To Women Who Left Their Husbands

[deedeelove]

How many of you out there have left your husband -- not because he was abusive, cheated on you or that you found somebody else or any of those "standard" reasons -- but simply because you just weren't in love? Do you have children and how did you handle telling them? Were you concerned about how you would make it financially but did it anyway? And are there any success stories out there?

 

I need some help because this is the delimma I'm facing right now. Scared to death to make this move. Married for the wrong reasons -- everybody thought he was the perfect guy, everyone thought we were the perfect couple because we were such good friends but that's all I really saw him as -- a good friend. I have had a very difficult time over the years being intimate with him because we are just off in that way. I couldn't look in him the eye at our wedding and we had sex once on our honeymoon -- not because he didn't want to but because I didn't so he just didn't bother me with it. We were like buddies on vacation. I'm very passionate and romantic and he's more into the sex part of it and his idea of being passionate is just different than mine. I'm simply not turned on by him and never have been. Even after 13 years together. I talked myself into being attracted to him but deep down it has been wearing on me. I'd rather be alone than be lonely in my marriage. We most certainly are not emotionally connected. Right now I feel like I'm raising three children instead of two because he is at the same emotional level as my seven year old. He's trying very hard but everything he does just makes it worse, which confirms how I truly feel about him.

 

Please don't post if you're a "stay in the marriage no matter what it takes because society tells us to" or "don't be selfish and chase after your dreams, you have a family now so suck it up" person. I would prefer to hear from women who are in my same boat. I'm not a bad person. I just want to be true to myself so that I can be the best mom to my children and being in a passionate-less, romantic-less, non-emotional marriage doesn't seem like it serves anyone. Thank you.

[Chrome Barracuda]

How many of you out there have left your husband -- not because he was abusive, cheated on you or that you found somebody else or any of those "standard" reasons -- but simply because you just weren't in love? Do you have children and how did you handle telling them? Were you concerned about how you would make it financially but did it anyway? And are there any success stories out there?

 

I need some help because this is the delimma I'm facing right now. Scared to death to make this move. Married for the wrong reasons -- everybody thought he was the perfect guy, everyone thought we were the perfect couple because we were such good friends but that's all I really saw him as -- a good friend. I have had a very difficult time over the years being intimate with him because we are just off in that way. I couldn't look in him the eye at our wedding and we had sex once on our honeymoon -- not because he didn't want to but because I didn't so he just didn't bother me with it. We were like buddies on vacation. I'm very passionate and romantic and he's more into the sex part of it and his idea of being passionate is just different than mine. I'm simply not turned on by him and never have been. Even after 13 years together. I talked myself into being attracted to him but deep down it has been wearing on me. I'd rather be alone than be lonely in my marriage. We most certainly are not emotionally connected. Right now I feel like I'm raising three children instead of two because he is at the same emotional level as my seven year old. He's trying very hard but everything he does just makes it worse, which confirms how I truly feel about him.

 

Please don't post if you're a "stay in the marriage no matter what it takes because society tells us to" or "don't be selfish and chase after your dreams, you have a family now so suck it up" person. I would prefer to hear from women who are in my same boat. I'm not a bad person. I just want to be true to myself so that I can be the best mom to my children and being in a passionate-less, romantic-less, non-emotional marriage doesn't seem like it serves anyone. Thank you.

 

 

Hmmm if you felt that way about him, why didnt you tell him. It sounds like your in the wrong forum to me, that's my guess.

[SeraBella]

I didn't think society really said to stay in a marriage anymore.

 

And if the feelings are so off on your end, wouldn't you think they are on his end, as well? Is he satisfied? Do you know how he feels about it?

[guessjeans]

I left my common law husband 4 yrs ago after 26 yrs of being together. Our son was 16 yrs old at the time. I met him when I was 16 yrs old, and we moved in together when I was 17 yrs old, 6 months shy of my 18th birthday. He was 21 yr old at the time.

 

He was my first everything. I loved him so, but I was emotionally starved. I truly felt unloved, and unwanted because of his insecurities. Perhaps I fed on them because I am very independent. But I never stopped loving him. When i look back at it now, I truly believe that someone up there looked down on us and said these two beautiful ppl have lost their way. And life sent us each on a journey.

 

I can tell ya, when I left, i wasnt looking back. I knew it was over. I was tired of feeling unloved, I felt at times he just didnt like me anymore. I had my own real independence now. I could purchase what I wanted, and not have to record the expenditure in a cheque book. Little things that bothered me, I was feel from. But most of all, I was free of the fights, the name calling each other...we just got lost.

