lexi29 Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 Can anyone who is/has dated someone with kids tell me what a good relationship while dating someone with children is supposed to be like? My bf and I have dated for over 3 years (with a break up recently). his son is 8 and lives with him full time. I"ve known his son since he was 2. I've been around pretty regularly for the last six years of his life. When my bf and I started dating he only had his son on weekends. But after six months that changed. I think I've adjusted well and I think his son has too. My only concern is that my bf and I don't get to spend much time with just the two of us. I'm not sure if this is hard on him or not? My bf doesn't get my full attention very often when his son is around. I know his son cares for me and I make sure to include him in everything and spend time with just him each day. Some of the things his son does is the other day we were standing in the living room (moving to a new apartment and I was helping them) and his son went up to his dad and hugged him and said "i love you" and his dad hugged him and said the same. Then it really suprised me because his son came over and gave me a hug and told me he loved me. Just out of nowhere. He's told me he loves me before but usually we say this when I'm leaving. One time he was watching me put makeup on in the bathroom and he asked me why I was putting it on and I joked "so I can look pretty" and he said (the 8 yr old) you look so pretty without that, you don't need anything on your face to look pretty." So cute. Also about once a week he tells me or his dad that he wants us to get married. He asked me the other day "why won't you marry my dad?" I spend a lot of time playing games with him, fixing him dinner etc. I don't want my bf to feel neglected so I try to cuddle with him and talk to him about his day but his son is always demanding/wanting my attention. Is this normal when dating someone with a child? Does the parent feel neglected or left out if you pay a lot of attention to their child? Link to post Share on other sites
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