Great article about why women should settle

[Florida]

First, the article is horse-poop. Telling women to settle for someone they don't think is good enough for them to begin with just so we can over-populate the world more then it already is? And why would a man want to be with a woman that felt like she was settling with him? If I "settle" for a man I know that I can't have that much respect for him and will only grow to have even less respect for him. And soon, resent him.

 

 

 

If that is the way you feel that you should just take 12 year olds. Because that is about your mental maturity. Women are human-beings and it's like you purposely want to make them feel bad because you got turned down in highschool a few times. That is really ridiculous.

 

Women age. Men age. Men don't get better with age because they slow down, develop wrinkles and other related aging matter just like women do. I actually think men are more sensitive to aging and less confident about it. I will say, men ARE judged less harshly for aging. But medical studies show that as a man ages, his sperm ages as well, and is less healthy then when he was young. His sperm will carry more probabilty of his off-spring having defects just as it does with aging women.

 

So currently we are in a time where women might be on the shelf a little less longer then men, but we have more time then ever in history then any other time period for women. And men are not as needed as they use to be. Women use to be much more dependent on men. So we don't need a man to take care of us. We can also choose based on the youth of a man. And as science has proved, a younger man is also more healthy then his older counter parts. So with those two factors, and as we progress, I think men will soon find themselves on the receiving end of the aging negative. We already see it happening.

 

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[OpenBook]

Women age. Men age. Men don't get better with age because they slow down, develop wrinkles and other related aging matter just like women do. I actually think men are more sensitive to aging and less confident about it. I will say, men ARE judged less harshly for aging. But medical studies show that as a man ages, his sperm ages as well, and is less healthy then when he was young. His sperm will carry more probabilty of his off-spring having defects just as it does with aging women.

 

So currently we are in a time where women might be on the shelf a little less longer then men, but we have more time then ever in history then any other time period for women. And men are not as needed as they use to be. Women use to be much more dependent on men. So we don't need a man to take care of us. We can also choose based on the youth of a man. And as science has proved, a younger man is also more healthy then his older counter parts. So with those two factors, and as we progress, I think men will soon find themselves on the receiving end of the aging negative. We already see it happening.

 

Well, I don't know about all that sperm stuff -- and at my age I could care less about it!!:D -- but I sure am getting a lot more attention from men now than I ever did when I was younger. I'm trying to figure out why. Demographics? More self-confidence? More societal acceptance of the May-December relationship a la Ashton & Demi? Who knows? All I know is, I am thoroughly enjoying myself... despite my acquired issues with men.

[Taramere]

And it is law of the jungle that men go up in value as we age...women go down...it's payback for those high school/college years when you were all hot stuff, so don't be mad...

 

Provided they keep themselves in decent shape, men and women can be attractive for a decent chunk of their lifetimes, but the ageing process gets us all in the end.

 

With every day that passes, you get closer to becoming a frail old man who won't be able to move without creaking, groaning and rattling with the various pills you have to take to prolong your miserable existence for a few more years. You too will hobble down your garden path with the aid of a stick, a zimmer frame or one of those little gokart things that pensioners are allowed to drive far too recklessly on the pavements/sidewalks.

 

If you can't face up to your fears about death and the ageing process, then stay in denial by all means - but projecting those fears onto women simply makes you look like a self-deluding fool.

[Woggle]

I don't think it's that women age worse than men because there are some really fine women in their 40s and even 50s but women that stay chase badboys for the thrill and excitment in their 20s and 30s and view a good decent man as settling usually end up bitter manhaters in their old age and impossible for any man to get along with. This makes them very unattractive no matter how they might look physically. Just because you choose to chase after scum in your youngers doesn't mean you should hate all men after being chewed up and spit out one too many times. I have been around some of these women and the bitterness is so strong you can almost smell it.

[a4a]

I don't think it's that women age worse than men because there are some really fine women in their 40s and even 50s but women that stay chase badboys for the thrill and excitment in their 20s and 30s and view a good decent man as settling usually end up bitter manhaters in their old age and impossible for any man to get along with. This makes them very unattractive no matter how they might look physically. Just because you choose to chase after scum in your youngers doesn't mean you should hate all men after being chewed up and spit out one too many times. I have been around some of these women and the bitterness is so strong you can almost smell it.

 

OMG the pot calling the kettle black.

 

On topic this article is pathetic at best.

It makes me wonder what this woman writing has to offer a man and no man was willing to settle for her.

 

Comparisons to Friends, Sex in the City, and some other TV shows? That is real life?

 

She is living in LA LA LAND. She simply has baby hunger and likely will find once she locates a sperm donor her life will be just as incomplete.

 

Any person that relies on a TV show sitcom for life guidance is a LOSER.

 

I often ask myself when in a sticky situation "What would Gilligan do?"

[Nemo]

I often ask myself when in a sticky situation "What would Gilligan do?"

Instruct the Professor to make half-hearted attempts to get them all off his island while he had a threesome with Ginger and Mary Ann.

[JerseyShortie]

Woggle, I don't chase "badboys", and I have been burned by men. Not all men are good. I am not as sunny and shiney about men as I once was from my experiences with them. Not all of us are going to meet the love of are life when we are 18, 25 or even 30.

[LoveLace]

I read this once before...and it makes sense, in my opinion. It's the reality that after years of being with someone, it's pretty likely that they won't turn out to be all that you hoped...which isn't good enough a reason to give up on the marriage...she feels lucky not to have an abusive, neglectful man....although he doesn't fulfill some of her specific small wishes, there is also no reason to leave him. It says that no matter how much in love you are, there will be things you'll have to live with whether you want to or not. Some people don't know how to just be happy with what they have, instead of making themselves miserable by wishing something was better.

[Florida]

I don't think it's that women age worse than men because there are some really fine women in their 40s and even 50s but women that stay chase badboys for the thrill and excitment in their 20s and 30s and view a good decent man as settling usually end up bitter manhaters in their old age and impossible for any man to get along with. This makes them very unattractive no matter how they might look physically. Just because you choose to chase after scum in your youngers doesn't mean you should hate all men after being chewed up and spit out one too many times. I have been around some of these women and the bitterness is so strong you can almost smell it.

 

This could read like this too:

 

I don't think it's that men age worse than women because there are some really fine men in their 40s and even 50s but men that stay with or chase attention whores and emotionally unavailable or manipulative girls for the thrill and excitment in their 20s and 30s and view a good decent woman as settling usually end up bitter womanhaters in their old age and impossible for any woman to get along with. This makes them very unattractive no matter how they might look physically. Just because you choose to chase after drama queens/attention whores and manipulative females in your youngers doesn't mean you should hate all women after being chewed up and spit out one too many times. I have been around some of these men and the bitterness is so strong you can almost smell it.

Edited February 21, 2008 by Florida

[GoodOnPaper]

Settling is bad all the way around. Very surprised to see it advocated so openly in the article. IMO, settling doesn't sit well because in doing so you are attempting to take a shortcut. The early attraction and excitement lays the foundation for the intimacy that keeps the connection going through later "warm and comfortable" years. It doesn't work the other way around -- early warm and comfortable feelings won't generate attraction and excitement in the long haul. It understandable that discovering this after years or decades of cultivating one's "warm and comfortable" qualities instead of those that generate attraction and excitement could make one slightly bitter.