Guera Posted February 15, 2008 Share Posted February 15, 2008 I have this guy that I have been involved with for over a year. We will name him Carl. When we first met we had established that we both were single. About a month in a half later I found out through my ex that Carl actually had a girlfriend. Turns out that my ex was intimate friends with Carls girlfriend. Well me needing to hear the truth asked Carl flat out if the information that was given to me was true and he kept denying it. Carls girlfriend had gotten my number from my ex and called me to confront me about things with Carl. I advised her what I felt was necessary at the time and I told her that he would tell her the rest. Well after that situation I kept talking to Carl being that they had broken up. At that point we had grown deep feelings for eachother and started spending almost everyday together. He took me to my surgery and picked me up. He always made sure that I was ok. So then I decided that I wanted to go to Vegas with him to relax. Get away from all the stress at home. We planned it and went. That was an amazing trip being that we confessed that we had fallen in love with eachother. Well when we got back I felt like something had changed and I wasnt seeing the same Carl from before and during Vegas. I started to search and found out that he had gotten back with his ex. I was hurt:(. How could he do this? How could he tell me he loves me and then be with someone else? Well I confronted him again and I gave him an ultamatum. He either left her and any other female he was talking to alone, or he would lose me. Well they broke up and that relieved my stress. Well after a month of relief I called at 5 a.m. on a lonely night to see if he wanted to come over but he didnt answer. Well around 6 a.m I get a txt asking me why I txted him at 5 a.m. Naturally I thought that was wierd so I asked who they were and no respose. So I called him and left a message asking why someone from a strange # had txted me asking me why I called him and all he said was not to worry about it and tell him if it happens again. Well then I get a message from this secret person and it says "Nevermind" so I asked " Who are you anyways?" and the response " His girlfriend.... that lives with him." At this point im angry, hurt and confused. " So whats your name" I asked. " He can tell you that Melissa", " how long have yall been together?". "2yrs", " Well how do you know my name?" and she says, " Cuz your always on his phone! Why?" and I told her because we have been seeing eachother for over a year. Now I am deeply in love with him but I dont know what the situation is nor the truth. I still dont know her name and I tried calling the # and there was no answer. Should I leave? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Guera Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 Can someone please help me figure this out! Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Can someone please help me figure this out! Sounds fishy enough that I'd probably dump him. I'm not sure how you want to handle the situation. Can you live with it if the worst is true? Is the such a great guy that you would not mind sharing him with another woman? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Somebody will likely give a very insightful response, but my first take is wow, too much drama. I'm new here, but a phrase I learned quickly and I've found to be very wise for my own circumstances is "NC", meaning "no contact". I really can't see anything good coming of any further energy being put into these relationships. Happy to be wrong , though... Link to post Share on other sites
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