What to expect when the Wifey is getting BOOBS

[rainfall]

no she works out fervently BECAUSE she has body issues. you think models dont have body issues too?

i can say the same thing.. but it sounds really ridiculous in this instant- "So because she is an anorexic, she has body image issues?"

 

 

I don't remember reading anywhere that the OP said his wife has body issues. He just said she works out alot.....

[norajane]

I'd say if someone wants to slice into their perfectly healthy body to insert saline or silicone discs to inflate the appearance of their breasts has some body issues. Another woman with the exact same body and breasts would never consider it.

[Lizzie60]

will she turn strange mens' heads and give them head too ? who knows. she apparently is desperate for attention and those types of women take it from anywhere they can get it.

 

Huh???? what are you talking about

[DaddyO]

I don't remember reading anywhere that the OP said his wife has body issues. He just said she works out alot.....

 

Rainfall, thank you. My wife is a confident woman, but she also does not live in a "closed box" (her words) and feels that her boobs could use some alteration.

Im up for it now (with some caution), however I am worried about the pain post op. Someone already mentioned the horror stories, and there was another post, from a male, who just said "enjoy the ride".

 

Thank you for the feedback.

 

Looks like I will not change her mind in NOT getting the Oper. might have to except it.

 

As far as the question about the size; she's going from a med B to med C. The size is only part of it. I think she is more unhappy with the way they are shaped. For me, a handful is enough, but I guess she just wants to perk them

[ladyintights]

I don't remember reading anywhere that the OP said his wife has body issues. He just said she works out alot.....

 

" Plus, like others have stated, friends confidence jumped once she got'em. "

 

INSINUATING she has confidence issues etc..

 

Why does she need confidence with other men is what I'd question, because that's the only place she will be getting attention from with a large chest. LOL

[Lizzie60]

Rainfall, thank you. My wife is a confident woman, but she also does not live in a "closed box" (her words) and feels that her boobs could use some alteration.

Im up for it now (with some caution), however I am worried about the pain post op. Someone already mentioned the horror stories, and there was another post, from a male, who just said "enjoy the ride".

 

Thank you for the feedback.

 

Looks like I will not change her mind in NOT getting the Oper. might have to except it.

 

As far as the question about the size; she's going from a med B to med C. The size is only part of it. I think she is more unhappy with the way they are shaped. For me, a handful is enough, but I guess she just wants to perk them

 

I totally agree that it's not the size but rather the shape that is important. If she's not happy with the shape, that's another story.

 

Beautiful breasts are not that common... a lot of them are awful... pear shape, pancakes, etc.

 

She's the one that has to make the decision and you'll have to live with it..

[Mustang Sally]

Beautiful breasts are not that common... a lot of them are awful... pear shape, pancakes, etc.

It strikes me for some reason today, that you are quite right about that.

Love it how you tell it like it is, Lizzie!

 

 

OP - I don't have implants, but have seen alot of the surgeries. I would agree with the others who've said expect her to be uncomfortable for awhile (days to weeks). I've heard plenty of women say that the sensation is less, after, as well. Of course, each woman is different. Hopefully she will not have a big issue with the decreased sensation aspect.

[Lizzie60]

It strikes me for some reason today, that you are quite right about that.

Love it how you tell it like it is, Lizzie!

 

 

OP - I don't have implants, but have seen alot of the surgeries. I would agree with the others who've said expect her to be uncomfortable for awhile (days to weeks). I've heard plenty of women say that the sensation is less, after, as well. Of course, each woman is different. Hopefully she will not have a big issue with the decreased sensation aspect.

 

TY MS... It's true in real life.. women, more often, have ugly boobs.. unless you look at Hustler or Playboy magazine.. and even then.. fake boobs are often soooo ugly too... especially when the big fake balloons seem to have been glued on the stomach over the 'bony' rib cage.. ewwww...

[Tomcat33]

yes they look nice, but feel like crap. visually stimulating, but not so much by the sense of touch.

 

 

well they are synthetic of course they will feel differenty. Who cares about that!!? Like that matters at ALL to men, visually if done right they look great. When you are in the act of having sex it's not like the feel of them makes or breaks "the act", it's what they look like that ads or takes away from the experience because if a woman feels inadequate because of her breasts her sexuality will be inhibitted. So the more confident she feels about her body the more sexual she will be so for the man what's more important a minx with fake feeling boobs or a snoozer with real feeling ones?