 

My journey began growing up and growing up quickly! I had to. Failure was not an option. I work 2 jobs to make ends meet. I bought my first home all by myself. I was growing up, paying bills..something the ex always did.

 

His journey what turned out was to look after his elderly parents. In the 4 yrs since we split, he moved his parents in about 1 yr after we separated. I had a new found strength in me. I cant explain it. I felt I have grown taller, stronger, happier, its been tough i wont sugar coat it, but i survived.

 

During my journey, I discovered something very amazing, something very surprising, that I was still very deeply, probably more deeply in love with this man that I was when I met him. We had remained good friends since the separation and that I feel is very important especially when there are children involved.

 

I hesitated telling him how I felt because I didnt want to make him choose between his parents and his family, so I decided not to say anything until he was alone again, and go on with my life and whatever happens is going to happen.

 

I feel that if I didnt have this time apart, we would have never made it..or we would have just coasted in the relationship. And who knows, one day one of us wakes up and decides the grass is greener on the other side and leave for someone else they have met. That would be devasating to deal with that. We were both unhappy, we had both lost our way and I believe to this day, I did the right thing in leaving.

 

I have since told my ex how I feel but he is with another woman now and is comfortable with her. I was heartbroken yes, but I know he still loves me very much and did say as much as he could see himself in a relationship with me again, but has trust issues with me.

 

I cant tell you how important my life has changed since I left and how much I have learned about myself, my life and what I am truly capable of. I pushed myself to my limits and I survived. And you will too.

 

If you are unhappy, and if you feel that being alone would be better than being with the wrong person, then you are making the right choice to leave. No one knows where their journey is going to take them, but I'll tell ya, its one hell of a ride!

 

As for me, I am still in love with my ex and he is still with his 10 yr old than me g/f who he says he will never fall in love with. It is his first relationship since we split and its someone he works with. I am just starting to date, because I feel I have the confidence to do that again. I have gone back to the gym, and i gotta tell ya, for 47 yrs old..i stil got it..well in certain places...but you will too. Dont fear the unknown. The unknown will truly guide you and provide you with the tools to grow and be able to cope with anything that is thrown at you. Great love involves great risk. And if love is want you are looking for, then it entails risk.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Alot of times the Walk away spouse regrets their decision.

 

Their married life wasnt that bad, And the man who they still love(d)(s) have and will move on.

 

I suspect that if she leaves she'll miss him and regret the family that they could have had together.

[Lizzie60]

I was exactly in your situation about 11 years ago... I left my common-law spouse after 18 years living together and 11 years of secretly dating before that... for a total of 29 yrs.

 

For the last 12 years of my life with him, it was boring... I just felt like I was living with my brother... I like him like a friend not like a lover anymore.

 

Sex was a real sacrifice.

 

I finally did the jump with about 2 weeks notice. I took everyone, including him, by surprise... even my 12 yr old son.

 

I do NOT regret having left him but I regret HOW I did it, especially for my son. I should have consulted a specialist or something because I know I didn't do it right.

 

I regret still to this day.. I hurt him very much. In my case, it was too soon, too quick... only 2 weeks... and I'm out of the house.. It was brutal for my son.. but I only realized it after.

 

I thought he was much stronger but I was sooo wrong.

 

I should have taken the time to explain everything.. but then I know he would have never been ready for me to leave... It's not easy, especially for the children... my daughter was already out of the home (university).

 

Make sure, for your kids' sake, that you do it right... be honest with them, straight-forward... I should have done that.. then.

[Mr. Lucky]

Please don't post if you're a "stay in the marriage no matter what it takes because society tells us to" or "don't be selfish and chase after your dreams, you have a family now so suck it up" person. I would prefer to hear from women who are in my same boat. I'm not a bad person. I just want to be true to myself so that I can be the best mom to my children and being in a passionate-less, romantic-less, non-emotional marriage doesn't seem like it serves anyone. Thank you.

It's too bad your H can't post here, because I really feel that it takes 2 people to create this kind of impasse. It would be interesting to hear the other side of the story...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Findingme]

How many of you out there have left your husband -- not because he was abusive, cheated on you or that you found somebody else or any of those "standard" reasons -- but simply because you just weren't in love? Do you have children and how did you handle telling them? Were you concerned about how you would make it financially but did it anyway? And are there any success stories out there?

