LikesMeNot Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 You know, your update has more warning signs than the number of stars in the universe. God, just suck it up. She played you for a fool and when you found out the truth, she busted you for seeing her motives. She lied, snook, and it was all just to have a relationship with her boss. They are both being very disrespectful, and i would've swore at you if it didn't end. She has no respect for you. In fact, I would go 1 step further and say that she was a f*cking loser who mistook you as sh*t and stayed with you as a "comforter" while she put her own plans into play. The outcome shows what happened as a result. I say no more. LikesMeNot, Feb. 19, 2008 Link to post Share on other sites
JackhammerGemma Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 (edited) In spite of everything, there is a possibility this guy is just her friend, boss or not. I say this because my best friend is a guy and our relationship carries all the red flags one might pick up on if they were looking for something to be suspicious. We talk every day, long phone calls (mostly late at night when bf is not around), text a lot, sometimes late texts, and I call or text him if I've had a fight with my boyfriend or I'm just feeling down. Regardless of the frequency of our contact or specifically how often he contacts me, we are indeed just friends.(I'm sure he wouldn't say no if I hit on him but still we are just friends.) My boyfriend is jealous of him of course, for the same reasons you're jealous of your girlfriend's friend, and he can't let go of the idea that there must be something going on between my friend and I. Some girls just do better with guys as friends than girls, myself included. I don't like to forward chain texts like the one you described but if I did I'd probably send it to my friend and think nothing of it. I don't want to tell you there's nothing going on between your gf and her friend because who knows, maybe there is. I only wanted to post this to say things aren't always what they seem, even if they look bad. Edited February 21, 2008 by JackhammerGemma Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 In spite of everything, there is a possibility this guy is just her friend, boss or not. I say this because my best friend is a guy and our relationship carries all the red flags one might pick up on if they were looking for something to be suspicious. We talk every day, long phone calls (mostly late at night when bf is not around), text a lot, sometimes late texts, and I call or text him if I've had a fight with my boyfriend or I'm just feeling down. Regardless of the frequency of our contact or specifically how often he contacts me, we are indeed just friends.(I'm sure he wouldn't say no if I hit on him but still we are just friends.) My boyfriend is jealous of him of course, for the same reasons you're jealous of your girlfriend's friend, and he can't let go of the idea that there must be something going on between my friend and I. Some girls just do better with guys as friends than girls, myself included. I don't like to forward chain texts like the one you described but if I did I'd probably send it to my friend and think nothing of it. I don't want to tell you there's nothing going on between your gf and her friend because who knows, maybe there is. I only wanted to post this to say things aren't always what they seem, even if they look bad. First of all emotional affairs are real slippery slopes. She has constanly lied about her whereabouts when asked and third she is always around her boss? Why, Why, Why??? She's either cheating, planning to cheat , or wants to. Simple as that. But Germma I bet if your man had a very pretty female acquaintance that he was texting back and forth and lying about hanging with her, what would it look like? Link to post Share on other sites
LILA BELL Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 I'm a cheater and she's a cheater,does'nt take a smart person to figure that out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowsfall Posted March 1, 2008 Author Share Posted March 1, 2008 Just wanted to give everyone one last update on how things are going 2 weeks after all the b.s. So it's been a 4 days with no contact and the last we did have was her apologizing to me for everything she put me through. That she cries every night waiting for me to come back. She kept saying that she'll never forgive herself for making me feel like I was second to him. And that she would agree not to talk to him outside of work, but that she wouldn't get a new job (they work together remember). BLAH BLAH BLAH... I told her that even if she did all that the trust would never be the same and that it won't work anymore. Besides, I've already moved on to bigger and better things... SO also during that time I got a promotion at work and have started dating a few new girls, both of which seem to be really into me. One particularly is extremely beautiful, educated, independent, and does NOT have any male friends except for one who is gay. She's already showing a lot of interest in me (lol maybe too much, too soon). However, She's 27 and I'm only 23. Even though I'm not concerned with age I'm still wondering whether her time clock is ticking. Aside from all that it feels GREAT being single and free from the lying and manipulation that consumed me the past 2 years. I no longer have to sit here thinking about if something is going on between them, as it is no longer my problem. I feel rejuvenated and focued for the first time, because I don't have all these negative thoughts roaming around in my head. I can apply myself more at work and school now. Bottom line is that this was so completely liberating that the only regret I have is not doing it sooner. Thanks again for all the respones, you have truly helped more than you know. Link to post Share on other sites
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