Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 As this is kinda long, so I will try to make it quick. I recently met this guy,(my best friends roomate) and from the first day I met him, he was nice, he walked in, and said "hey what's up, how's it going?", The next day he asked what I was doing, you know making small talk. I had told my friend that I though he was way cute, and really sweet. A couple days went by, and I started to talk more with him more. He would ask me if I had a bf, and how many guys I've been with. He would then proceed to say, "well I don't need a gf now" He would feed be lines like "I like your lips, they are so pouty", and other things. A couple of things that he said confused me..which were "don't try and figure me out, most people say I'm a bastard" I think he saw me getting attached, in which I do a lot, I said "no I'm not" Seeing as we did do everything but sex, I feel like it really is my fault as to why I feel how I feel about him. He dosen't have the capability to get atached, and it bothers me that he really dosen't care about anyone but himself. He cleary said that he dosen't keep in touch with people, and that he dosen't talk to them, unless they talk to him first. The next couple days, I spent with my other friends, and then I had to go back home. He got my e-mail the day I left...which was three weeks ago, and I was texting him, but he just all together stoppped texting me, and when I texted him and asked him what his problem was, he said "sorry" with his e-mail..three weeks later. That kinda pisses me off cuz I feel like he wants everyone to love him, but he dosen't even want to put forth the time into keeping keeping a fresh friendship going. He had even said that he would act the same, which he hasn't. Should I e-mail him, and tell him how selfish he is, and how he has no feelings, or is that what he wants me to do. He wants me to chase him cuz he wants to feel like someone really likes him?! These things are only half of the ridicuolous things he said..did I mention that he also forgets people within three months of meeting them. I feel like I could change him, but I don't think he will put the effort into it, seeing as he can't even pick up the phone to text me. Help, is he worth my time? Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianaLima Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 No, he isn't worth your time at all. Just like you said, you shouldn't e-mail him because he wants someone to chase after him. And you already said how he says ridiculous things to you. And by the way, you can't change a man unless he's ready to change. Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 Dont think twice about this guy. If he hasnt contacted you and its been a few weeks, then let it be. Oviously he wants someone to chase him. Dont give in to his stupidity.. Also, you have an impression on someone, but you cant change somebody who dont want to be changed. Im sure he dont see a problem with his actions. Find someone else, and leave this turkey alone. Let him stroke his own ego Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 I mean, he has said that he has never met anyone like me before, but then again he's probably just messing with my head, right?! Thanks!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 No, he isn't worth your time at all. Just like you said, you shouldn't e-mail him because he wants someone to chase after him. And you already said how he says ridiculous things to you. And by the way, you can't change a man unless he's ready to change. I wish I could be the one to change him, cuz I know hoe can be a good person;( Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 It seems like you are a little obsessed with this guy. How do you think you can change him? and what would you change about him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 It seems like you are a little obsessed with this guy. How do you think you can change him? and what would you change about him? Honestly, I just want him to let me be his friend. I think he needs someone to understand him, but I'm just a good person, and I want to try and understand everyone I meet. I would change the way he feels towards his friends, and all in all his relationships he has with people. But I guess it's not my issue, eh?! Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianaLima Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 It's not your issue at all. I understand that you may want to be friends with him, but don't chase him. If you keep chasing behind him, and he keeps brushing you off, you'll be the one that looks bad. You said that you are a good person, so you'll be ok if his not in the picture. You know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 It's not your issue at all. I understand that you may want to be friends with him, but don't chase him. If you keep chasing behind him, and he keeps brushing you off, you'll be the one that looks bad. You said that you are a good person, so you'll be ok if his not in the picture. You know what I mean? Geez, you're so right. I'm so done with trying to be a friend to him. If he wants to talk to me, he'll for sure find a way. I just thought he would at least text back, what a fool huh?! Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianaLima Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 No, he's the fool for trying to brush off a wonderful person. In the future, stay away from guys like that.LOL, but seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 I can tell you from experience that guys like that just aren't worth your time. As much as you've developed a crush on him, you have to let it go. If someone sucks that much energy out of you in order to make them your friend, then I don't imagine they would make a good friend- or lover for that matter. It sounds like he gets a kick out of drawing people in and then pushing them away. That's entirely his issue and has nothing to do with you, so please don't personalize his standoffish behaviour. You can do better... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 I can tell you from experience that guys like that just aren't worth your time. As much as you've developed a crush on him, you have to let it go. If someone sucks that much energy out of you in order to make them your friend, then I don't imagine they would make a good friend- or lover for that matter. It sounds like he gets a kick out of drawing people in and then pushing them away. That's entirely his issue and has nothing to do with you, so please don't personalize his standoffish behaviour. You can do better... I tell myself that I don't have other feelings for him, and I don't think I really do, I just thought he would care haha, I guess I was way wrong. That's what he's doing is pushing me away. I've never met anyone like him before in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 I wish I could be the one to change him, cuz I know hoe can be a good person;( Mary, the big tip off is that you want to "be the one to change him". Men don't change for women. They may mature, but generally they remailn who they are. Entering into, or trying to develop a relationship who needs to "change" to be acceptable isn't realistic. Find that nice guy who you like, or love the way he is, hopefully he will feel the same as you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted February 15, 2008 Author Share Posted February 15, 2008 Mary, the big tip off is that you want to "be the one to change him". Men don't change for women. They may mature, but generally they remailn who they are. Entering into, or trying to develop a relationship who needs to "change" to be acceptable isn't realistic. Find that nice guy who you like, or love the way he is, hopefully he will feel the same as you. I think deep down, he is a good person, but he really does need to mature, but he's 26, and I think set in his ways. Link to post Share on other sites
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