Nomad1 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 I have placed this thread under coping as it is sobering to recall some of the nasty things people say to each other during the separation / divorce. So, what is the nastiest thing your Ex said or did? Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 That sex was to me what music was to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Crestfallen_KH Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 The nastiest thing my ex-husband did was to move in with his married girlfriend right after we separated and take her around to meet his family before we'd even started the divorce proceedings. The nastiest thing he said? Easy. "Yeah, this (the divorce) could really be good. I mean, you're looking forward to getting out there and testing out your market value aren't ya?" Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 nastiest thing my ex wife said to me as i was reaching into the stew for a piece of meat"touch that stew and i'll run this knife right thru you." Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 I hope you get in a car accident and die.. you mother effing cheap prick Link to post Share on other sites
FooledOnce Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 "Okay, I admit it. I ****ed ______" Link to post Share on other sites
Jade 02 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 The nastiest thing my ex did was sleep with my slut sister with another guy at the same time, who was the town drunk. GROSSSSSSSSSS!!!! Yes I left the same day I busted them all. Link to post Share on other sites
Issues & tissues Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 On our relationship: "The last 10 years were a mistake!" When I asked him about his affairs with other women: "You are not my wife or the mother of my children so I don't owe you any explanation!" Ouch! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 "I haven't been in love with you for months" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nomad1 Posted February 26, 2008 Author Share Posted February 26, 2008 1. I love you but I am not in love with you. 2. ' I don't feel that I have the same responsibilities to you that a wife has to her husband anymore' 3. 'You have everything, you're handsome, you're kind, you have a good job, many women would love you. I can give you a good reference' 4. when she asked for sex five times during the separation and I subsequently asked 'so why did you want to get intimate? she replied 'just for the sex' 5. 'You are too nice!' 6. 'It's nothing to do with you, it's me! I just don't think I am into marriage (after 17yrs!). I like to touch the lives of different people' (more like different d*cks!) 7. 'I wasted 17yrs with you!' 8. 'If you don't share the parenting equally when we divorce, I am going to get another man to fill your shoes' Man the list goes on! What a nasty piece of merde! Nomad1 Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Damn, Nomad, I'd say you're way better off without her!!! Here are a few more from mine: "I just think that whoever she is, the love of my life is an old-time fiddle player." "I can't believe that you of all people don't know that things change." "If the bass could f*ck me back, you'd be SOL." In bed: Him: "I like that." (referring to whatever it was I was doing to him) Me: "What else do you like?" Him: "Fiddle tunes." But definitely the thing that made me angriest was when he told me that sex was to me what music was to him. Because writing and dancing mean nothing to me, it's just all about sex. He really seemed to feel that if a person had any career or interests other than music, they were totally invalid. Maybe the cruelest thing of all, though, was that he told me he loved me seven hours before he dumped me, and fell asleep holding me. Or that he had sex with me the night before he dumped me. Or maybe it was that ever told me I could trust him in the first place, and gave me no indication that when the going gets tough in life, his tendency is to bail. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Many years ago there was a GF that said this to me when we were getting ready to have sex in the morning and I went down on her " Do you have to do that ?.. Can't you just put it in and get it over with ? ".. hahahaha.. I did just that...we broke up 3 days later.. hahahaha, She was the coldest woman I have ever met.. hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Nastiest thing? Cheat on me with another guy who I later found out has an STD, and she tried to lie about it. Fortunately I am clean. Link to post Share on other sites
g1976b Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 This may not seem like much, but she knew EXACTLY what she was doing and it cut me deep. She was over a week or so ago to pack up some of her things. She ran across a tiny polo shirt she'd bought several months ago (she works in merchandising for a large chain retailer and one day we were at the store and she bought 'her' shirt for our future little boy). Anyway, once the shirt came out there were comments about how she'd bought it for our child and I responded that I still wanted that and I wasn't the one who was ending it. Her response? "Oh, don't worry...I'm still going to have kids" and other comments about how it was no big deal that it wouldn't be with me. Very painful. Link to post Share on other sites