 

I need some help because this is the delimma I'm facing right now. Scared to death to make this move. Married for the wrong reasons -- everybody thought he was the perfect guy, everyone thought we were the perfect couple because we were such good friends but that's all I really saw him as -- a good friend. I have had a very difficult time over the years being intimate with him because we are just off in that way. I couldn't look in him the eye at our wedding and we had sex once on our honeymoon -- not because he didn't want to but because I didn't so he just didn't bother me with it. We were like buddies on vacation. I'm very passionate and romantic and he's more into the sex part of it and his idea of being passionate is just different than mine. I'm simply not turned on by him and never have been. Even after 13 years together. I talked myself into being attracted to him but deep down it has been wearing on me. I'd rather be alone than be lonely in my marriage. We most certainly are not emotionally connected. Right now I feel like I'm raising three children instead of two because he is at the same emotional level as my seven year old. He's trying very hard but everything he does just makes it worse, which confirms how I truly feel about him.

 

Please don't post if you're a "stay in the marriage no matter what it takes because society tells us to" or "don't be selfish and chase after your dreams, you have a family now so suck it up" person. I would prefer to hear from women who are in my same boat. I'm not a bad person. I just want to be true to myself so that I can be the best mom to my children and being in a passionate-less, romantic-less, non-emotional marriage doesn't seem like it serves anyone. Thank you.

 

 

I just joined and am in pretty much the same boat and it bites! I've tried talking to him, hasn't done a lot of good. Oh yeah day 1 was great, day 2 a little less so, day 3 even less and so on. Pretty much just like it was before we talked. I've had people tell me the same stuff. I don't want to hurt my hubby, he is a great guy. I don't want to hurt my kids, I don't want to hurt anyone, I just want to laugh again and feel like I can breathe!

[sadhubby]

run away its all about you isnt it. findyourselfs let your emotions make your disicions . to hell with your husbands its all about your happyness right. after all you have all just gotton bored and wish to have a freash breath of air , whats wrong with that ? maybe you could find someone new have you looked on the internet ? my wife did and he has already dumped her . green green grass its all brown out there if you have a good man keep him !!! need some space go stay with your parents for ahwile before you jump.

[Nomad1]

I don't blame people for choosing to leave if they feel so terribly unhappy. In the long run, it is better for all concerned. HOWEVER, people need to be absolutely frank with each other throughout the falling out of love stage, especially if there are children involved. There is nothing worse than post-divorce hostility between parents. If people develop an interest in a third party, the other spouse must be told before the interest is acted upon. It is possible to develop a positive relationship between divorced parents. The children usually appreciate it.

 

Unless abuse is the cause of a break-up, people usually regret the decision to leave the marriage, particularly when there is uncertainty about whether to stay or go.

 

Since the break-up with my wife, I have had several dates with very nice women. What I have really liked about the experience so far is that I don't have to commit to any of them. I intend to keep it that way.

 

Take care

 

Nomad1

[Alpine123]

All I have to say is why did you marry in the first place. Doesn't anyone believe in trying first? I swear marriage in this generation as just turned into a friggin date anymore. People give up to easy and dont put out the effort. May be your un-happy because of you not your H.

[D-Lish]

There's no shame in falling out of love with someone. What would be a shame is if you stayed in a loveless unsatisfying marriage for all the wrong reasons.

 

I was with my ex husband for 8 years intotal- only married for a year and a half before we decided to have a trial seperation. We were bext friends and we loved one another dearly- but the passion and romance was gone.... we hadn't had sex in over a year and our relationship became more of a brother-sister kind of closeness rather than a romance.

 

Shortly after we decided to seperate and were still living together- he got another woman pregnant. That was the defining moment for me....and the push I needed to get out.

 

I think the biggest obstacle for me was the fear that people would judge me as a failure because I couldn't keep the marriage together.

 

regardless of the pregnancy- I know we would have gotten a divorce. I love him and respect him to this day... but I don't love him the way two lovers should in order to have a happy fulfilling relationship.

 

I think if you are unhappy, that leaving is your best option. There is no shame in that. I am glad that I left, even though it was one of the hardest things I had to do.

[Arch]

All I have to say is why did you marry in the first place. Doesn't anyone believe in trying first? I swear marriage in this generation as just turned into a friggin date anymore. People give up to easy and dont put out the effort. May be your un-happy because of you not your H.

