BlueEyedGirl Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 There is someone that I have known for a while and sometimes he just randomly says that he will give me a call in the next few days and then about 50% of the time he doesn't. I don't ask for a call - he just offers and then doesn't follow through. What is the best way to act when I next see him after he does this? Normally, I just don't say anything and don't act any differently - I just pretend like I haven't even noticed that he didn't call. But I'm now thinking is that I'm acting like a doormat by not bringing this up. I'm not sure what is the best way to act? By the way, I'm friends with this guy and we are not in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 next time he says he'll call just laugh at him and say "sure ya will buddy. ;)" and play it off like you could care less. at the very least, he'll call just to not prove you right. or you could just volunteer to call him before he does. how is he about plans when you make them? is he flaky? punctual? late? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted February 22, 2008 Author Share Posted February 22, 2008 next time he says he'll call just laugh at him and say "sure ya will buddy. ;)" and play it off like you could care less. at the very least, he'll call just to not prove you right. or you could just volunteer to call him before he does. how is he about plans when you make them? is he flaky? punctual? late? He is very good with plans, he is never late, never cancels. It's just the calling thing that puzzles me. Yeah, I think that bringing this up and asking him why he didn't call would show that I care too much. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 I think you are doing the right thing by not acting any different when you see him. The next time he says he'll call you say, "Oh you don't have to say that, we'll just see each other when we do. It's great seeing you again." Then give him a big smile, twist your butt and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 Is he a friend you would like to date? Otherwise, in my neck of the woods it's fairly common for friends to say they will call and then not follow through. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 Sounds to me like he likes to call the shots and he wants you to think of him. It seems like he likes you but he's more into the control issue than the dating/relationship thing. I would do nothing. See where it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Magnatolia Posted February 23, 2008 Share Posted February 23, 2008 I think you're all over reacting. Chances are he's probably forgetful when it comes to calling. Like I know a couple of girls who are really slacking at responding to txt messages. Yet when we hang out they're super fun and we talk heaps. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted February 23, 2008 Share Posted February 23, 2008 Given the fact that he is good about following through on everything else, the old "I'll call you" line could be chalked up as simply a man's way of trying to be polite. I bet he doesn't even think about it. But I wouldn't get googly-eyed over him. On some level I believe it IS rather insensitive behavior to say something like that when he has no intention of actually living up to it. But since he is only a guy pal, I would just give him a hard time about it (the next time he says it) - and let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
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