Aoife Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 By the way, I don't understand why you faff about how you do!!! All these romantic words that hardly make sense.......You dillydally over this affair...all that energy spent on HER when you have CHILDREN!!! Am I the only confused person here re. your affair?? Stamp...wise up, pay attention to your children, and STOP being a doormat!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Getting back to the OP....Stamp...Lots of people here seem to love your posts, but I find you self pitying, I'm sorry but yip I do!!! I mean, you're a DAD!!! HOW can you wallow like this?? Your kids HAVE to be missing out....I think you have many great qualities but I also think people here are over indulging you and you really need to wise up!! She is USING you...please move on!!!!!! No doubt I will be yelled at, but...you're a DAD!!!!! Get over it!!! I can get over mine, and I don't even have children, so wise up!!!!! Why can't you? And I think the people sympathising with you do you no favours.. Nice! Stellar words... If it were that easy as to tell someone "get over it" when they are going through crisis what's the point of this site? I would not want to be your friend and have a loved one die on me, all I would have to look forward to from you would be "get over it". IMO who cares how easy it was for you to get over your "stuff" you are NOT everyone else. If you can remember that you might actually introduce a little empathy into your life, and it might do you some good.. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Stamp...wise up, pay attention to your children, and STOP being a doormat!! Um, Stamp IS paying attention to his children. (If I'm not mistaken, he is at a baseball game right now as we post.) From the things he's said, he is very close to his children. And he HAS stopped being a doormat. He has ended the A and is trying to move forward, and is seeking help and support from The Shack. And apparently you've never really been in love. My condolences. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 If he is, that's brillliant!!! I'm pleased!! But you did yourself such an injustice....Why try to target me and act so patronising when I have done nothing to you...you know nothing about me!! WHY do that?? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 If he is, that's brillliant!!! I'm pleased!! But you did yourself such an injustice....Why try to target me and act so patronising when I have done nothing to you...you know nothing about me!! WHY do that?? It was not my intent to come across as patronizing. I just think you're unfairly targeting Stamp. I don't agree with your advice about "getting over it." And I definitely don't agree with your implication that he's not paying attention to his kids or trying to move on from the A. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 INice! Stellar words... If it were that easy as to tell someone "get over it" when they are going through crisis what's the point of this site? I would not want to be your friend and have a loved one die on me, all I would have to look forward to from you would be "get over it". IMO who cares how easy it was for you to get over your "stuff" you are NOT everyone else. If you can remember that you might actually introduce a little empathy into your life, and it might do you some good.. That's soo funny..you talk about empathy yet in the same breath insult me?? YOU talk about empathy yet say to me 'Who cares'???? Do you even KNOW what the word means?? I just worry he is wallowing...I can't get over your vitriol... Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 It was not my intent to come across as patronizing. I just think you're unfairly targeting Stamp. I don't agree with your advice about "getting over it." And I definitely don't agree with your implication that he's not paying attention to his kids or trying to move on from the A. OK so SAY that...but why say ' And apparently you've never really been in love. My condolences.' Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 OpenBook...I am interested to know how you defend one member here on one hand, yet insult another in the same breath, when you know nothing about her!!!!!! I thought this was a good place...I'm not sure now!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 what's worse patronisation or condescension: Getting back to the OP....Stamp...Lots of people here seem to love your posts, but I find you self pitying, I'm sorry but yip I do!!! I mean, you're a DAD!!! HOW can you wallow like this?? Your kids HAVE to be missing out....I think you have many great qualities but I also think people here are over indulging you and you really need to wise up!! She is USING you...please move on!!!!!! No doubt I will be yelled at, but...you're a DAD!!!!! Get over it!!! I can get over mine, and I don't even have children, so wise up!!!!! Why can't you? And I think the people sympathising with you do you no favours.. or they are both pretty much the same and par for the course? I That's soo funny..you talk about empathy yet in the same breath insult me?? YOU talk about empathy yet say to me 'Who cares'???? Do you even KNOW what the word means?? I just worry he is wallowing.... You know something it is very hard to be empathetic towards someone that comes off as meanspirited as you did with your above post. Of course there has been a fair amount of wollowing, he has been knee deep in letting go. Only and ice block, after 3yrs of being in love and planning a future with someone they are head over heels in love with would say "right then, I am 100% over this and I feel nothing in letting go" We are humans being with feelings not machines. I can't get over your vitriol.. My vitriol? You might just have to get over it, I have a lot more where it came from. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 I thought this was a good place...I'm not sure now!!!! You thought this was a good place for what exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 By the way, I don't understand why you faff about how you do!!! All these romantic words that hardly make sense.......You dillydally over this affair...all that energy spent on HER when you have CHILDREN!!! Am I the only confused person here re. your affair?? Stamp...wise up, pay attention to your children, and STOP being a doormat! \ Meant to quote this, this was mean spirited. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 To get sensible advice, that I might be able to follow, that MIGHT change my life...but you came out with rubbish - just vitriolic rubbish!! I think there are amazing posters here (Nadia and James) but not you. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 \ Meant to quote this, this was mean spirited. Caring about children is mean spirited?? You've lost me. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 To get sensible advice, that I might be able to follow, that MIGHT change my life...but you came out with rubbish - just vitriolic rubbish!! I think there are amazing posters here (Nadia and James) but not you. Sorry. Well I respect your opinion, this is not about me, it is about Stamp. Feel free to skip over my posts, I PROMISE you I won't take offense. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Well I respect your opinion, this is not about me, it is about Stamp. Feel free to skip over my posts, I PROMISE you I won't take offense. If you do or not, I don't really care....sorry!!!! You seem too angry and bitter. Not for me, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 If you do or not, I don't really care....sorry!!!! You seem too angry and bitter. Not for me, thanks. Riiiiiiight I'm the angry one! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 TC. not hi-jacking if it helps people.. Today is fine, baseball practice this afternoon... I really think that I am fine with things the way they are. I mean, sure I miss her, BUT I do NOT miss what we were.. I absolutely, positively DO NOT want that again, so YES, That relationship is completely over.. So, I do not have ANY relationship with her, and I have accepted that... And it has been already a work in process, so that time has passed.. AND, "IF" we are to become "WE" that will be a completely NEW relationship that I don't even know exists yet, same can be said for "anybody new" that comes along, I don't know that they exist, and right now, TODAY, I am not looking for either, HER or SOMEONE NEW, as I am working on STAMP-DIDDY-O-LICIOUS Well Stamp, I hope baseball was FABULOUS today and that you come to see yourself as ALREADY being Stamp-Diddy-O-Licious! Just a few things to iron out after surviving a very bad experience, right... and who among us has not been THERE??!? Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Riiiiiiight I'm the angry one! :laugh: Yip..I think so. And I'm NOT being horrible, you just seem so quick to condemn and jump to a thousand conclusions.Hell...no biggie to be angry - I think we all need a bit of bite!! I'M angry when I sit and think about stuff..:) Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Yip..I think so. And I'm NOT being horrible, you just seem so quick to condemn and jump to a thousand conclusions.Hell...no biggie to be angry - I think we all need a bit of bite!! I'M angry when I sit and think about stuff..:) I just got back from a two hour workout and an hour sauna, BELIEVE me I am veeeeeeeeeery relaxed. I don't know who is purring louder me or my cat. I am surprised considering the first thread that you started on LS in where you sounded not that much differen than S-Diddy, or any of us who were in the thick of a crisis for that matter, and considering you work for charity that you could not see what he is going though? That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Well, it's done.. It's over... I talked to H. Said he deserved the courtesy of a call back so he can stop wasting his time trying to figure it out liek a chicken running around with its head cut off and his heart pulled out... I told him to tell her to "not even think of me ever again". I feel sick! So now the question is, will he be doing himself a favor and filing for divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 If my H screams at me over something and I go crying about it and I hurt for days am I not taking care of my children? All sorts of people have problems whether they're married, single, or involved in an EMA. All are capable parents. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 I just got back from a two hour workout and an hour sauna, BELIEVE me I am veeeeeeeeeery relaxed. I don't know who is purring louder me or my cat. I am surprised considering the first thread that you started on LS in where you sounded not that much differen than S-Diddy, or any of us who were in the thick of a crisis for that matter, and considering you work for charity that you could not see what he is going though? That's all. I think that once children are involved, your own feelings, desires, circumstances HAVE to go out the window!!! i really don't mean to be harsh - to be in love with someone who is taken is hard, beyond hard even....but children come first. Our feelings have to be sacrificed!! I see what he is going through..it's horrific, but there are CHILDREN!!!! THEY come FIRST!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Children are part of a family; everyone in the family has needs. Period. BTW, Stamp's kids are a little older and can pretty much take care of themselves. He's not neglecting them. Link to post Share on other sites
Aoife Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 *sigh* I never said he was....I just said his children are the priority, which no one here would disagree with!!! I think he spends tooooo much time on his Love, who treats him terribly..but I CAN'T say it's all ok when I feel she is taking him for a ride!!! I also can't feel sorry for him....he has spelled out how bad she is yet people here sympathise??? how is that helping??? I must be sooo thick, but I tell it like I see it...people here sympathise instead of telling the truth...that the relationship is no good!!! So much for telling the truth here....... Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 So much for telling the truth here....... LMAO!!! Its been tried before, and was called bashing and attacking. Good luck with that "truth telling" though. Link to post Share on other sites
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