I Truley Love Her, I Want Her Back.

[tpw3]

My girlfriend & I have been together for 3 yrs. since 8th grade. We both went to the same middle schools. She had moved and went to a diff. Highschool in 9th & 10th grade though because her parents bought a new home in a subdivision .We had the perfect relationship. We also believed that we were love at first sight because we loved eachother so much. Around Jan of this yr, i found out that my parents were going to buy a new home in the same subdivision that she lives in. My Gilfriend's name is Ranisha.

 

I told Ranisha that i was going to move near her & i was going to attend her school Before my parents decided to move, Ranisha & I always wished that a miricle would happen so that we could see eachother more often. So, i was to move into her neighborhood and attend her school during the last wk. of school. When i told her that i will be attending her school during the last wk. of school, she started to act weird. She broke up with me. She said her reason for breaking up with me was becasue she needed some time & space to herself. About 4 days later, i found out that she was going with another guy named Michael. I asked her who Michael was, she told me he was just a friend.

 

She wrote me a letter after we had broken up, telling me that she is so sorry for dumping me. I found out from a friend that Ranisha had been cheating behind my back since March of this yr. (10th grade). When i asked Ranisha was that true about her cheating on me behind my back with Michael, she denied it. After i keeped questioning her about Michael, she finally confessed to me that she had been cheating on me with Michael since Marh of this yr. I asked her to tell me the real reason she broke up with me.

 

She told me that she broke up with me b/c she diodn't want me to find out about Michael when i went to her school. I asked also asked her why she cheated on me, she said she had cheated on me with Michael b/c she thought that i was cheating on her behind her back (since we both went to diff. schools & lived in diff. neighborhoods) She said that i acted like i was cheating on her. I asked Ranisha how I acted like I was cheating on her.

She said this "Everytime i asked you were you cheating on me , you would say- There are a lot of girls at my school that like me, and if i wanted to cheat, i wouldn't waist my time talking to you". I siad to Ranisha, just b/c i told you that a lot of girl like me at my school, and that if i wanted to cheat, i wouldn't waist my time with you, doesn't mean that i was cheating on you.

 

Ranisha also told me that she went with Michael to get revenge on me for (aledgently) cheating on her. Ranisha told me that her friends had given her advice on cheating on me. She said that they were the ones that convenced her to cheat on me.

 

Ranisha told me that her friends said that Ranisha & I attended diff. schools and lived in diff. neighborhood. And that, i could be cheating behind her back- so Ranisha should cheat also to teach me a lesson. Ranisha & I still talk though.We broke up on May 13th, 2003. Since then, i've called her a lot, written her love letters, and tried to reasure her that I never cheated on her... Ranisha told me that she see's her future with Michael & ME

I told her that i love her more than Michael ever will. I also told her that our relationship deserves another chance b/c she now knows the truth that i wasnt cheating on her.

 

When i ask her does she love me more than Michael, she says yes. But when i ask her does she wants us to get back together she says she doesn't know. I really love Ranisha, and i would NEVER cheat on her. But, i'm afraid that she will forget about me and fall in love with her new boyfriend- Michael. I really love Ranisha & I don’t want to looe her. I'm trying to get her back before it's too late-but, i dunno how. I've written letters, called her; apologize for "sounding" like i was cheating. She called me on last Thurs. apologizing for her acting harsh and mean towards me. She also told me that she still loves me. In response to her apologies, I apologized also. I don’t know if she will break up with her new boyfriend (Michael) to come back to me.

 

She tells me she doens't know who she wants to be with. I asked her how she likes her new boyfriend; she tells me that their relationship is OK. You see, Michael works form 3 to 11pm everynight. Ranisha can't talk on the phone before 12noon & 10:30pm. So, in order for her to talk to Michael at night, she has to sneak Ranisha doesn't call me a lot since we've broken up. But, she did tell me that she & Michael don't talk that much, nor does she see him very often like she did with me.

 

Michael lives about 20 miles away from her. So, the only way they can see eachother is in school or if he comes to her house (which only happened 1 time since the've been together). I need to know what I can do to get Ranisha back. I care for her more than Michael. She still seems interested, but at the same time confused about whom to choose- Me or Michael.

 

Ranisha told me that she doesn’t want to make a move (break up with Michael, to come back to me) until I move to her neighborhood. I asked her why. She said b/c she will see me more. I am very confused about this whole situation.

 

Can someone please tell me how to get Ranisha back, and what things should I say and do the next time I see & talk to her on the phone?

[pitprincess]

I hate that your going thru something like this but thank goodness your still young and have your life to look foward to.

Sweety you should give your self your love and respect to someone that wants you for you and wont go our cheating on you because its a THOUGHT that you were on her.

I believe if she would of cared as much for you as you do for her she would of came to you if she thought that you were cheating and not went and cheated to use as a tool to use on you once the subject came up.

I wish you the best and hope you find someone that makes you happy

 

The best way to get over her or to try and help your self is stop punishing your self by writing to her or emailing her or calling her. When the letters stop the phone stops ringing she will be able to get her head cleared and think about things out side of your contacting her. TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN THERE!

 

Try to take more time for your self, you sound like a great person and your going to make some lady very happy one day. Good Luck

[tpw3]

Ranisha called me yesterday. She told me that she is still with Michael b/c i'm pressuring her too much. She said that i am acting like she has to either choose me, or nobody else. On the other hand Ranisha said that Michael has not pressured her at all about the situtation. I told her the only reason why i was pressuring her was b/c i didn't want to loose her to Michael, i also told her that it seemed as if her & Michael were getteing closer & i was gradually fading out of her life. I believe that i can get Ranisha back, but i'm not sure how to go about doing that. I don't know the things to do to gain her heart back. Someone please help me...