stace Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 3 and a half months ago I split up with my boyfriend. We were 2gether 9 months but knew eachother 4 2 and a half years. We had the best relationship and were so in love. We made many plans for the future and even talked about mariage and kids. I was his 1st relationship in 7 years. He is 11 years older than me. Anyway, we were arguing a lot because we spent everyday 2gether and were both stressed out with work. After an argument he said we should just be friends. I was fine with this coz I knew he didn't mean it and because I needed time to sort my head out. I had been doubting my feelings for him because all our good times were being overshadowed by our arguments. So that day I went out and kissed another lad. My boyfriend found out and went mad. He cried for days and was so hurt by what I'd done. He said he didn't want to finish it that morning, he just needed space. We tried to be friends but everytime we met up he would get upset and angry at me for ruining what we had. Then I found out he had met someone else. I asked him about it and his reply was 'I'm just doing what you're doing'. He has been seeing her for the past month or so, but was still texting me saying how hurt he was. Two weeks ago he said we shouldn't have any contact because he is moving away and wants to keep things simple for when he goes. We haven't had much contact since then, but I miss him so much. I dont know what else to do now. I really want him back. All my friends say this new girl is just a rebound, because he was still telling me how hurt he was when he first started seeing her. What else can I do? I've told him how I feel but he says I ruined his opinion of me by kissing someone else! Do you think he could ever forgive me? And do you think we could ever be together again? Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 I think he will forgive you, no problem. What you did wasn't such a big deal. But if you want to get back with him, it would seem to me that you will need to move to wherever he's moving to. If you're not planning on doing that, then your should respect his wishes and have no more contact. If he was staying in your town, I could give you a few other pointers...but he's leaving. He's not going to be available. Frankly, after he thinks about this a while he's really going to wonder just how you might react to problems in the future if you go out and kiss other men when you're having problems in a relationship. Pretty novel concept. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace Posted June 30, 2003 Author Share Posted June 30, 2003 Thanks for your reply! I know I shouldn't have kissed someone else but by doing that it made me realise just how much I love my ex. I was confused and wasn't sure what I wanted. But now I know I want him back. I still dont know what to do and would appreciate more advice?! The last time we spoke he was really nasty and I hate the fact that he can be like with me after all we have been through. I know he is spending a lot of time with this new girl, so do you think I have blown my chance with him for good? Please help Link to post Share on other sites
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