ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 So last night I went out with my new beau. We went out with a couple that he is friends with. We went to our fave local bar...where we have been in attendance a few times a week for a few weeks now. Short version is I get up to use the loo, and an off duty female waitress is sitting in my seat when I get to the table. She has seen us there on several occasions together and last night we were all touchy touchy. When I approach the table...she doesn't get up...he says nothing...so I pull up a chair. Strike one...the girl was rude. Anyhow after some time the girl gets up....only to leave her purse....and goes to get a beer on his tab. I'd been drinking so I was pretty steamed. Especially when I saw his hand on her neck. After the girl finally leaves our table....purse in tow. I scoot back into my chair. He asked me if that episode bothered me. I said that yes it did. Then I asked if it bothered him. He said yes...got up...walked over to her....and hugged her. WTF???????? We spent the night together last night. But this morning he had to leave for work early. Instead of staying over at his place and sleeping in....I got up and left with him...he said maybe two words to me this morning. And hasn't called me all day. Should I drop the dude or what? Link to post Share on other sites
Space Marine Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Did that bother you? Yes, it did. Did that bother you? Yes it did. I didn't hug her enough. Let me go rectify that. WTF???? All better now. Thanks. He sounds like an ass hamster. Throw him through a window and tell Asian children to laugh at him. Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianaLima Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 I wouldn't establish a relationshiop with this dude at all.The two of you were on a date, and some random chick,(maybe he knew her,maybe he didn't), comes over to come sit in your seat, and hold a conversation with him,and he doesn't say anything about it, that's crazy. He didn't introduce her to you, whoever she was. She put a drink on his tab, and he allowed it to happen, and he's gonna ask you if that bothered you. Guys.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 I like the guy. We have ALOT in common. But there's so much more to the story. He has ALOT of baggage. ALOT. And I know that without that stuff we'd be perfect for eachother. I guess this is a sign to move on before I get any more into him. And BTW...I LOVE Ass Hamster...I'll have to use that term when I quit seeing him;) Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Drop him. He was rude to you and didnt even had to courtesy to apologize. Unforgiveable. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Marine Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 I agree. My previous comments may not have illustrated that, but you don't throw someone through a window that you intended to keep dating. In all seriousness, having things in common is nice, but as it's been said many times, it's not all THAT important if other things don't match up. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 My guy friend says: He is trying to gauge how much he can get away with. It was a jerk move and he knew it. He still got you to go home with him so now the guy knows he can be as classless and disrespectful as his mood inclines him to be and you will still go home with him. It's not going to get any better for you from here on out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 Damn...the situation sucks. Why do I always find the "keepers"? Anyone else ever feel like that? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Drop him. He was rude to you and didnt even had to courtesy to apologize. Unforgiveable. I have to agree with paper cut... Drop him.. the rudeness and disrespect are going to continue to get worse from here on out... In the end you will dump him.. Why not save yourself the feeling of having wasted your time.. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Damn...the situation sucks. Why do I always find the "keepers"? Anyone else ever feel like that? ...Um..how is this guy a "keeper" again ? Link to post Share on other sites
Space Marine Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 I assume the quotations indicated sarcasm. I'm a keeper without the quotations, FYI. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Did he say she was a friend or anything? I would figure out who she is to him before I dumped him. But if she was just some random woman that night, or maybe an ex I'd dump him. If she was just a friend having a rough night, or someone he hasn't seen for a long time, I'd drop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 She is a waitress at the bar our local bar. She's seen us in there together a few times....seen us kiss etc....And last week when we were there, she totally was being rude to some other customers...and he told me how they are trying to get rid of her..... He did say he's known her alot longer than he's known me. Woooo.... Man up buddy. I mean when you are with a girl who you are "dating" you are supposed to make her feel as if she is the only girl u are interested in, atleast on the date. And if you know you've offended her, even unintentionally, apologize...act like you care. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 She is a waitress at the bar our local bar. She's seen us in there together a few times....seen us kiss etc....And last week when we were there, she totally was being rude to some other customers...and he told me how they are trying to get rid of her..... He did say he's known her alot longer than he's known me. Woooo.... Man up buddy. I mean when you are with a girl who you are "dating" you are supposed to make her feel as if she is the only girl u are interested in, atleast on the date. And if you know you've offended her, even unintentionally, apologize...act like you care. I agree with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 Good morning! So he works as a firefighter (they work 24 hour shifts.) I called him yesterday around 4pm to see if he wanted me to bring him dinner, of course he didn't answer so I left message. Anyhow he still hasn't called back. This is sooo over. Now what to do with all the stuff he's left over here at my huse????? Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 I know you said its over, but I'm still floored by the fact that even though you told him you were bothered he then took it a step further. Like he was taunting you. As far as his stuff. Put it in a box(s). Call him up and tell him he has 2 days to come and get it or it's being thrown in the dumpster. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Give his stuff to the waitress. seriously tho, just put it on his porch and don't call him anymore. He'll figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Firefighter? Have a bonfire with his stuff. He'll show up That one would've been worth a 6.00 beer in the face in front of everyone. Do ladies still get away with that overwhelmingly proper response to being blatantly disrespected? I certainly hope so Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Good morning! So he works as a firefighter (they work 24 hour shifts.) I called him yesterday around 4pm to see if he wanted me to bring him dinner, of course he didn't answer so I left message. Anyhow he still hasn't called back. This is sooo over. Now what to do with all the stuff he's left over here at my huse????? Ebay? Just teasing...but the advertisement on the top and side was for ebay as I read this...so maybe it's a sign. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahotmess Posted February 25, 2008 Author Share Posted February 25, 2008 Okay, so now I know I'm just being a silly girl...but he still hasn't called. What a jerk! I mean....seriously? Seriously? I love all of ur ideas for what to do with his stuff....especially giving it to the waitress. LOL! This whole ridiculously silly situation makes me think that maybe I really am just happier being single. It's a weird thought for me to process...but I'm really digging it right now. Thanks for all your comments! Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 I know you said its over, but I'm still floored by the fact that even though you told him you were bothered he then took it a step further. Like he was taunting you. That's what stood out to me, too. He's not just clueless, he's not just rude, he's flat out intentionally mean. Be thankful that you saw it early. Link to post Share on other sites
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