UPDATE on GF's insecurities: Does this make sense?????

[wezol]

Sorry if this comes out long. This is a chat conversation I just had with her. I highlighted her in bold.

 

Dylan Van Wey: hey baby

 

 

Featherweight: I sware you would die wihtout a computer

Featherweight: What trouble are you lookin at now

Featherweight: Ford, talk radio?

Featherweight: some forum

Dylan Van Wey: nothing just got on to say high to you jerk

Dylan Van Wey: and looking for a dentist to get my wisdom teeth pulled

Featherweight: Right you got on a while ago and have not said hi to me

Dylan Van Wey: i did too

Featherweight: no I said hi to you

Dylan Van Wey: i said high baby

Dylan Van Wey: like 15 minutes ago

Featherweight: it told me when you got on

Dylan Van Wey: no i got on fifteen minutes ago or so

Featherweight: yeah it takes two seconds to say hi not fifiteen minutes jerk

Featherweight:

Dylan Van Wey: yeah i did say hi as soon as i got on

Dylan Van Wey: jerk

Featherweight: nope

Featherweight: got nothin

Dylan Van Wey: you didnt say anything so i closed the box and no here you are lol

Featherweight: You are lying to save your butt

 

(I copy and pasted -what's underlined- that I wrote to her and she got mad?)

 

Dylan Van Wey: Dylan Van Wey: hey baby

 

Featherweight: I sware you would die wihtout a computer

Featherweight: What trouble are you lookin at now

Featherweight: Ford, talk radio?

Dylan Van Wey: no if i could figure out how to make it save times next to it

Featherweight: what?

Featherweight: Screw it, your such a jerk

Dylan Van Wey: remember in AIM if you wanted to it could show the times next to the screen name after every thing you sent and what time tiw as sent

Dylan Van Wey: so there

 

(I put times next to them all to prove to her that I did message her)

Dylan Van Wey: Dylan Van Wey (2/19/2008 11:21:31 AM): hey baby

 

 

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Featherweight (2/19/2008 11:40:58 AM): I sware you would die wihtout a computer

Featherweight (2/19/2008 11:41:07 AM): What trouble are you lookin at now

Featherweight (2/19/2008 11:41:15 AM): Ford, talk radio?

Featherweight (2/19/2008 11:41:20 AM): some forum

Dylan Van Wey: see it was 11:21 when i messaged you

Dylan Van Wey:

Featherweight: Find other friends to talk to you always do

Dylan Van Wey: whats that supposed to mean

Featherweight: Like on aim instead of talking to me you always talked to everyone else

Featherweight: In fact, you could download aim and I can get some work done

Dylan Van Wey: no i would talk to you AND my friends

Dylan Van Wey: then get some work done

Featherweight: You are never happy to talk to me anymore so

Featherweight: just leave me alone

Dylan Van Wey: ok

Featherweight: I am not even happy to talk you anymore

Dylan Van Wey: are you serious

Featherweight: Yeah you don;t stay happy very long anymore

Featherweight: this conversation did not start bad you made it that way

Dylan Van Wey: not when you tell me i would rather talk to other people than you

Dylan Van Wey: no i didnt make it that way

Dylan Van Wey: i didnt even know it was bad

Featherweight: Everything gets on your nerves and you have a short temper

Dylan Van Wey: i was just trying to show you that i DID message you when i got on thats all

Dylan Van Wey: im not even mad...

Dylan Van Wey: lol

Featherweight: Have you found any one else on messenger yet

Dylan Van Wey: no i havent looked

Featherweight: I guess you should maybe Caitlin is on it

Dylan Van Wey: what is your problem?

Dylan Van Wey: when you start acting like this is when i get frustrated

Featherweight: Dylan all you are since you have been back is frustrated

Dylan Van Wey: why would i want to talk to you if all you are doing is telling me to talk to other people, leave you alone, you arent happy talking to me anymore

Dylan Van Wey: no, but no i am

Featherweight: well thats why

Dylan Van Wey: now*

Dylan Van Wey: youre impossible

Featherweight: no, but no I am?