 

A few of my g/fs have fake boobs and they look great. I was blessed with natural big knockers but if I were flat I would definitely go for it. when I have children and if they end up sagging after breastfeeding I would get them done up for sure.

 

It's a sign of the times, it's absolutely NO biggie.(heh no pun intended..) Every woman that I know that has had them LOVES how they feel. Moreso than any other type of cosmetic surgery the breast implant is the most signficant one because a woman's femininity is defined by her breasts. So for those women that were born with flat chests it can be very emotionally off putting. I am not saying that a woman is less of a woman with flat boobs, what I am saying is that to a woman with flat boobs SHE may feel like less of a woman.

 

In terms of what will change, consider yourself a lucky guy she will more than likely be more sexual because she will feel great about herself.

 

Don't feel threatened DaddyO she is not doing this for the men she is doing this for herself because what human being does not like to be admired? in her head she prob thinks she will be sexier and if you think that, then you are.

Edited February 8, 2008 by Tomcat33

[StartingOver07]

We sure have a lot of purists here. Am I to understand that those who think that breast implants indicate body image problems and the need for psychiatric intervention do not do things to alter themselves? You know, like dying one's hair, wearing contact lenses (or even lasik surgery), getting a brazilian wax, or wearing make-up?

 

If someone will feel better about herself because her breasts are bigger/firmer/differently shaped, how is this any diffferent from any other primping and preening people do on a daily basis? Last I recall, no one was born with polished nails or a tatoo, but you rarely see the moralizing for those items that's been apparent in this thread.

[Star Gazer]

Anyone want to see my gorgeous boobs? I'll show ya what a FANTASTIC augmentation looks like!

[Tomcat33]

We sure have a lot of purists here. Am I to understand that those who think that breast implants indicate body image problems and the need for psychiatric intervention do not do things to alter themselves? You know, like dying one's hair, wearing contact lenses (or even lasik surgery), getting a brazilian wax, or wearing make-up?

 

If someone will feel better about herself because her breasts are bigger/firmer/differently shaped, how is this any diffferent from any other primping and preening people do on a daily basis? Last I recall, no one was born with polished nails or a tatoo, but you rarely see the moralizing for those items that's been apparent in this thread.

 

 

Excellent points!!

[JerseyShortie]

Beautiful breasts are not that common... a lot of them are awful... pear shape, pancakes, etc.

 

You only that that beautiful breasts aren't common because there has become a fake porno standard. If we didn't have the media telling us what a women should look like, and apparently what women should look like is having two basketballs stapled to her chest, then real breasts would be sexy. But we do live in a world that tells us real breasts aren't beautiful, and the masses buy into it. *shrug* We are slaves to the industry in that respect.

 

Moreso than any other type of cosmetic surgery the breast implant is the most signficant one because a woman's femininity is defined by her breasts. So for those women that were born with flat chests it can be very emotionally off putting. I am not saying that a woman is less of a woman with flat boobs, what I am saying is that to a woman with flat boobs SHE may feel like less of a woman

 

 

Sadly, there is some truth in that. I think there is such preasure on women from media, men's magazines, men themselves. Men are lucky that women accept them for who they are. Too bad men can't do the same.

 

Look at other cultures, such as France? They don't have the desire for fake looking boobs like we do here. It is really amazing how they accecpt the beauty of a woman's body for what it is, not for some photoshopped fantasy image the media created

 

I have a small chest and I feel beautiful and very feminine with my small boobs. I will never have to go through painful surgery to meet and "ideal" that isn't even realisitic and I will never sag. I also don't have a desire to look another manufactured women who was built like Frankenstein in a parts store.

 

Am I to understand that those who think that breast implants indicate body image problems and the need for psychiatric intervention do not do things to alter themselves? You know, like dying one's hair, wearing contact lenses (or even lasik surgery), getting a brazilian wax, or wearing make-up

 

I'm sorry but you really can't compare dying your hair to undergoing plastic surgery that is potentially life threatening during and after surgery all in the name to look more pornified.

 

I also would say that like the other poster mentioned. Breasts are something women have that men don't. And women are made to feel attacked for the way their breasts look, like they aren't good enough because they don't have two basketballs sitting on their chest. So it is a more sensitive issue at the heart of it. It's like women are attacked for beign women and that a way a woman is made, isn't good enough. It sends a very clear message. And we wonder why wome nare insecure? Maybe if women AND men respected a woman's body for what it was, men would get more confident sexual women that didn't need to maker herself into something plastic.

