fun2b Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 I have become very good "friends" with a man I used to work with. We worked together for 2 years and then I was laid off and started new employment shortly thereafter. We are both married and our relationship has always been fun, flirty and lots of chemistry by completely plutonic. I started devoloping feelings for him along the way but realized I would jeopardize my family so I have never said anything and I am ok with us being friends. Guys, my questions to you is, does this guy consider me a friend? He has very few friends none of which are girls. He calls me at least once a day along 3-4 emails. I do not even correspond with my girlfriends of 20 yrs that often. I am just a little confused and really do not know how to move forward as this continues. Are guys typically ok with having these types of relationships? Thank you for the input..... Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 Sounds like it's more than friendship. What type of flirting? What is said or written? Does he have pet names for you? Do you ever see each other outside of work arena? Usually, these relationships are a precursor to affairs. Has it been going on the entire 2 years? Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 you said he has very few friends.and has not crossed"that line" go on be friends.but then again i try to see the best in everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 How would you feel if the roles were reversed and your husband had this type of relationship with another woman? The fact that you have developed feelings for this man has now put your marriage in danger. Are you really willing to destroy everything you have? This is how it all begins. You need to discuss this with your husband open and honestly what is going on and what you are feeling toward this other man. If you do not then you know you are doing something that you should not be doing. If the roles were reversed wouldn't you want your husband to discuss this type of situation with you? Lies of omission are still lies. Link to post Share on other sites
niceconfusedgirl Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 this guy is into you. you need to sit him down and explain to him that you are married. and so is he. it isnt your fault, you seem to just trying to be nice to this guy. some men are lonely. it seems his marriage isnt going too well.talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
FlippinConfused Posted February 6, 2008 Share Posted February 6, 2008 Most men I have met, especially single ones, can't have friends who are women. I'd start cutting your interactions down now. You're heading down a dangerous path. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted February 6, 2008 Share Posted February 6, 2008 I'd say if there is nothing wrong with your M, you better stop corresponding with this co-worker - in any way. Even if there is a problem in your M - work it out with your H. You're developing feelings for this co-worker of yours - that's dangerous! Link to post Share on other sites
Amiss Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Why continue this friendship that clearly isn't? My boyfriend has a co worker who has become a friend. He developed a crush on her because she flirted with him , he asked her why she was flirting so much and she apologised. They are still friends but I don't agree with having opposite sex friends you have feelings for. It is the fox being put with the chickens situation Link to post Share on other sites
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