Dylan Van Wey: no, but now* i am

Featherweight: i got it

Dylan Van Wey: i was never even upset

Featherweight: You have a short fuse now

Featherweight: it drives me crazy

Dylan Van Wey: i was just trying to show you that i DID message you and you got the impression that i didnt want to talk to you

Dylan Van Wey: fine

Featherweight: fine?

Dylan Van Wey: fine

Featherweight: what?

Dylan Van Wey: im done talking about it

Dylan Van Wey: because i am going to get mad and i dont want to be mad right now

Dylan Van Wey: i didnt do anything

Dylan Van Wey: you were just under the impression that i didnt want to talk to you or something

Dylan Van Wey: or that i wasnt happy talking to you

Dylan Van Wey: or whatever

Dylan Van Wey: dont care

Featherweight: See you turn in to this

Featherweight: you never care

Featherweight: I don't know if you are stressed or what

Featherweight: Everything with you is short and you get frustrated so damn easily nowDylan Van Wey: you did when you said "Find other friends to talk to you always do" and "Like on aim instead of talking to me you always talked to everyone else" and "In fact, you could download aim and I can get some work done" and "You are never happy to talk to me anymore so just leave me alone"

Dylan Van Wey: that is what turned it into this

Dylan Van Wey: when you say stuff like that is when i get frustrated

Dylan Van Wey: and you know that

Dylan Van Wey: you have known that

Dylan Van Wey: when you say stuff that implies that i would rather talk to other people instead of you

Dylan Van Wey: but you cant just accept that maybe i want to talk to you

Dylan Van Wey: but that goes down the drain when you start acting otherwise when i havent even done anything to imply that i dont want to talk to you

 

 

 

What am I to do? I am leaving in 2 weeks, should I just break it off with her? Is there any hope?

[wezol]

Nevermind, I think I just broke it off with her....

 

 

I think I am going to be sick

[Star Gazer]

She sounds about 14. How old are you two?

[wezol]

I am 21 and she is 20

[blind_otter]

From what I read, she was the one who made the convo go sour. As soon as you started chatting with her she started bitching about how it took you too long to say "HI" to her.

 

Then she started name calling by being the first person to say "JERK" - course you said it back to her, so you're kinda on the same level there.

 

Then it pretty much goes down hill from there. Ick. I would break up with her too.

[Star Gazer]

Why are you IM'ing your GF? Why are you engaging in conflict with her via IM? That's not a very useful method of communication. Why not pick up the phone?

[wezol]

Sometimes we do call eachother "jerk" just messing around, sarcastically. When she called me that I did not take it offensively and I was messing around when I called her the same, trying to lighten the mood.

 

As to why I didnt pick up the phone, I don't have one right now. Being on the verge of deployment I went ahead and cancelled it early to save some money.

[Star Gazer]

As to why I didnt pick up the phone, I don't have one right now. Being on the verge of deployment I went ahead and cancelled it early to save some money.

 

Consider yourself better off. You don't need to be deployed and worrying about this brat of a girl.

[Enema]

Well you know what they say when it comes to women:

 

Attractive, Intelligent, Sane :-- Pick Two.

[Ronni_W]

Nevermind, I think I just broke it off with her....

 

 

I think I am going to be sick

Sorry that you're going through this so close to deployment.

 

But it does sound like you've made the best decision for yourself, for this time in your life -- there are some screwed up dynamics in the relationship that likely won't sort themselves out in just 2 weeks, and you DON'T need the extra aggro after you leave.

 

Still. It sucks at the best of times... all's I can offer is "hang in there."

[mylovegrowsdeeper]

I agree that she sounds extremely childish and immature and like a DAMN HEADACHE. However, there are two sides to every story and we all do not know wether or not that is normal behavior for her or wether she is being petty and trying to split hairs because she's frustrated and hurt and worried about you leaving. That could also be a very likely possibility. If this is typical behavior for her all the time..I second the notion that you made the right choice. If you could live your life with the choice to have headaches or not, which would you choose? Because all you'd be doing is choosing the "to have a headache" option.