 

QFE, people no longer hold true to the commitments they make, society is degenerating into a cesspool.

[D-Lish]

QFE, people no longer hold true to the commitments they make, society is degenerating into a cesspool.

 

People don't NEED to stay in loveless or abusive marriages anymore because we are no longer slaves to the antiquated notions of judgement or shame because things aren't working out.

 

People deserve to be happy. The institution of marriage is changing.... People are entitled to be happy, and if leaving a marriage makes someone happy- so be it.

 

I watched my grandparents grow old together hating one another.... he had engaged in numerous affairs and he was physically and emotionally abusive to her. She stayed with him because she didn't feel like she had an option of leaving. Had she done so, she would have been chastised by the church and her community. SO her alternative was to remain unhappy in a relationship until the day she died. My grandfather didn't even visit her while she was on her deathbed. She died a lonley unhappy woman. I for one believe she would have thrived and found great happiness had she had an option of leaving.

 

Just because you make a comittment to someone at an alter doesn't mean you have to endure years of unhappiness in order to appease the community. That's just silly.

[Arch]

People don't NEED to stay in loveless or abusive marriages anymore because we are no longer slaves to the antiquated notions of judgement or shame because things aren't working out.

 

People deserve to be happy. The institution of marriage is changing.... People are entitled to be happy, and if leaving a marriage makes someone happy- so be it.

 

I watched my grandparents grow old together hating one another.... he had engaged in numerous affairs and he was physically and emotionally abusive to her. She stayed with him because she didn't feel like she had an option of leaving. Had she done so, she would have been chastised by the church and her community. SO her alternative was to remain unhappy in a relationship until the day she died. My grandfather didn't even visit her while she was on her deathbed. She died a lonley unhappy woman. I for one believe she would have thrived and found great happiness had she had an option of leaving.

 

Just because you make a comittment to someone at an alter doesn't mean you have to endure years of unhappiness in order to appease the community. That's just silly.

 

Don't make a commitment if you can't keep it

[D-Lish]

Don't make a commitment if you can't keep it

 

So if you make a comittment to someone who turns out to be physically or emotionally abusive after a few years of marrying them you should stay with that person because.... well because why???

 

If you marry someone who starts abusing alcohol or has multiple affairs.... you should stay with them because you made a comittment to them?

 

My best friend left her abusive husband after he pushed her down the stairs when she was 4 months pregnant..... Your perspective is that she should have stayed with him because she made a comittment to him?

 

That's utter insanity.... that you feel someone should endure misery or put themselves at risk in order to preserve the institution of marriage.

 

Explain the logic behind your assertion.

[Arch]

So if you make a comittment to someone who turns out to be physically or emotionally abusive after a few years of marrying them you should stay with that person because.... well because why???

 

If you marry someone who starts abusing alcohol or has multiple affairs.... you should stay with them because you made a comittment to them?

 

My best friend left her abusive husband after he pushed her down the stairs when she was 4 months pregnant..... Your perspective is that she should have stayed with him because she made a comittment to him?

 

That's utter insanity.... that you feel someone should endure misery or put themselves at risk in order to preserve the institution of marriage.

 

Explain the logic behind your assertion.

 

People wouldn't cheat if they were committed, actually none of the things you said would occur if both parties were committed.

 

Don't get married if you don't plan on being able to stay married, divorce is a last resort and the whole "I just don't love him/her" **** is not enough.

 

You get married, you have kids. You exhaust all possible means to keep that marriage intact, that applies to both people involved.

Edited February 13, 2008 by Arch

[D-Lish]

seeing as though both the world we live in and the people that inhabit it are imperfect.... it's impossible to know what a relationship might entail years down the road.

 

I don't think people stand at the altar and make a comittment while they ponder breaking their vows and leaving that person one day. I think people go in with the best intentions and mean what they say when they enter into a marriage.

 

How can you possibly forsee the future when you enter into a union that seems so utterly right and perfect at the time.

 

Remaining in a marriage that makes both parties miserable is a pretty good reason to dissolve your vows. Everyone is entitled to live the happiest life possible, if that means leaving your spouse because you are really unhappy- then the law allows people to do it.

 

You're making it sound so black and white, and the truth is there is too much grey to make such a concrete statement that you shouldn't get married if you don't comitt to "forever". Forever is a really long time to be unhappy.

