sb129 Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Immature is definitely name calling. So is calling someone stupid, which is basically what you are saying when calling someone immature. Not necessarily. There are alot of teenagers on LS who post who are definitely immature- they are teenagers for petes sake! They aren't STUPID, they are just victims of circumstance. I would imagine that if any of them stick around for more than 5 years, their increase in maturity would be obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 My sister lurches from drama to crisis to drama...we're all so used to it now we just never bat an eyelid. I think some people's lives can be like that!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 personally I would think it was poetic justice if the W of my exMM did him some bodily harm Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Does anyone have any proof that his W did something to him, or is this just speculation? If she had pushed him down some stairs, she would be in jail. Wouldn't it make the local news and Gwen had heard about it? Or is this just a guy helping another guy cheat spreading rumors? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gwyneth Posted February 24, 2008 Author Share Posted February 24, 2008 Does anyone have any proof that his W did something to him, or is this just speculation? If she had pushed him down some stairs, she would be in jail. Wouldn't it make the local news and Gwen had heard about it? Or is this just a guy helping another guy cheat spreading rumors? I am not sure, as wasn't Friend. Like I said, you know how the game goes--the story changes from person to person. If it was an accident, I don't think she's be arrested. I don't know though, and I'm not sure if I'll ever know. My life has been pretty dramatic since birth. The way I was born, my parents' relationship, step-parents. This is all very dramatic and unreal to some people. While a lot of my friend's parents' are divorced and live similiar lives to me, there are other friends who think this is all very dramatic and a crazy lifestyle. It's normal to me. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 I can not call your life dramatic, I think that my life is dramatic. OW with issues, x with issues, kids with issues, students with issues, hell I have issues:p, but I do think you need to ease up on coming on this site, especially if you are going to take everything to heart. And sometimes it's hard not to. You know how I feel about cheating, and while I don't think the situation that you are having a child in is ideal, the fact is you are having a child. And your first and only priority should be the health and well being of that child. It doesn't matter what I think, or they think, or others think. What matters is that baby gets the healthiest start at life as possible. That means less stress, less drama, less turmoil and unconditional love. That's all nothing less, nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gwyneth Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 I can not call your life dramatic, I think that my life is dramatic. OW with issues, x with issues, kids with issues, students with issues, hell I have issues:p, but I do think you need to ease up on coming on this site, especially if you are going to take everything to heart. And sometimes it's hard not to. You know how I feel about cheating, and while I don't think the situation that you are having a child in is ideal, the fact is you are having a child. And your first and only priority should be the health and well being of that child. It doesn't matter what I think, or they think, or others think. What matters is that baby gets the healthiest start at life as possible. That means less stress, less drama, less turmoil and unconditional love. That's all nothing less, nothing more. I know. The main reason I come onto this board is because I receive email notifications that there is a message for me in my inbox here at LS. Then after reading and responding to those, I check my threads, and sometimes other threads. I stress it while reading it, but then after I walk away, I pretty much forget about it. I also have a hard time understanding why things I say are more than never taken out of context, and I strategize maybe it's me that's mistyping and misleading. That worries me since I am a writer. And although I don't put much effort into vocabulary, concentration, or grammar on LS, I do wonder why it is that I am misperceived so much here at LS. That is what gets to me so darn much! Besides this board, I have a very stressful job. That's life! I am very used to the stress, and I practice yoga on a daily basis, although less now that I am expecting. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Maybe it's time to unsubscribe so you don't get email notifications...Focus your energy into you, your health and pregnancy. Your writing, job and life itself is stressful, so if you're really finding LS is stressing you out and making you feel worse, take a break completely. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 the fact is you are having a child. And your first and only priority should be the health and well being of that child. It doesn't matter what I think, or they think, or others think. What matters is that baby gets the healthiest start at life as possible. That means less stress, less drama, less turmoil and unconditional love. That's all nothing less, nothing more. Absolutely. I agree with this 100% as some of my previous posts will show. Gwyneth- if LS stresses you out, then give it a break for a while, or change the way you use it. I don't tend to start many threads, but I read and contribute to others, which I still find quite useful. There are still people on here that will support you, and due to your situation, there will always be people that won't. Don't worry about people interpreting things differently- its the nature of writing. Some people will always comprehend some things differently to the writers original intention, even if its spelled out in black & white. The situation you are in will trigger many emotions of some people on here, hence the varying reactions. As a writer I would get used to that if I were you! Good luck with the pregnancy. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 There are 2 types of OWs in my mind--the ones who unfortunately fall for a married man, and the ones who deliberetly fall for married men. From what I have read, most of the women on here were unfortunate, but few in my lifetime as well, deliberetly go for married men. I will never understand why. I know why I did what I did, but it wasn't deliberate. OK, I'm confused. (this should surprise no one, I'm sure!) I remember your other threads. I do NOT understand how you can say that what you did was not deliberate. You knew he was married. You engaged in a "friendship" with him that you KNEW was outside of normal boundaries for a married man. You KNEW you were pushing the line when you posted here...you got that advice from tons of other posters. Many posters here cautioned you about what was likely to happen (going to a PA)...and yet you argued with all of them and continued. How did taking this to the "next level" NOT happen as a deliberate action? How are you one of those women who "unfortunately fall"? At what point did you "fall", vs making conscious, deliberate decisions, even after discussing your options here? Taking ownership of your actions is the FIRST step towards healing. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I remember your other threads. I do NOT understand how you can say that what you did was not deliberate. You knew he was married. You engaged in a "friendship" with him that you KNEW was outside of normal boundaries for a married man. You KNEW you were pushing the line when you posted here...you got that advice from tons of other posters. Many posters here cautioned you about what was likely to happen (going to a PA)...and yet you argued with all of them and continued. How did taking this to the "next level" NOT happen as a deliberate action? How are you one of those women who "unfortunately fall"? At what point did you "fall", vs making conscious, deliberate decisions, even after discussing your options here? Taking ownership of your actions is the FIRST step towards healing. Amen. Amen. Amen. How is it falling when one purposely continues down the garden path? It was deliberate to continue a R with the MM. Maybe not to get pregnant, but sex between two people of childbearing age tends to lead to pregnancy every now and then. De-stress. Take ownership of your choices and the resulting consequences. My view may not be popular, but it certainly isn't insulting or attacking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gwyneth Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 What I meant was, I don't go out looking for Married Men to date and have affairs with. This just happened and wasn't intentional. Yes, going into it was intentional, but actually finding him was not. I don't go to bars and show clevage to the married men. Some women purposely date married men and only married men. That is not who I am--this was a one time and only a one time deal. I think many of the OWs on this board can agree with me on this. Some of us just got caught up in the wrong R with the wrong man, while some OW (and even OM) go strictly after MM / MW. Link to post Share on other sites
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