stagnant Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 i've moved around a fair bit in the last ten years. i've tried the long-distance relationship thing more than once. in fact, i think i'm pretty good at it. phone calls, emails, video chats, the occassional flying in for the weekend... but it seems that every man that i've been involved with seem to forget me as soon as im out of town. no matter how long we were in the relationship already. how much they've claimed to love me. regardless that they've asked me to stay with tears streamin. as soon as im off on the plane, their life continues as if i've never existed. fellas, please tell me how is it that your gender can move on so easily? how can you claim to love a woman and then turn around and have dinner with 'a friend' and of course end up sleeping with her? was i lied to from the get-go? did i never matter? how can i move on at the same pace? i feel like even though i leave physically, i'm the one who has been left behind emotionally... Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 I don't think they forget you at all. I think guys have a different shut off valve than women do. I have had long term relationships- and they have never worked for me. I dated someone who lived three provinces away. I would see him once every couple weeks. We would have a great couple days together- and then on the last day he would ALWAYS go cold as ice as my time to leave was approaching. It's like he would mentally prepare for my departure by cleansing himself of any thoughts or feelings about me. I would return home, there would be a cold period- and then he would start to get loving and excited again. I think it's a switch that some people are able to turn on and off. Don't take it personally- please. I know it's hard not to. Perhaps in some ways the men you date feel rejected when they want you to stay and you leave. They don't see you leave and forget about you as soon as you go.... they just choose (yes choose) not to deal with it, so they shut down. I know some women who are able to do this as well. Do you travel so much that dating locally isn't an option then? It truly is easier to date someone who remains close. I have decided to stop trying long distance relationships. They are just too draining! Link to post Share on other sites
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