CopyPasteWaffles Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Ever since I started falling in love, I've found that I'm an EXTREMELY jealous person. So much so that I'm now at the point where I've turned down multiple opportunities to pursue a relationship because being in one is so painful for me. To let you in on how bad it's gotten, I would get jealous when.. -my spouse spends time with other guys -my spouse laughs at another guy's joke -my spouse compliments another guy It's so painful, it's one of the reasons I've taken up cutting, burning, and overdosing. I've tried to kill myself due to jealousy pains numerous times. I don't know what to do. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, but right now being single is less painful than being in a relationship.. no matter how understanding my partner may or may not be. Please help.. Oh, and, it's worth noting.. girls don't make me jealous AT ALL, even if my girlfriend is bisexual. Dare I say, I wouldn't even mind if my girlfriend were to get sexual with another girl. However, even gay guys make me jealous. What do you guys make of that? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 You really need to get help and understand why you get so jealous. It's ruining your life, and any real happiness you may have in a relationship. Something from your past, childhood and teen experiences has made you this way. Talking to someone will help you change your thinking patterns, and also how to cope with the jealously when it hits you. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Do you think it is a self-esteen issue, wherein you are envious of these other guys, or do you think you are possessive of your spouse requiring her full attention? Besides girls that is. Are you not threatened by women or are you just excited by the idea of seeing/being with two women? Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 seems you have lots of fear in you. I have too, but I am asking God to give me more deeper understanding about certain issues, when I pray, I do feel peace overwhelm me and opened my eyes to things that I didn't know wish you work it out soon Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopyPasteWaffles Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 Do you think it is a self-esteen issue, wherein you are envious of these other guys, or do you think you are possessive of your spouse requiring her full attention? Probably both. I compare myself to other guys which leads to depression and a panicked feeling that I'm going to lose my gf to one of them. I'm also very possessive and I CRAVE attention.. Besides girls that is. Are you not threatened by women or are you just excited by the idea of seeing/being with two women? I'm just not threatened by them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopyPasteWaffles Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 Something from your past, childhood and teen experiences has made you this way. It could stem from my first relationship.. I was forced to allow my girlfriend to cheat on me because every time I brought it up she would end up crying or cutting herself. I thus had to endure reading her online journal about how much the other guy means to her and how he makes her feel, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopyPasteWaffles Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 seems you have lots of fear in you. I have too, but I am asking God to give me more deeper understanding about certain issues, when I pray, I do feel peace overwhelm me and opened my eyes to things that I didn't know wish you work it out soon I'm glad you find comfort there.. : ] however, I don't believe in any gods so I don't have that option. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Therapy. Burning and cutting yourself is not "normal". Make an appointment now. Tell this story to someone close to you in the real world so they can support you. Link to post Share on other sites
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