Edited February 8, 2008 by JerseyShortie

[Tomcat33]

You only that that beautiful breasts aren't common because there has become a fake porno standard. If we didn't have the media telling us what a women should look like, and apparently what women should look like is having two basketballs stapled to her chest, then real breasts would be sexy. But we do live in a world that tells us real breasts aren't beautiful, and the masses buy into it. *shrug* We are slaves to the industry in that respect.

 

Ample bossoms have been desirable and accentuated in the female figure ever since man has use of reason. All you have to do is look at ancient art but if don't want to go so far back in history, just look at turn of the century clothing things like corsettes and push up girdles were invented to accentuate a woman's breasts. Porn has nothing to do with the idea that women as well as men have always desired buxom bossoms. Marilyn Monroe was not a porn star neither were Bettie Paige or any of the many iconic female figures that marked the desirable proportions in woman that promotes extreme sexual desire and fertility. If you think about it flat chests can give milk just as much as a well rounded larger breast but a baby nestles in a woman's breast and this stays in our psychological makeup well into adulthood and children take to a mother's breasts. The ample breast is the utlimate sign of femininity/fertility and this works in us on a very unconscious level.

 

 

 

Sadly, there is some truth in that. I think there is such preasure on women from media, men's magazines, men themselves. Men are lucky that women accept them for who they are. Too bad men can't do the same.

 

I don't think that's true. I think a man can accept a woman for how she looks so long as the woman he chooses to admire also accepts herself in full splendor, there is something very sexy about a woman's selfconfidence and it can be totally infectious even if she is far from the typical ideal of "gorgeous". But I do know know that some men have a fetish of sorts, some guys are a$$ men, some are boob men, some are leg men, others blond/brunette men... to those who have very specific tastes you prob won't appeal unless you meet their fetish criteria. But in general most guys are more accepting of us than we are of ourselves.

 

Look at other cultures, such as France? They don't have the desire for fake looking boobs like we do here. It is really amazing how they accecpt the beauty of a woman's body for what it is, not for some photoshopped fantasy image the media created

 

Ironically, the tear drop saline implant was created in France. Not to mention Paris is the home of the Moulin Rouge. BUT it is also the home of "haute coutoure" and in high fashion, boobs just get in the way of displaying a piece of fashion art. Clothes just hang better on a flat chested woman. Oh an lest we forget that France is the home of the mistress....so every culture has it's ups and downs

 

I have a small chest and I feel beautiful and very feminine with my small boobs. I will never have to go through painful surgery to meet and "ideal" that isn't even realisitic and I will never sag. I also don't have a desire to look another manufactured women who was built like Frankenstein in a parts store.

 

I think that's maginificent, women should feel beautiful in their bodies and small breasts is not a bad thing at ALL. I wish I had small breasts everything looks better on small breasts. But some women just don't feel comfortable in their own skin, it can be very debilitating to have a low self image and if there is a corrective surgery that gives someone a boost of renewed confidence why would we shun those people for wanting that? don't we all do things to feel better about ourselves? a person who wants to get their MBA can be just as trivial if you really think about it. Why should someone aim to be more knowledgable or smarter if we are all supposed to be happy with how we are?

 

 

 

I also would say that like the other poster mentioned. Breasts are something women have that men don't. And women are made to feel attacked for the way their breasts look, like they aren't good enough because they don't have two basketballs sitting on their chest. So it is a more sensitive issue at the heart of it. It's like women are attacked for beign women and that a way a woman is made, isn't good enough. It sends a very clear message. And we wonder why wome nare insecure? Maybe if women AND men respected a woman's body for what it was, men would get more confident sexual women that didn't need to maker herself into something plastic.

 

I think women do this to themselves, we can't blame men for that.

Edited February 8, 2008 by Tomcat33
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[StartingOver07]

I'm sorry but you really can't compare dying your hair to undergoing plastic surgery that is potentially life threatening during and after surgery all in the name to look more pornified.

 

Well, you are the one objectifying this by suggesting that breast augmentation equates to being "pornified." So the very attitude you look down on is one you are promoting.

