bluebutterfly Posted June 29, 2003 Share Posted June 29, 2003 Okay, I am just going to get into it all right away. I dated this guy, Joe, for 5 years and he cheated, yada yada yada, and we broke up. I then started dating a diff. guy, Kris, after about a year. He was soooo great to me. Then I went away on vacation and came back confused. I talked to Joe more while I was gone then my boyfriend Kris. I ended up breaking it off with the Kris and going back to Joe when I got back. Well, today I broke it off with Joe again! I am confused. I see Kris and it all comes back. This is a guy who loved me, cared about me, would never hurt me or anything, and I miss him. At the same time though, Joe has actually changed and I don't know what to do. I told Joe, and I was being fair. I have never cheated, and stayed honest with him. I told him I still thought about Kris, and he didn't want to share me or wait, so I broke it off completely. Anyways, how do I keep Joe as a friend, and pan things out with Kris. Kris still misses me and is willing to talk, but how much time do I give it? How do I really know? What do I do? Without hurting anyone as much as I can? Link to post Share on other sites
turtle Posted June 29, 2003 Share Posted June 29, 2003 From what it sounds like, you were very serious with both men. Once you have decided for sure which one you want, you can't still be friends with the other. It would hurt him too much. Maybe keep in touch...you know...just an occasional short email. From now on, don't go back and forth between guys. Guys can be hurt just as much as girls can. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bluebutterfly Posted June 30, 2003 Author Share Posted June 30, 2003 OK, I seen Joe out the same night we broke it off, and Kris. My girlfriends took me out for a few hours, and there was Joe, already with another girl. Then there was Kris, telling me we need to talk and take things slow, and see what happens. When I seen Joe and another girl, for the first time I wasn't jealous, but kind of relieved. Is that bad, or does that mean something? I know my decision is mine, but everyone thinks that Kris and I are better off than Joe. In the 5 years he cheated a few times, and I will never fully trust him. Where as with Kris, we had sooo much fun and I trusted him. I think I know what I want. I am positive, but how much time do I need to take before jumping in again? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted June 30, 2003 Share Posted June 30, 2003 Sounds like going for Kris and taking it slow, like he suggested, is a good idea! good luck, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author bluebutterfly Posted July 16, 2003 Author Share Posted July 16, 2003 I really just decided to forget about the both of them. Be me, all alone, and wait. Neither one of them is doing anything for me, except confusing me or hurting my feelings and making me feel like ****. They both need to grow up a little, as well myself a little more. I think I haven't loved. True love would not fade so quickly, nor bounce around. Link to post Share on other sites
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