[Arch]

seeing as though both the world we live in and the people that inhabit it are imperfect.... it's impossible to know what a relationship might entail years down the road.

 

I don't think people stand at the altar and make a comittment while they ponder breaking their vows and leaving that person one day. I think people go in with the best intentions and mean what they say when they enter into a marriage.

 

How can you possibly forsee the future when you enter into a union that seems so utterly right and perfect at the time.

 

Remaining in a marriage that makes both parties miserable is a pretty good reason to dissolve your vows. Everyone is entitled to live the happiest life possible, if that means leaving your spouse because you are really unhappy- then the law allows people to do it.

 

You're making it sound so black and white, and the truth is there is too much grey to make such a concrete statement that you shouldn't get married if you don't comitt to "forever". Forever is a really long time to be unhappy.

 

Don't get married if you feel you are incapable of holding to that commitment, marriage is for life or at least should be. Life is not just about happiness its about fulfilling your duties.

[Findingme]

seeing as though both the world we live in and the people that inhabit it are imperfect.... it's impossible to know what a relationship might entail years down the road.

 

I don't think people stand at the altar and make a comittment while they ponder breaking their vows and leaving that person one day. I think people go in with the best intentions and mean what they say when they enter into a marriage.

 

How can you possibly forsee the future when you enter into a union that seems so utterly right and perfect at the time.

 

Remaining in a marriage that makes both parties miserable is a pretty good reason to dissolve your vows. Everyone is entitled to live the happiest life possible, if that means leaving your spouse because you are really unhappy- then the law allows people to do it.

 

You're making it sound so black and white, and the truth is there is too much grey to make such a concrete statement that you shouldn't get married if you don't comitt to "forever". Forever is a really long time to be unhappy.

 

 

I've noticed there are a FEW people, (not everyone, I've had some great responses) who just read and respond to these threads to make us feel like crap because we want a little happiness. Not saying that everyone who is thinking about splitting should just go for it BUT at the same time why should people stay miserable because at 1 time they said I do. What about the love, honor, and cherish? I was pretty much ignored for 15 years while hubby did things for everyone else leaving me at home with 3 kids and no car. Where is the love, honor, and cherish in that? Anyway think you are hitting a brick wall with this one.

[Alpine123]

May be I was a little stern but for no reason was my opinion wrong. I just ask if your husband ignored for 15 years what did YOU do about it besides leaving. Abusive marriages, infidelity, absolutely, I 'd be at the attny office in the morning. There is just too many other cases here @LS and everywhere else that couples just don't put forth an effort. If you say I do then you do. I just wish both sides would honor marriage more than they do (IMO).

[Alpine123]

How many of you out there have left your husband -- not because he was abusive, cheated on you or that you found somebody else or any of those "standard" reasons -- but simply because you just weren't in love?

 

 

This is the first sentence of this thread ---why wouldn't that stike a nerve or two, especially for a man or woman that loved his spouse unconditionally and HONORED his or her marriage.

[Surfjon]

I like how chrome put it...........

 

We victims of the WAW syndrome do ok finally...............

 

I lurk here mostly, reading, thinking.........

 

My wife of 20 years walked 6 months ago with my kids, left me in a house full of ghosts to slowly dissolve, but I didn't.

 

I went full N/C except about "kid matters".

I fell apart, then slowly began to rebuild, I started playing music out again. I'm a solo acoustic guitar artist and threw myself (literally) back on the streets playing on the sidewalks, I slowly picked up gigs and started meeting people. For 4 months I couldn't look at girls, they would approach me all the time, but I was still hanging on for her, like the Jack J. song.... "Sitting, Waiting, Wishing".....................

 

About the 5th month, I quit sitting, waiting, wishing and got on with life.

I have no "girlfriend", nor do I want one.

 

I do have lots of girls I go out with though, it's stress free, fun and the sex is abundant and finally REALLY GOOD!!!!

 

Now, the other side..............

 

I'm moving on, don't want her back now, i like my single life and like when my kids are with me, I'm a better dad with her gone and her control and obsessive issues and kook family.

 

I find now it's she missing me, she's having second thoughts and I say "GOOD"!!

 

She didn't care when I was falling apart, she wasn't with me the times I considered driving my bike off an overpass just to be done, now she cares?? I begged her the first couple days to go to counseling, stay in the house, think about the impact on our kids, think it over but she bolted anyway...........................

 

I hope she finds what she left me to seek, she gave me a gift by leaving me, I didn't see it at first but now I do.

