LTR, visiting, and possible doubt

[j_hunt_12]

Wow... I'm not going to lie. That is shady.

 

You are not allowed to work on a tourist visa... I know this for sure. You know she might be denied on the border even if she does have a ticket? My LDR GF doesn't have much money but she would do anything she could to come and visit, and if I did ask her to work for me, she would do it in a heartbeat.

 

I don't think she is a prostitute or anything, but I really think she lost interest in you and decided she might as well go for it only if she could come back with some money on the side. IMO

 

I definitely think you should talk about it... I think it is a good time for a big fight/argument with her. If she can explain herself and you two get over it, GREAT. If not, I think it is time to end it.

[bones1]

Jhunt...

 

As you said about your situation.. SHE would do anything to come and see you, and if she could she would work for you..

 

If you had the money,and she did not, would you buy her a ticket? If she did work for you, would you pay her?

 

I talked to her, and asked her intentions, etc.. I told her she can work for me and pay off the ticket, but really saving any money, etc, would not be a bad idea, but it is most likely not feasible.

 

She said she does not care about saving money as she wants to come see me..

 

So, in the eyes of the girl I am dating, if I really want to see her, I would buy her a ticket, as she does not work, and does not want to ask her dad for the money, who is not happy about his daughter going to live with a man for 2 months, and he does not want to fund that.

[j_hunt_12]

Yeah, I would pay for her to come visit me with any means I had. I would definitely pay for everything during her visit. I would never bring business into the equation (especially because it is illegal... visa problems). I would get really suspicious if she was planning to profit off of the trip when she has a rich father. My GF doesn't pay much for our trips, but she does what she can. Just like I do. It usually comes out 85% to 15%...

 

If it is as you say, then I don't think it is a problem. I can definitely see her father not wanting to pay... that makes sense. Could she just do volunteer work or something to kill her time in the day? Could you just give her really really light duties so she could be with you, but not actually be working working? Paying her an actual salary is shady on a lot of levels.

 

And really don't try to break the system with the visa. If you guys get caught, any future visas for her will be illigal and completely impossible... I think being very generous with her... and giving her a little "spending money" for off days would not be too bad.

 

I think that she thought she could just get a job in the U.S. for a month no problem, maybe just to spend money there, maybe to buy presents for you... who knows. Just tell her that that that is not possible and all of the funding will be coming from you; therefore, she should try to be easy on you... If she understands this I don't think there are any problems. If she refuses to go because she will not profit, that is shady... It seems like you guys worked it out though... have fun

[bones1]

I have not known her very long, just 2 months now, so perhaps that is why I am a bit cautious.

 

When I was with her in her country, she was insecure as she thought I was just maybe having fun with her while i was on vacation, and she would never see or hear from me again. Her friends gave negative advice.

 

Now I am the one who is more insecure, wondering about her intentions, hearing other peoples stories and usually negative advice, etc.

 

When I was there with her, I was on vacation, and she did not work. Now , I will be working. So, she will have a lot of alone time during the day, with no car.

 

I seem to be more worried about this than her, as I do not want her to be bored, etc. I explained this, and I guess we will see what happens..