SushiX Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 (edited) Hello all. I recently found out my gf cheated on me. I've talked to a few friends about this but they say the same thing, so I thought I would ask this online and get some different opinions. My gf and I have dated for 2 yrs. We had a great relationship when it first started like any other romantic relationship, but began deteriorating after the first yr. because of differences. We would disagree on just about everything and that frustrated me alot. I had thought about leaving her several times before. And sometimes I yell at her for getting on my nerves and ignore her phone calls when she frustrated me. I know that's not a good thing! One day I found out she slept with another guy. It was a guy I knew too. I thought they were just friends and didn't think nothing of it. I found this out from another friend of mine, not from my gf. I confronted my gf about this and she did not tell me the truth. I had to drag it out of her little by little. At first she said they just went out to eat, then just kissed, then went couple bases. I asked her if they had sex. And she said NO. But I found out later they slept together twice. I was heartbroken. She lied to both me and him. She told him that me and her were officially through, that is why he went out with her. He felt betrayed too because he did like her also. When he found out we were still together, he didn't want to see her no more. She said she cheated because I was not always there for her and it was just a purely sexual attraction to him, not emotional. I don't know if she's telling me the truth. How can I believe her after all these lies! I don't think she can stop lying. She says she lied so as to not hurt my feelings. WTF?? Anyhow, I don't know why but I developed more feelings for her. I don't know if its lust, but I know it’s not love. She says she feels so guilty for this and that she cares for me alot and want things to be back to normal and to give her another chance. She even begged and cried for me back, but I just don't know. I still do care for her alot. I admit I didn't treat her like a princess, but did I really deserve this? I don't know if I'll ever see her the same anymore if we stay together. We have been talking about this almost everyday. Of course when I ask her, she would tell me the same thing over and over, that it was purely sexual attraction and a way of getting my attention and to treat her better. But how can I believe her. I’m trying very hard too, but all these doubts and suspicion come into my mind. Keep in mind the only reason I'm asking here is because I can't and don't believe her anymore! So the questions I have are: 1. Did she come back to me because the other guy doesn’t want her no more or because she really still cares for me? 2. Would she have dumped my ass and went for him if he and I didn't find about this? I don’t know if she really liked him or was it just purely sexual attraction. 3. Does she truly feel guilty about this or just staying with me only because she hurt my feelings? 4. Should I stay with someone I cannot trust anymore? Could she be trusted later? Any mature replies would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! Edited February 3, 2008 by SushiX Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 1. Did she come back to me because the other guy doesn’t want her no more or because she really still cares for me? 2. Would she have dumped my ass and went for him if he and I didn't find about this? I don’t know if she really liked him or was it just purely sexual attraction. 3. Does she truly feel guilty about this or just staying with me only because she hurt my feelings? 4. Should I stay with someone I cannot trust anymore? Could she be trusted later? Any mature replies would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! 1. Probably neither. She is just shopping for someone better right now. 2. Doesnt matter which guy. Eventually she will find a bigger better deal and dump you. 3. Probably both. I'd bet she feels guilty... but not remorseful, big difference there. 4. No you should not! Maybe she can be trusted later, maybe not, are you willing to waste your time, life, and energy just to find her cheating again? Bottom line - Learn to treat women better, but don't waste that lesson on this one! Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted February 4, 2008 Share Posted February 4, 2008 Why put yourself through this? She slept with the guy twice, which at least means that she did it , had time to think about you (and maybe feel a little bad), but then when the chance came up again, she obviously didn't feel bad enough about what she'd doing to you, because she did it again!. Personally I wouldn't stay with a cheater because I know myself, and I know that if I stayed with them, everytime their phone rang, everytime they were "out with friends", I'd be wondering if they're hooking up with someone and playing me for a fool - and that would just drive me insane, so I personally wouldn't keep them. Besides, you said that you guys don't agree on much anyways, drop the skank, and find someone more deserving of your trust and affections. Link to post Share on other sites
becauseofyou Posted February 4, 2008 Share Posted February 4, 2008 It doesn't sound like there's much in it for either of you. You disagree, she gets on your nerves,you don't trust her, she's cheated.. it doesn't sound like a perfect match. I'd say end it and find someone you're truly happy with! Link to post Share on other sites
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