Trying to get back into it

[DrGilbertBrown]

So it's been almost a year now since me and my old girlfriend split up. I really liked her. It came out of nowhere when she said she didn't want to be with me anymore. I really didn't see it coming. This also happened before with another girlfriend of mine. I was just blind sided by both of them. And afterwards I was just depressed over the whole thing. Like I opened myself up to them and they got to see that part of me and consequently rejected me because of it. It's just creating that incentive to wear that armor again to shield myself from these blows. It sounds cliche and whiny I know but it's so true. I can't help it.

 

Anyway I've been trying to get back into the game again. This past semester I've done all the social occasions with my housemates and friends. Gone to bars and parties and such and talked with and flirted with girls. But thats just for kicks really. I never go for numbers or really pursue any of them. The motivation just isn't there. I'm not feeling it. And I mostly don't want to make a repeat of my former relationships. Investing all of that emotion only for it to sink away and leave me with nothing.

 

I figured I might call up an old booty girl that I know. You know jump start my libido. But I hate that fake sex feeling. Like after you've come and you're lying next to this girl you don't really like and you're trying to come up with any excuse to get away from this person. I hate that feeling. It makes me feel so dirty and dishonest.

 

And now I'm out of school so an entire potential avenue for meeting women is closed off. I just don't know what to do now. I see myself just continuing on this way. Me putting off this problem in my mind. Jerking off to internet porn three times a day and brushing off girls who are interested in me. How do I get over this?

Edited February 20, 2008 by DrGilbertBrown

[Whey2Big4u]

well, imo, i think you should go to the gym. I recently had to be thrown back in the game when my ex fiance left me. Its hard at first and still is. I still go with my frineds to meet girls but go nowhere with them. I started hitting the gym again and it helped me feel better about myself.

 

Also instead of a booty call, call a frined who you had some interst in and ask her to go out to hang out with you, no sex. who knows what ittl be afterwards, but go without intentions. this will help you get mmore interest to meet others. or try internet dating on the side, just for more options. Mever thaoguht id do it, im a good looking guy, but with my busy schedule it helps

 

Its aslo not over for you, go out still you dont have to be a certain age to go out

[JCD]

Recently, life threw me a curve and dropped two girls into my lap. Since then I realized that I can't control my life in that way and stopped trying. There will be periods when you will go long time without a girl and then one day, bang, there she is. Also, don't become desperate and settle for less. Know your values and stick to them.