ibitealil Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 Ok i have this strange relation with a guy...lets call him Jay...we had sex once 4 years ago..it was a typical one night stand...he told me he liked me but he never asked me out..i moved on met someone ..he did the same and now he has a gf...we never really talked since then more than just being friendly with each other...and he texts me to wish me a happy birthday every year thats all...we studied at the same class at the college and i notice him checking up on me every time he sees me...fine, he just remembers what has happened i thought and didnt take it that seriously. last time i saw him at the graduation party and we talked a little and i felt he was trying to casually touch me...i didnt respond cuz i had a bf at the time. a month later he moved to another city with his gf. we d be still in touch. dropping a line or two on FB or MSN...he said im invited to see him to his new home i said thanks but i wasnt planning to see him. then september this year i broke up with my bf . and suddenly Jay starts to occur. 1st he sent me a happy new year sms. but just a friendly one. since then we texted each other more often. and one day he says directly how he finds me hot and wouldnt be able to sleep if i was there next to him. i got angry cuz i was upset with my ex so Jay got quiet. few days later he sends me this sexual link on FB i asked what it was and he started talking about sex and then how he likes to think about us...that it would be fun to seduce me again. kissing me all over. Fine, i got it he wants to do it again with me but why? why now? hes in another city. he has a gf. Doesnt that mean hes happy and has moved on? why does he act like that still after 4 years? Why men cheat? cuz they r unhappy with their current R? bored? or what ? Link to post Share on other sites
dani_girl33 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 He sounds exactly like some of the guys I know. Guys r just pigs. A lot of men just shouldn't be in relationships. Some men have difficult being with only one person. You really shouldn't let him get to you. And you probably shouldn't encourage it or reply back to his sexual text messages. He's probably just remembering the time you and him did it, and he just wants to do it again. It's really hard to say why all of a sudden he is doing that especially since he lives elsewhere and has a woman. I think it's all about the fantasy and the fact that he can't have u at the moment is what probably turns him on. He probably likes talking about it more than acting out the deed with you. Because obviously doing the deed would be cheating. But i guess naughty text messages could be considered cheating too. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Guys compartmentalize. His fantasy box is very careful not to touch is girlfriend box LOL.. Men (and women) "cheat" because they can. Having been single for many years prior to being married, I've found women, strangely, to be more "interested" once one wears a wedding ring; perhaps "safe" is more accurate, but I definitely do notice more attention. Having been a gentleman all my life, I take it for what I perceive it to be, a woman being friendly, not sexually interested. Not all men think this way, obviously FWIW, again having looked on as a single man for over 2 decades, I have noted that the "pigs" generally had no shortage of girlfriends/wives/partners, transient though they might have been. So, there must be something about them that women like and are attracted to and the oinkers know it Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 if it disgusts you so much, why do you still maintain contact with this guy? when you find out the answer to that, maybe you'll find the answer to the questions your asking. People cheat for various reasons; its hard to really say why they do it, but it happens and the only thing you can do is ask yourself if you want to be just like them; be involved with them; or simply go your own way and forget/ignore them. Cheating is everywhere, its something that can never be stopped. But you can at least do everything in your power to stop it from ruining your life (i.e: don't do it). Link to post Share on other sites
Author ibitealil Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 thanks guys for reply and i didnt do it and wont :-D :-D :-D :-D Link to post Share on other sites
Author ibitealil Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 Men (and women) "cheat" because they can. you r probably right, I dont know whether such PIGS always attract someone but it is true they have no shortage of women but oinkers like that were never potential LT partners in my criteria...and never will i hope Link to post Share on other sites
SidCaesar Posted March 22, 2008 Share Posted March 22, 2008 Men cheat because they think sex is more important than it really is, and they look for their satisfaction and fulfillment in other people rather than in themselves and their own qualities. So basically, because they're insecure, stupid, and have their priorities all out of wack. Well, that's actually why everyone cheats, one way or another. But men are in there. Link to post Share on other sites
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