Rich464 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 my ex was arguing with me and trying to provoke me into an argument after i refused to fight with her anymore over the phone and she shouted down the phone "WELL MAYBE ILL JUST GO F*CK SOMEONE ELSE ON CAMPUS THAT WANTS TO F*CK ME THEN!" That cut deep, we split after that. I havent spoken to her since. that was 9 days ago but ive only managed 4 days of NC so far And you think you know these people that say they love you ...... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 The worst thing my ex-H did was to cheat, then try to cover it up with lies. In hindsight, maybe it was the best thing he did, before we had a family and mired us deeper into muck. I'm really glad to be rid of the ball and chain. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 The nastiest thing my ex ever did was not to be nasty at all. After HE dumped me, he's always acted sad towards me and around me, said inappropriate emotional things to me, asked me for advice in his life (on things I had given advice on while we were together and was ignored or dismissed), and actually included a representation of me in a huge tattoo he got so that he'd "never forget our time together". Oh, and said that hopefully we can be together in the next life because we can't in this one. I'd much rather be told I'm an ugly, nasty, horrid b*tch instead of his totally mental passive BS. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nomad1 Posted February 26, 2008 Author Share Posted February 26, 2008 You know when she said these little gems, the intention was to hurt, but the desired effect was not achieved when each time I looked back at her and smiled and just said, oh is that so? The thing is she was full of contradictions, because when I was f**c*ing her in various locations in the house and she was begging me not to stop,she also said 'oh other women would love you for this. Oh I'm so lucky. I don't want you to go with another woman! I'll go to the gym and tone my body for you. I'll do anything for you. You can put it anywhere you like. I would never do what I do with you with anyone else, oh you're the best!. The woman is nuts! Nomad1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jmina Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 "I think your a pyscho" "slut" "Youre playing the victim" "Your playing the blaming game" "us us us all we ever talk about is us" "I want to be ****ed by a man!" "leave me the **** alone so i can get the **** over you. have a nice life" "i brought 'him' to your house for support" She isnt angry any more (god knows why she should be the angry one) she wishes me well and luck for 2008 she wishes i would just get over it she thinks she is over it, but any contact is way too premature. i think its all nasty. i am treated like a disease. Jmina Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 The nastiest thing my ex said to me, he said passive-aggressively. A couple days after we went NC, he joined a group on facebook called "Coalition for a Succubus-Free America". "Q: What is a succubus? A: Succubi are unholy demon spawn females that impose their will on everyone around them. They usually take the form of a girlfriend to steal the soul of an unsuspecting friend to manipulate their reality. Their only pleasure is removing every once of fun from the life of the soul that they posess. They do not tolerate guy time or contact with rival females. They have no redeeming qualities." That killed me. Probably cause, unfortunately, it was true about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Confused9 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 well, first he cheated on me then he lied about it. then when he told me about it he said it was only a kiss come to find out later, a month (by him via TEXT message) he was in love and having a baby!!!! He text messaged me and emailed me mostly throughout the break-up. We were together 7 years and getting married this October. He has been posting mean crap on myspace and told me he never loved me, I was the worst thing that ever happened to him and that it was over for a long time. RIIIIIGHT!!! He then stopped paying me 200.00 a week for the debt we both had caused in the 7 years we were together so I had to get a second job. Of course the debt is all in my name. This man loved me then 2 days later he hated me. How this happened I have no idea. Why it happened I have no idea. It's been almost 6 months and I am still heartbroken and confused. I miss him everyday. How I can miss him is beyond me. After everything he said and did...I still love him. He know lives in a different state (he went there to work to pay for our wedding!!!) and hasn't spoken to anyone from our lives in months. It's like he's a whole new person. It's so sad. So so sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nomad1 Posted February 27, 2008 Author Share Posted February 27, 2008 Confused, one day you will look back and be so happy that the marriage never went ahead. Could you imagine if he did what he did 5 yrs and 2 kids down the line! He treated you with contempt. I wonder why he said 'I never loved you'. Why was he planning to get married to you then? He sounds childish and immature and you are better off without him. Take care Nomad1 Link to post Share on other sites
Confused9 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 He said a lot of things. He would say he never loved me then say 'he has no idea why he is being so mean, he had the best years of his life with me and he will always love me. But we are too different and he knows I will find someone better.' he said so much hurtful stuff. He would say he cheated before then take it back. He was just a total @sshole. I don't know what happened to him. He says he's the happiest he's ever been but I just don't believe that. He's an alcoholic and has some sort of mental illness (I think bipolar?) but he hurt me so bad. I just don't feel like he knew what the h*ll he was doing. I still believe he's going to come back. What an idiot huh? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 "Is it in yet?" Wait, I'm still married Is the fact that I can laugh at this a good thing or a bad thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Issues & tissues Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 When I found out he was cheating on me: Ex -I thought it was over between us! Me -Oh really? Then how come we were sharing a house together and sleeping in the same bed everynight? And when exactly were you going to let me know it was "over between us"? Link to post Share on other sites
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