natch Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 This is gonna seem so strange but i need some advice/help...whatever. I have been married for 4 months now, we were both virgins when we got married. All is well, the sex is great . We had kinda decided to put oral sex on the shelf initially...now I am getting more curious about it. Mind you I do not have a clue Most of my married friends are really 'private' and I wouldn't dare ask them. Anyone out there to help..? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 Start with "dry-kissing" the - uh - nether regions, and go from there. Both of you do it to each other - take turns. And TALK about it. Tell each other what turns you on. Communication is the key here. "Learn" each other. Sex is one of the greatest joys of life. And it's a great way to keep your life partner happy, and treating you good. Best of luck. If the love is there, you'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 If you or your partner is embarrased at first. Try everything with the lights off. IT's quite nice and does not give you a visual, hence, you will feel like you have blind folds on. Him servicing you.... Sit on a chair and inch your bum as far to the edge as possible and spread your legs. Ask him to rub you with his hands, fingers. Rubbing is a great appetizer to the "all day buffet." Then tell him to french kiss you as he would your mouth. While giving you kisses up and down your private area. Ask him to put his tongue into you and then maybe a finger while he kisses your clitoris. Keep doing this and it will feel amazing. When you feel comfortable start doing it in bed, the floor or anywhere you feel comfortable. For him; Have him stand up with you kneeling in front of him. Use your hand to move up and down his staft. Let your tongue and lips emcompas the head of his penis. Use your tongue to lick the underhead and use your lips for suction. Also, spit on his penis for lubricant and ease of suction. Keep doing this and go a bit faster and faster as you become more at ease and he will respond with deep breaths and sighs. Once you feel comfortable, use your eyes (look up at him) breasts and hair to help you with the visual effects for him. Ask him to hold your hair and caress your head to help direct your pleasure-giving. Try that and report back to us..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author natch Posted February 7, 2008 Author Share Posted February 7, 2008 thanks ladies... will let you know how it goes... Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 All is well, the sex is great . Don't screw it up by getting kinky, now. Don't forget anal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author natch Posted February 8, 2008 Author Share Posted February 8, 2008 er, anal...i don't think so Link to post Share on other sites
blackbird Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 There was a thread recently with lots of BJ tips here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t143405/ My tips for giving your guy head: Tie your hair back if it's long. Use your hand, wrapped snugly but not choking-tight around the base, pressure more on the palm then on the fingers. I'll sometimes use just the thumb and index & middle fingers around the base, so that there's more room for my mouth, or I will just extend my ring & pinky finger when I go down, then wrap them back around when I go up, if that makes any sense. Make sure there's plenty of saliva lubrication. I don't like to spit, so I will generally start with licking everything, then having just the head in my mouth, getting that nice and wet, and using my hand below the head to move the moisture down more and more until everything is slick. In the beginning, you want to vary things up, use different motions, take breaks to lick up and down the shaft and on the balls and elsewhere, concentrate on the head alone for a while, try removing the hand and takingetc, but as he gets closer to orgasm, he will probably want a steady, fairly fast rhythm with your mouth and hand working together. Don't just go up-down, up-down, incorporate a twisting motion to your hand and mouth, working in opposite directions, while going up and down. You can do a nodding motion too. Have fun and experiment with different motions, different speeds. Have a sense of rhythm. Tell your husband to tell you what feels good for him. Link to post Share on other sites
gottagogetta Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 the only advise i have for you is watching porn. not for the use of excitement, but for a learning experience. they say the more you do it, the better you become at it, but you have to know where to start as well. you have to both be on the same page as far as what you want. if one doesnt, then it will cause the one that is not getting it to feel soo left out from the rest of the world. if your husband doesnt, then you like me are screwed.., so keep tring to find a way to convince your spouse how important it is to you and your relationship. im not saying that porn is the answer, but if you see what you need to do to please or be pleased, then it will make things alot more fun.. dont make it the meaning of the relationship and its a need, but, make it fun. dont jump into it too fast. learn as you go and make each other happy. comprimising is the only best thing in a relationship. This is gonna seem so strange but i need some advice/help...whatever. I have been married for 4 months now, we were both virgins when we got married. All is well, the sex is great . We had kinda decided to put oral sex on the shelf initially...now I am getting more curious about it. Mind you I do not have a clue Most of my married friends are really 'private' and I wouldn't dare ask them. Anyone out there to help..? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 We had kinda decided to put oral sex on the shelf initially...now I am getting more curious about it. Mind you I do not have a clue Hi there. In the past, I found sexuality.org to have lots of useful "tips and techniques" (tho I haven't visited the site for a while.) My suggestion would be to keep it light and playful...whatever feels good to both the giver and receiver is "right" -- and there really are no "wrongs" if you follow what feels right . Enjoy and have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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