I think something is wrong with me...

[Hydrogen]

Hey there. I am an 18 year old woman, who is fully developed physically. I am in the transition between high school and attempting to attend college. I have already graduated.

 

Let me start off by saying that I have never had a boyfriend. I'm not kidding. I've never asked anyone or been asked. All through elementary and high school I have been single.

 

But I have a bigger concern. I feel no sexual attraction to men or women. You could show me a picture of a super model, or anyone considered to be "hot" and I'll just shrug.

 

Even my few friends didn't understand me. I spent a weekend with a bunch of friends and the girls all spent some separate time together looking through magazines and stuff. They'd say "Oh, he's so sexy." - "Mmm I'd like to get in his pants!" and all the like, while I'd just be like "What?".

 

I want to see what dating is like, but if I have no feelings at all then why bother? Should I be seeing a therapist or something?

 

I'm really getting desperate now and any advice would be appreciated.

 

~ Hydrogen

[norajane]

Do you ever masturbate? Do you ever feel sexy? Were you a tomboy? Did you ever have crushes on anyone? It takes some girls longer to get into their sexual side. Maybe you just haven't had that side of yourself turned on yet.

 

Maybe you're one of those people that gets turned on only when you feel a connection with a person, and not just from the appearance of random bodies in pictures or even on the beach. That's not unusual, especially for women. You may be needing a real person to light you up like that.

 

There are rare cases of people who have no interest in sex at all, but it's not common. I'd say give yourself some time before thinking there's something wrong with you.

[Storyrider]

I agree with Norajane. It is good that you're not in a rush and that you're being honest about what you feel. Some of those girls might really feel aroused, but others might just be parroting what they hear to fit in. Some women don't come into their own sexually until later.

[Dumbledore]

I wouldn't worry about it. One day you will find Oxygen, and you'll go off. And then things will be very, very wet.

[Storyrider]

I wouldn't worry about it. One day you will find Oxygen, and you'll go off. And then things will be very, very wet.

I knew the periodic table could be sexy in the right hands.

[Pyro]

I wouldn't worry about it. One day you will find Oxygen, and you'll go off. And then things will be very, very wet.

 

 

But what if she meets cyanide first?

[Dumbledore]

But what if she meets cyanide first?

Interesting. With instant bondage like that, they'll probably be going down together.

 

Perhaps even more interestingly, HCN may have had a role in the origin of life. How's that for a sexy combination?

[Storyrider]

Interesting. With instant bondage like that, they'll probably be going down together.

 

Perhaps even more interestingly, HCN may have had a role in the origin of life. How's that for a sexy combination?

She had better use birth control then, when the time comes. Always use protection, Hydrogen.

[EYECANDY000]

Theres nothing wrong with not having a sexual desire towards men or women. Everyone develops at a different age. I didnt start getting involved with guys til I was almost 21. Which was around the same time I lost my virginity. Dont force anything it will just start happening naturally.

[blackbird]

Not having had a boyfriend by 18 isn't a big deal. It may seem like a big deal if all your friends are dating from elementary school on, but you're not abnormal.

 

I don't get turned on by pictures either. I'm just not very visual, especially with pictures of people I don't know personally. If my girlfriends wanted me to spend time looking through pictures of hot celebs with them and going "mmm sexy" I'd laugh. Not my thing. When my little sister and I used to share a room growing up, and she'd plaster her side of the room with pictures of boy bands and shirtless boy celebs and whatnot, I'd make fun of her.

 

My question is, have you ever felt ANY attraction to certain people? Wanted to be around them, kiss them, be close to them, etc? Are you interested in sex or physical intimacy at all? Do you get turned on by anything? You just talked about not getting turned on by sexy pictures, and that's not a big deal.