carhill Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Why after a relatioship does the girl always "whore" herself out. Basically try to find as many guys as possible? As noted prior, "always" is a pretty sweeping statement. The telling thing is what happens when that euphoric period is over and the brain gets back within its natural rhythm for that person. It takes a strong base personality to fight the mood swings that accompany life changing events like breakups and I'm not all that sure that fighting it is a good idea, as long as the behavior doesn't so obviously violate the person's moral code that they later have long-lingering regrets or shame from their behaviors (especially if the behaviors have been potentially hurtful to others). I personally would not do as the OP suggests (from a male perspective), but my rules only apply to me. Live and let live Link to post Share on other sites
flosslight Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 I'm the dumpee and I went on a date with someone else about 2 weeks after being dumped. I had dated a few people before my first serious relationship, but I wanted to show myself that I could get back out there and succeed. The first guy knew he was a rebound and knew that my fiance of 2 and half years had decided he did not want to be with me. I was a little insecure in the dating realm but I'm confident about myself. We went on 3 dates that were spread out over a month. Did I date too soon? Probably. The guy was nice but I realized did nothing for me. I went on a few more dates with another guy after 2 and 1/2 months of the relationship being over. He was also really nice and I liked him much more than the first. We went on two dates within a week but I felt like we were going to fast and we became just friends. I think people date quickly after breaking up for a variety of reasons. Maybe some are insecure, but maybe others are just out there trying to live and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 I think it totally depends on the person and situation. After my ex husband and I broke up, I didn't date anyone for 6 months or have sex for a year after. Recently I broke up with someone I didn't want to break up with, but knew he was losing interest, so I broke up with him to save face. I immediately had two guys on the go. I wasn't whoring with them- but I went out with one of them the very next day and started seeing another within the week. Why does it happen? It's a bandaid. You replace dealing with the pain through the attention of others. That doesn't have to be sleeping with someone- in my case, I will just do dinner dates or go to a movie. But I have to admit, I'll resume something with an ex after a break up.... for me it's about NOT dealing with the pain of the break up. Doesn't matter if I have dumped someone or they have dumped me. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 Why does it happen? It's a bandaid. You replace dealing with the pain through the attention of others. Nothing wrong with that, IMO. As long as one is mindful of their own moral boundaries, having a good time is a good thing. Rinse and repeat as necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
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