Belkin Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 "I don't love you anymore, it's not you it's me, let's just be friends, don't change anything you're great." "I SWEAR I'm not looking at other guys right now" (and slept with ***** in the next few hours, and from then on pretty much every other night.) Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 2sunny, that was so mean for him to say. I hope you slapped his a**! Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 "I know what you're thinking punk, this is a six shot, have I fired five or have I fired six?" Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 "nobody will ever love you 2sunny" god that still gets to me today... I think there comes a point at which a person undermines their own credibility with their desire to be cruel. How seriously should a rational adult take anyone who is so f*cked up that they would try to inflict that kind of pain and emotional damage on another person? It reminds me of the violent, screwed up adolescents I used to work with - or the trolls who visit this board from time to time in order to project their own damage onto other people. I used to have a certain amount of empathy for people like that, on the basis that they must have been through something awful to become so messed up. It's dangerous to think like that, because you end up getting sucked into their screwed up little worlds in an effort to "fix" them. Then after they're done with you, you're left trying to figure out how to fix yourself - let alone anyone else. I'm willing to bet that's exactly what has happened with a lot of people on this site. The ones who feel compelled to relive over and over again abusive things their malfunctioning ex partners said or did to them. Ditto to what TBF says here No more limping, no more settling and for some of you, no more abuse. While some of you are on your own, there's no one to say or do these hurtful things to you now and potentially, there will never be anyone else who will be given the opportunity to say and do hurtful things to you and get away with it. Actions to consequences. Move onwards and upwards. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Double ditto on TBF's post. Better on your own than in a relationship with an abusive j***!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Years ago I briefly dated a guy who turned out to be an abusive assh*le. I dumped him after I found out he was literally following me around or having me followed everywhere I would go. He would come to my house and go through my stuff - I had a hunch he was doing it, so I left a note for him in my 'box' - this memento box where I keep letters, pictures, etc. It said.. "If you are reading this, then understand I am done with you. Take your sh*t and get out of my house and I don't want anything else to do with you." When I got home that evening from work, he was there sitting at my kitchen table with the note. He was convinced I was doing this because I was cheating on him (he thought I was cheating on him with everyone from the grocery bagger to my own students). I wasn't surprisingly enough, but that was beside the point. I broke it off firmly right then and there. He left. The next morning, I had a meeting to go to and picked up a colleague for the meeting and we stopped in at a fast food place for coffee. The ex was there and went ballistic - screaming in the parking lot that he knew I was a whore, and that he knew I was f*cking this guy (I was absolutely HORRIFIED at his behavior, especially in front of my colleague). He threw a large milkshake at my car, and it exploded all over the back and top of my car. It was ugly, sophomoric and gross. I was never so glad to be rid of someone as I was to be rid of that psycho. Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 1)Me asking her what about her first experience with me (I was her first). Me:but what about you and I being together and you saying you were glad you waited for the right person? Her:People make mistakes. 2)Me asking about our breakup Me:Why are you doing this to me. I have been good to you. I never cheated on you and I always tried to make you feel as special as I could. Her: Thats Life. 3)Me telling her that I feel that I lost my bestfriend Me:I really miss talking to you at night like we always would and telling each other about our days. When I lost you, I also lost my bestfriend Her:Well your just going to have to get used to it. Just don't call me 4)Me telling her that I didnt want to give up on our relationship Me:you told me the first time you left me when you came back to never give up on you and I'm trying as hard as I can to do what you asked me to. If you were seeing someone then that would be different. Her:Well do you want me to start seeing someone so you'll stop trying 5)Me telling her that I miss her and I dont want to lose her Me:dont leave me. We've been through so much. It hurts so bad. (I start sobbing audibly) Her:you always get so dramatic about these things!! Me: (still sobbing) its just that it really hur Her: (cutoff by her) You know what, I don't have time for this Me:wait plea.. Her:---------------------------DIALTONE------------------------------------ From reading this, she seems like an honest, sensible person, and you seem clingy and whiny. I don't think that any of the things she said could really be considered 'nasty'. I'm sure she told you it's over many times before these discussion happened... Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 My ex-gf from a few years ago, after 4 years of being together and more than half a year of being on-off not-together anymore, tried to bash my head in with a heavy, one-meter long, metal pipe during a fight. I'm good with words, so in fights it usually gets to a point where a gf gets _really_ angry and doesn't know what to say anymore... I only had one girlfriend that never tried to attack me physically. But don't worry, I never stroke back, and I am big and strong, so I don't think there ever was any real danger (except maybe for the metal pipe situation)... Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 (except maybe for the metal pipe situation)... Honey, is that you??? Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Honey, is that you??? Hahaha. ...probably not. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Hahaha. ...probably not. I don't think so either. My pipe was delivered telekinesis/karma style from miles away. He is okay and it failed to knock any sense into him anyway. One of life's funny and appropriately timed accidents. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Ooooooo where do I start He called me a fat c*nt when I was pregnant He poured boiling water into my handbag because I disagreed with him he tol me he hopes I die painfully of cancer he said he hates me and just hearing my voice winds him up Oh actually I am not going to carry on, I just do not care anymore, but there is lots more! Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 I don't think so either. My pipe was delivered telekinesis/karma style from miles away. He is okay and it failed to knock any sense into him anyway. One of life's funny and appropriately timed accidents. Oh, just an accident? Now I'm disappointed... I cherish the memory of my metal-pipe wielding ex, raging fury in her eyes, rushing towards me while screaming obscenities... Link to post Share on other sites
emotionally_barren Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 She told me that she wasn't in love with me anymore and is in love with my (former) best friend who she's been f**king behind my back for at least 2 months. Bah! They deserve each other! Nice eh? Link to post Share on other sites
emotionally_barren Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Ooooooo where do I start He called me a fat c*nt when I was pregnant He poured boiling water into my handbag because I disagreed with him he tol me he hopes I die painfully of cancer he said he hates me and just hearing my voice winds him up Oh actually I am not going to carry on, I just do not care anymore, but there is lots more! Missed that one! That is some harsh stuff there Lishy! That fella needs his nuts hammered with,well, a hammer! There's mean and then there's what he said (which I am sure there are more examples, don't mean to bring it up). Link to post Share on other sites
evoLve Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 (edited) "Sometimes I say things to try and hurt you on purpose" (While still together, over the phone while busy with my family, out of NOWHERE) I ask her why she stopped talking to the guy she cheated on me with for her new BF, but wouldnt do that for me. She responds.. "Because I knew I wasnt really gonna stay with you." I want to be with you forever. Ill never stop loving you. I cant wait to have kids with you. Ill never leave you. ^^^^^^^ Well, they all hurt now... Damn I hate forevers! I never want to lose you I miss you Your the best Baby! Come back (While on vacation in NY) I miss you more I miss you already Your too cute Morning my cuddle bear (One morning) ^^^^^^^ These were ALL within the past month... We broke up about 7 months ago. Dont even ask about the other 6 months. Dont get your hopes up she says, LOL! Broke up with me for the first time Feb 12 07, back together Feb 14 07. While getting back together she says she made a big mistake and I cut her off saying its ok, taking her back. I found out 2 days later through her that the big mistake wasn't letting me go. In her words... "You remember the day I broke up with you? Well... *hesitated* I wasn't *hesitated more* very faithful to you that day." I was honestly so surprised and hurt and filled by emotion from this one, I passed out in front of her house, in the pouring rain, in the grass, in a very expensive italian jacket. And she was the one who would never trust me but the only thing she EVER promised me was that she wouldn't cheat on me. LOL! The only thing that tops that is when she told me she cheated on me again with the same guy months later after promissing never to talk to him again. I told her something would happen between them BOTH times, but NOOOOO, she wouldn't listen. There are only a million others, these come to mind fastest. But Ill never stop loving her, and Ill never know why... Edited March 17, 2008 by evoLve Link to post Share on other sites
LuCidiTy Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 The morning after he punched me in the eye, he looked at me, laughed, and said, "I hit you in the forehead...doesn't matter tho...your face is so messed up no one will notice anyway." Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 "Happy Mother's Day" is a term I use for people I respect. Does that tell you anything?" Link to post Share on other sites
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