Would anyone else put up with this or am I nuts?

[traveller991]

In a nutshell:

 

Long distance boyfriend (one year): 47 years old, Dominican, runs a bar, divorced, 2 kids

 

Me: ten years older, Vancouver, BC, has a business that runs itself so free to travel.

 

Met at the resort two years ago. Friends only although he tried to become intimate I wouldn't. Returned one year later, changed my mind, had a great time. That was December 2007. Went back down for a month in March, the month of June, 6 weeks Sept/Oct, four weeks this last December. He said he wanted to marry me, blah blah.

 

So in June we're out for dinner on my last night and the waitress is a gorgeous Dominican, legs to the armpits etc. So he takes his dinner napkin and folds it so it looks like a penis becoming erect and asks her if she knows what that is. She says yes, then tells him her boyfriend just died and she's looking for a new one. This takes place in Spanish so I only know what he told me. Then after he goes over to her workstation and has a fine old time leaving me at the table. I IGNORED THE BEHAVIOUR

 

In Oct he starts to do the same thing with a 26-year-old blonde American waitress and I got mad and told him to stop and grabbed the napkin. So instead he told her she looked sooooooooo sexy in her sundress. She gave me a funny look which I thought was pity.

 

In the bank in October he told the teller she should wear her hair back because it looked sexier that way. I said what was that all about and he told me and then told me the girl was his cousin. In the gas station he told a girl he knew she had lost weight and looked so sexy in her jeans. I was on the back of his motorbike and he didn't even introduce me.

 

He acuses me of being jealous, says women like to be complimented, it makes hem feel good, it's the Dominican way. I find it hurtful and embarrassing but is that just because I am insecure?

 

Aside from that I haven't heard from him in two and a half weeks which is so strange as before he always phoned or texted me every 3 or 4 days. I haven't phoned him as I want to keep my dignity at least but I am SUFFERING here!!!!

 

Would someone like to talk to me - I am lonely and heartbroken in Vancouver, BC.

 

There's lots more to the story by the way but I just wanted to start and see if anyone else would put up with this behaviour or just think it was funny because they're so secure they wouldn't need to get upset.

 

Thank you to all who respondse