 

As for whether the surgery is dangerous, well, all surgeries carry some danger, but breast augmentation is generally safe and not considered life-threatening. Certainly, your odds of dying in your car are much higher.

 

Do you maintain a healthy weight? Eat only natural, un-processed foods? See a doctor for a check-up each year? Get 8 hours of sleep every night? Abstain from anything more than light drinking? Exercise -- both aerobically and anaerobically -- at least 5 times a week? If you cant say yes to all of these, you are taking a bigger risk with your health than is the woman who goes in for breast augmentation.

 

You don't want breat implants. Fine. Don't get them. But the notion that they are "pornographic" or somehow more dangerous than many of the other things that people routinely do is nonsense. It's just an excuse to moralise under the pretense of health.

 

Just curious: what about women who have lost a breast (or two) due to cancer? Is it ok for them to undergo surgery for breast reconstruction?

[ladyintights]

well they are synthetic of course they will feel differenty. Who cares about that!!? Like that matters at ALL to men, visually if done right they look great. When you are in the act of having sex it's not like the feel of them makes or breaks "the act", it's what they look like that ads or takes away from the experience because if a woman feels inadequate because of her breasts her sexuality will be inhibitted. So the more confident she feels about her body the more sexual she will be so for the man what's more important a minx with fake feeling boobs or a snoozer with real feeling ones?

 

A few of my g/fs have fake boobs and they look great. I was blessed with natural big knockers but if I were flat I would definitely go for it. when I have children and if they end up sagging after breastfeeding I would get them done up for sure.

 

It's a sign of the times, it's absolutely NO biggie.(heh no pun intended..) Every woman that I know that has had them LOVES how they feel. Moreso than any other type of cosmetic surgery the breast implant is the most signficant one because a woman's femininity is defined by her breasts. So for those women that were born with flat chests it can be very emotionally off putting. I am not saying that a woman is less of a woman with flat boobs, what I am saying is that to a woman with flat boobs SHE may feel like less of a woman.

 

In terms of what will change, consider yourself a lucky guy she will more than likely be more sexual because she will feel great about herself.

 

Don't feel threatened DaddyO she is not doing this for the men she is doing this for herself because what human being does not like to be admired? in her head she prob thinks she will be sexier and if you think that, then you are.

 

That's nice, but men like to TOUCH A LOT, squeeze etc IN THE SACK and it completely defeats that purpose.

[ladyintights]

Ample bossoms have been desirable and accentuated in the female figure ever since man has use of reason. All you have to do is look at ancient art but if don't want to go so far back in history, just look at turn of the century clothing things like corsettes and push up girdles were invented to accentuate a woman's breasts. Porn has nothing to do with the idea that women as well as men have always desired buxom bossoms. Marilyn Monroe was not a porn star neither were Bettie Paige or any of the many iconic female figures that marked the desirable proportions in woman that promotes extreme sexual desire and fertility. If you think about it flat chests can give milk just as much as a well rounded larger breast but a baby nestles in a woman's breast and this stays in our psychological makeup well into adulthood and children take to a mother's breasts. The ample breast is the utlimate sign of femininity/fertility and this works in us on a very unconscious level.

 

 

Are you saying that african tribal men have no use of "reason"? They don't look at breasts as a sexual object.

Whether you like it or not, men are conditioned by media sources and common community opinion to find certain things stimulating and attractive.

[annieo]

Are you saying that african tribal men have no use of "reason"? They don't look at breasts as a sexual object.

Whether you like it or not, men are conditioned by media sources and common community opinion to find certain things stimulating and attractive.

 

We're all affected by the norms of our society, men and women, to a certain extent. But the degree to which these ideals affect a person's sense of pride or self-worth varies from person to person, based on their own sense of self-esteem.

If men only wanted women with larger breasts, I would not have had as many lovers as I have had. I am definitely small, but sensitive, and I would never trade one tiny bit of sensation for a bigger look. Plus, it IS surgery. There can be complications. I can't imagine putting my life in danger, even a little bit, for something so unnecessary.

I must admit, however, that when I came into a little financial windfall a few years ago, I gave it some thought. But in the end, I knew I'd feel like I was walking around with the permanent equivalent of kleenex stuffed in my bra for the rest of my life. I'd feel fake, and I'd feel like I had hurt myself to live up to a bull**** standard. I couldn't do that to myself, no matter how many men would be impressed. I just don't care what people think that much, I guess, except me.

