kandi13 Posted June 26, 2003 Share Posted June 26, 2003 Ok heres the situation.....I met a guy last summer, and to make a very long story short we went out, and at that time it was great but now that I think back to it all....it wasnt worth it, Id rather him as a friend....well he ended up moving away, we kept in touch, I talked to him everyday. But him and I had a very very very weird relationship.....it was based on chances....I treated him like ****, and he would give me chances to change...I never did take it to consideration though.....and I never did change and now I ended up losing him. But its wasnt like oh im the bad guy here its not like dat. He did do some **** to deserve some of what I did to him but not all. He didnt treat me all that good, only when we were together....that I have 2 say is the only time he treated me good. Well we went out 3 times, he wanted it to work.....but now that I do look back it was working out the alst time really it was, the only prob was a trust issue....well I lost him both as a friend/ex. Now that he is gone, it doesnt hurt that bad but then again it does....but the weird part is if he wanted me back Id say hit the road....but it just hurts. I guess its just the thought he wants me back to actually considering him back. Id feel good about myself I guess. its very confusing. Another thing is my parents didnt like him, and his parents didnt like me. Well thats not completely true him mom liked me....it was him stepdad. He was a mean person all he did was make peoples life misreable. When todd and I went out he treated me like him lil princess. His stepdad saw it everyone did. He didnt like it at all. Now if u talk to him stepdad you would see a very convincing man. Well whenever we talked his stepdad got mad and made mean comments bout me, todd use to stick up for me but then later on he didnt say ****!! I truely think his stepdad brainwashed todd to hate me, weird I know, but somedays todd would just come out and say my Dad(which is weird he told me he would neva call him his dad)was right bout u, when i said nuffin to cause him to say!!! Thats another thing that gets me pisted!! Well just had to get that out....anyone have advice on what to do?? Thankzzz xoxox kandi Link to post Share on other sites
ator Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 You said in your post: "but now that I think back to it all....it wasnt worth it, Id rather him as a friend" Maybe that's it. You both should try and work out a good friendship before anything else. But honestly, it sounds like you both were a bit hard on each other - and not too honest or respectful of each other's feelings. Maybe you both have a connection, but it isn't necessarily a good one. Try to keep contact and work on changing yourself for the better. By that I mean try and understand what makes a relationship work and be what you discover. You may find that he is searching for the same thing, or maybe he isn't ready for change. In anycase you would have become stronger and in a better place with yourself anyway - And, hopefully will have a better chance at new relationships as they come along. And don't worry.... They will come, they always do. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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