Oh-noes Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 (edited) Hi guys, I've been lurking reading threads looking for advice and have decided to post in the hope someone can help me. A bit of back ground, from being 17 i've been in two long term relationships the last of which ended when I was 26 and did'nt end well at all. ps i'm 31 now. Since this time i've never really bothered looking other than a couple of drunken one nighters that are of no use to anyone and weren't initiated by me. However recently I saw a nice girl I liked in a shop whilst I was being served by the other assistant, this girl smiled at me a few times with a big grin and kept looking down back to what she was doing, I thought nothing of it because i'm oblivious to these things just lately but my friend said she likes you. Anyway to cut a long story short i've been going back and striking up conversations with her and trying to read these so called signals which again I dont understand, pretty sad huh. Everytime she sees me she smiles and holds eye contact then looks down shyly, in my mind this means she likes me but i've been wrong before . So now i'm at the stage where i'm thinking maybe I should just go in and ask her if she'd like to go for a drink or something, however I freeze and get flustered, which when I think about it is ridiculous, i'll either get a yes or a no, quite easy to rationalise it when your at home, whole different ball game stood face to face. So should I just do it and hope for the best or does anyone have any tips or am I reading things wrong? Bear in mind i'm completely shy and my self confidence is just about shot because I think i'm funny looking and i'm a terrible worrier. Edited February 19, 2008 by Oh-noes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Oh-noes Posted February 22, 2008 Author Share Posted February 22, 2008 So i've spoken to her again but I still cant seal the deal so to speak. Shes definitely very receptive to me (i think!), holds eye contact, lots of smiles, asks questions about me but when it comes to giving my number I freeze and then decide its time to go. I'm a complete wuss . Any suggestions on how to go about this without freezing up? I should just bite the bullet and do it before its too late, i'm off to grow some balls . Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 lol I'm sure you'll do just fine. Your nerves are acting up because you saw this girl who you're attracted to and you really don't want to screw up your chances. It's understandable. Seeing as she's rather receptive of you, I think that its now or never to initiate the exchange of numbers? Whats the worst that could happen? Remember you know know unless you try. Link to post Share on other sites
Hoffle Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, though she is on holiday at the moment (sigh...typical) and I don't think she likes me anywhere as near as I like her, in fact I doubt she likes me at all, it's a mis-match like Beauty and the Beast. Link to post Share on other sites
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