrong with yourself. Of course I know that you're just going to say "**** you buddy" because you know that what I am saying about you is true and you have no other way of defending yourself except to cuss me off. It's okay to hate yourself but seriously, when you ask for help. . . the best thing is to accept the fact that maybe the question your asking is a little bit pathetic and quite stupid. It's the internet, so I really can't care about some random, anonymous teenager who probably just hit puberty with the name Ghawam15. I guess the best thing for you man is to acquaint yourself with your hands and some lotion; cause you'll be needing em for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Rise Against Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 Lucasarts is right about this. P.S. Thanks for helping me in my previous posts. Well anyways, the girl I liked, I had to talk to her too because we were in the same classes and band and after school stuff. Before we weren't really that close, but now we're really close and we always hang out with all her friends and they all know about me although I don't even know them. As long as you make the girl really happy she will love you back. She will invite you to her house, talk to you on msn 24/7, offer you things, etc. It's just incredible! Even though you might not get her to have a relationship, you still won't lose her because you still have her as a friend. This will help you out in the other girls you will like in the future - To have a better chance with them because you will learn from your mistakes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ghawam15 Posted February 3, 2008 Author Share Posted February 3, 2008 thanks rise against i think ur answers are more helpful and said that to lucas because hes a faggot Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 4, 2008 Share Posted February 4, 2008 Lucasarts is right about this. P.S. Thanks for helping me in my previous posts. Well anyways, the girl I liked, I had to talk to her too because we were in the same classes and band and after school stuff. Before we weren't really that close, but now we're really close and we always hang out with all her friends and they all know about me although I don't even know them. As long as you make the girl really happy she will love you back. She will invite you to her house, talk to you on msn 24/7, offer you things, etc. It's just incredible! Even though you might not get her to have a relationship, you still won't lose her because you still have her as a friend. This will help you out in the other girls you will like in the future - To have a better chance with them because you will learn from your mistakes. lol at least ghawam acknowledged that what Rise Against said (your welcome btw) is more helpful (meaning my advice was helpful for him too). Let me just clarify for you that Rise Against is agreeing with me, and he was in a situation just like you. . . Until you actually attempt to talk to this girl, you're just reinforcing your stupidity and adolescence as a little child who is struggling to understand how the world of girls and socializing works. I was never trying to bring you down; you're just doing that to yourself. Oh and reshape that attitude, it only makes you more awkward and unlikeable. And if you really want help, ask your friends because apparently trying to find advice on this forum isn't working out for you. I'm done with this post and poster. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ghawam15 Posted February 5, 2008 Author Share Posted February 5, 2008 lol at least ghawam acknowledged that what Rise Against said (your welcome btw) is more helpful (meaning my advice was helpful for him too). Let me just clarify for you that Rise Against is agreeing with me, and he was in a situation just like you. . . Until you actually attempt to talk to this girl, you're just reinforcing your stupidity and adolescence as a little child who is struggling to understand how the world of girls and socializing works. I was never trying to bring you down; you're just doing that to yourself. Oh and reshape that attitude, it only makes you more awkward and unlikeable. And if you really want help, ask your friends because apparently trying to find advice on this forum isn't working out for you. I'm done with this post and poster. Oh now you think your niggarich? Link to post Share on other sites
Mahatma Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 I don't know where all this negativity has come from, but you should just find something little to ask her. What kind of a team are you on? Just talk to her about anything really... Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
LikesMeNot Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 Well, anyways, Lucasarts and Rise Against are experienced posters and are correct. your swearing at someone you don't even know on the computer is showing your lack of maturity and the fact that you're anti-social. No wonder you can't get that girl. At my school, only class bullies or imature people swear hey what grade are you in? 5th? If not, you're acting like it Grow up, take a chance. when i was in 5th i got some practiceon the girl i liked at the time. I failed miserably, but now i know the tricks to talk to girls. Guess what? i can now talk up beautiful girls by conversation and am good friends with all of them. Everyone needs awesome girl friends (friends who are girls) THey rule, and actually can introduce you to a new interest. All i'm saying is that you're not seeing the big picture now. Be a chicken now, and you'll be a chicken in your entire life. -LikesMeNot Link to post Share on other sites
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