Lori311 Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 Hello. I'm new to this forum. Found it while looking for some advice on my problem , i guess you could say. First off i'm twenty seven years old. I've been marriage for almost a year now. I've been with my husband for nine years. We have a two year old. I'm also three months pregnant with baby number two! I dont know if it is just me or is thing suppose to happen in marriage. Seems like my husband and I have this problem where we go for like a week for more with absolutely no sex, cuddling, kissing. Nothing. Its like we are so involved with everything else. I;ve talked to him serveral times. He just says hes been tired from work and things like that. Just a few months ago everything seemed different. We were so involved with each other. He always made me feel sexy and beautiful. Now its like what the heck is going on here. I cant get this guy to do anything. I used to try to get him to notice me you know? He just say "babe, i'm tired". I mean, its hard enough to do anything anymore because our two year old is running around the house everywhere. But it really upsets me when our daughter goes to sleep early from a big day and he has no intention to even try to freaking hold me, when we could really have some alone time. All thats on his mind is going to sleep or watching TV. I get it... that hes not a big romancer but geez can i get you to hold me at night or something? Am i wrong? Just like Valentines Day is Thursday i bought a very sexy baby doll and i dont even know if i will be able to wear it for him!! He'll probably falls sleep before anything happens! All i'm saying is i need some romance. I;ve talked to him before and everytime i do, things change for a while then it goes right back to page one. Any advice? THX Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 I dont know if it is just me or is thing suppose to happen in marriage. It's likely not just you and it's not something that's just supposed to happen, but it often does. I'm sure you're lovely and compelling and I'm sure he finds you both. However, supposing he's the same age as you, or close to it, it's very likely that he's suddenly feeling a bit overwhelmed. Here he is, still in his 20s and he has a wife, a child and another on the way. Real life has suddenly caught up with him. Women seem to take such responsibility better in stride than many men. Real men feel totally responsible for the welfare of their family and that can be a heavy burden. I know. I was there once. To an extent I still am although the former marriage dissolved and the children are all adults now. Your husband could be somewhat depressed and that's easily fixed. If he's open to it he should talk to his doctor, have a physical to rule out any related conditions and perhaps get a referral to check his state of mind. This happens, Lori. Don't be too discouraged. Link to post Share on other sites
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