[Tomcat33]

That's nice, but men like to TOUCH A LOT, squeeze etc IN THE SACK and it completely defeats that purpose.

 

 

No it does not, ask any man who is playing with fake boobs and listen to him complain....NOT! :laugh:

 

You know who guys complain to about how fake boobs feel? To women with flat chests or women who have big breasts but are complaining themselves about fake boobs, guys will say that to make them feel better and avoid a fight because men can tell what things make women feel insecure....in that respect they are one step ahead of us. I'm sure SOME men are genuinely turned off since not everyone thinks the same about any subject but I would guess for the most part boobs are boobs to guys as long as they are there they are getting played with no matter what they feel like.

 

Now a days with the saline ones they are not ALL that different.

[Tomcat33]

Are you saying that african tribal men have no use of "reason"? They don't look at breasts as a sexual object.

Whether you like it or not, men are conditioned by media sources and common community opinion to find certain things stimulating and attractive.

 

How did you come up with that ridiculous statement about African tribal men...whhhhaaaaaaa? I seriously don't get your analogy.

What suggests that I think African tribal men have no use of reasons? they managed to subsist as a society for hundreds of years on the bare mininum survival tactics, moreson than anyone else on the planet...talk about powerful use of reason!!! And I may add they love big boobs too, it's instinctual.

 

What I said was that people have desired big boobs since man had the use of reason, in other words: forever. Porn on no porn of the 21st century. So it is no wonder the OP's wife would like to have them done and she should if this will make her feel better about herself. A man can't understand this from a psychological level and may confuse this with her wanting more sexual attention but it isn't necessarily like that.

It would be comperable to being born with flat testicles, sure you can still have a normal life without them but it makes you feel less of a man having almost non existent testies.

Edited February 10, 2008 by Tomcat33

[Arch]

Breast implants look un-natural and weird.

 

Small Real Breasts > Fake Huge Breasts.

[Tomcat33]

Breast implants look un-natural and weird.

 

Small Real Breasts > Fake Huge Breasts.

 

Of course they look UN-NATURAL they are fake, BUT they are pretty damned close to the real deal and some are almsot prefect.

You are missing the point, it's not a matter of picking real over fake.

 

Some women are born with those weird little all nipple breasts which look like miniature penises or mushrooms, the breast is ALL nipple and it is very unattractive. OR they are completely flat like a 13 yr old boy. If she wants to have corrective surgurey to have normal looking fair sized breasts, why would anyone stand in the way of that? Having close friends who had them done and one looked like a 13 yr old boy, I can totally see how devestating this can be.Her implant is soo good they look almost EXACTLY like mine (mine are real)

 

I think the pathology is in those women who have lovely b or c sized rounded little breast and they want to get a DD or F and their frame is for a woman of a B cup. THAT is all porn influenced and messed up.

Edited February 10, 2008 by Tomcat33

[Arch]

Of course they look UN-NATURAL they are fake, BUT they are pretty damned close to the real deal and some are almsot prefect.

You are missing the point, it's not a matter of picking real over fake.

 

Some women are born with those weird little all nipple breasts which look like miniature penises or mushrooms, the breast is ALL nipple and it is very unattractive. OR they are completely flat like a 13 yr old boy. If she wants to have corrective surgurey to have normal looking fair sized breasts, why would anyone stand in the way of that? Having close friends who had them done and one looked like a 13 yr old boy, I can totally see how devestating this can be.Her implant is soo good they look almost EXACTLY like mine (mine are real)

 

I think the pathology is in those women who have lovely b or c sized rounded little breast and they want to get a DD or F and their frame is for a woman of a B cup. THAT is all porn influenced and messed up.

 

There are also risks involved with any type of surgery, I tend to say its better not to have anything done unless its needed, but I guess I understand if its something that could be considered a genetic defect and bothers her that much.

 

Still the idea of sucking on plastic isn't too appealing :/ anything over a C is too big and looks weird IMO but thats just my personal preference.

[StartingOver07]

Still the idea of sucking on plastic isn't too appealing :/ anything over a C is too big and looks weird IMO but thats just my personal preference.

 

Last I heard, they place the implant under the skin, so there's no need to suck on plastic.

[Arch]

Last I heard, they place the implant under the skin, so there's no need to suck on plastic.

 

Yea but id always be reminded that its plastic under there, just feels weird :/