shanny Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Hi Everyone... I posted a couple days ago about my situation and I appreciate your responses. In a nutshell... my guy treats me like crap, has a questionable relationship with his exwife and I can't trust him to save my life. I know I should leave him, but I lost all of my friends because of him and I'm terrified to go through the whole breaking up, heartbroken thing with no support system. Some people sugggested trying to get back in touch with my old friends... Not really possible because at the end it got really ugly. So me and my guy kinda made up (or so I thought). We went out the other night and had a great time. I was foolish enough to think that we were better but since then he has continued to sit around the house and barely talk to me. Obviously the great night we had meant nothing to him besides just a good time and some sex. I'm even more upset now. He's just ignoring me and occasionally banging me. He's not acting affecionate or anything... There is so much wrong based on how much he's lied to me and I shouldn't even forgive him but I'm willing to because I love him so much. I know everyone will say to just leave him... and I know I should... but does anyone have any ideas of how I can start getting friends? There is really nothing wrong with me... but I don't know where to meet people or anything. I'm just so scared to go through endless nights of crying by myself. Thx... Link to post Share on other sites
ABrokenWing Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Hi shanny. What about friends at work? I would also suggenst looking online for support groups in your area. Maybe a class or two at a local college in things you are interested in? Like Cooking? Good Luck, you do need to leave him. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Adjunct to your issue, was the relationship the cause of loss of "old friends"? Did they disapprove of the relationship? Hanging out here is a good start, to get some clarity. The next step could be noticing those who take interest in you IRL and topically broaching your issues. Those with generalized empathy will indicate such by their reaction and you might find those relationships worth developing. It's important to show your appreciation for their support, even though you may feel wrapped up in your own emotions at the time. I've served this function for many over the years and speak from experience. It's very gratifying to know one has helped another through a difficult time and wish them a happy future. A few good friendships have resulted. Life is an interesting journey Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanny Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 Thank you for your advice. I have found comfort in replying to other people's posts. It helps me to not think about my problems and makes me feel good to help someone else... I love this site. The friends that I lost due to my current boyfriends... I was put in a situation where I had to choose him or them. I foolishly chose him. Actually I don't know how foolish it was because good friends wouldn't give an ultimatum right? It was a bad situation... they were mean to him, he was mean to them. It was like high school all over again, only worse. I'm definetly going to try get involved in some things to meet people. You are right, life definetly is an interesting journey. Everything can change in an instant just by meeting one person. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
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