 

Good luck all!!!

[Findingme]

May be I was a little stern but for no reason was my opinion wrong. I just ask if your husband ignored for 15 years what did YOU do about it besides leaving. Abusive marriages, infidelity, absolutely, I 'd be at the attny office in the morning. There is just too many other cases here @LS and everywhere else that couples just don't put forth an effort. If you say I do then you do. I just wish both sides would honor marriage more than they do (IMO).

 

First, who said I left? I am still here trying to make this marriage work! Don't assume.

 

Neglect to me is almost as bad an abuse. What have I done? I've followed him from post to post while he was in the military, tried to forgive when he cheated. I gave birth to 3 kids and practically raised them alone. I stayed at home till they were in school all day because we didn't want daycare raising them, most of the time at home ALL the time with no car and few friends.

 

I gave up my dreams, my family, friends, everything so he could come back home and live in his Dads back pocket. I've kept my mouth shut while his family treated me like crap to keep the peace.

 

Now that I work and make my own money and am pulling away he wants to be in my back pocket. Where was he when I was so dang depressed and lonely and BEGGING for him to throw some crumbs my way? He was with his Dad or his friends because he's such a nice guy he doesn't know how to say no to anyone but me. If I sound bitter it's because I am. I said 15 years because the last 3 he's paid more attention to me. I work at the same place he does and he hears people talk about me and I guess he realized I am not just Mom and his wife, I am a person and not so unattractive and suddenly he's jealous. My son in-laws cousin is in prison and I write to him. I am 1 of the few that does and he hates it because when he was in HS he said I was hot. Give me a break! He doesn't even realize this guy is trying to help save his marriage too! He thinks we shouldn't talk to anyone about it.

 

I am trying to make it not too late, when about 75% of me just wants out! So please do not judge what you don't know.

 

I appologize if this sounds harsh but we come on this MB to get help, not trashed for being honest. There is more to honoring the vows than not screwing someone else or beating up the SO.

[guessjeans]

Wow! A lot of hostility towards the other half. I left my common law husband 4 yrs ago. Things got nuts. And at the time you are going through all this crap, you dont care how it started, what started it, you just want it to stop.

 

Do we take ppl that love us for granted? Im sure we do at times. Do we stop communicating? Yep, im sure we all do that too. We argue about stupid things, things that altimately dont have anything to do with the root of the anger. Its not about forgetting to pick someone up at the store for them, or stacking the dishwasher incorrectly, or a child not doing his chores and one parent lets him go outside while the other feels undermined. Its about problems that sit and stew and stew for months, even years. I truly believe that in a lot of cases, we dont realize what went wrong until we are separated, and take years to look over what exactly our role was in the entire breakdown.

 

How many ppl have you heard that once divorced, separated, loss of a relationship of any type, look back on some and say I wish I knew then, what I know now. That only comes with distance and forgiveness, and sometimes takes years to accomplish.

 

I didnt leave our relationship of 26 yrs because I didnt love my ex very much, I left because simply, we just lost our way. I know that now. I realize that now. I understand why i reacted the way I did, and the way he did. Im more grown up than I was 4 yrs ago, and trust me, going through a breakup of 26 yrs, been with that man since I was 16 yrs old, will teach you to grow up pretty fast! You may think right now that YOU are right! and they are WRONG! But your not, they are not! You stopped caring about the others needs, the others feelings, the others wants. You stopped communicating what you expect or need out of a relationship. You coasted through years of a relationship, which happens when children start coming into the picture. Then one day you realize that no time was spent on the relationship. That you feel you are total strangers, that they arent the ppl they were when you first met them.

 

Take it from me. I still love my ex husband very much. Probably more now, then I did 30 yrs ago. I am more stronger, grown more as a person, more able now to see things from his point of view. I thought he stopped loving me because of his insecurites. He would always put up a wall to protect himself. But I look back, and he was always there for me. Always! No matter what I did, no matter what I ever said, he was always there for me. Maybe he couldnt communicate it, and then I couldnt see it, i was focused on the words, but he always did love me, no matter what I said or did.

 

I have now lost him to someone else. Do i regret leaving? No..never! I would have never realized what I realize now if I had stayed. I would have never been the person I am today if I hadnt left. I am proud of the person I am today. I have accomplished a lot. Unfortunately, I realized all this too late and he now loves another woman. Dont make it too late for you too.

 

guess