Lauriebell82 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 So my bf is a groomsman in his friend's wedding and he just told me that they (my bf and two other guys) are planning on taking him to Las Vegas for his bachelor party. That means casinos, bars, strip clubs, ect. Ugh, I trust my bf completely and know he would never cheat on me or anything but I'm still freaked out/scared. Why is this? Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 LB, I would be freaked out a little as well. I guess because of the whole motto " whats goes on in Vegas , stays in Vegas" thing! But if you really trust him, then just expect him to out there and have a good time with the guys. If he truely loves you then the thought of cheating would never cross his mind. Hes just all about bonding with the boys! Link to post Share on other sites
Nightwolf_58 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 My girlfriend will be going with her sisters soon to Vegas to celebrate a 21st birthday. I know how you feel, there is just so much that you can get yourself in trouble to in Vegas. However, if you know deep down that your boyfriend would never cheat, then I wouldn't worry because you know the whole time he's down there he may be having a good time with his friends, but that he will always have you on his mind, and my guess is miss you as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 27, 2008 Author Share Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks for the replys. I've been trying to tell myself all day that he isn't going to cheat on me, that he loves me and is just going to be with his friends. And I truely don't think he will cheat on me, and I really do trust him. I guess it's just cause it IS Las Vegas. When he told me that he was going I must have had this horrid look on my face, because he quickly said "i'm going to vegas, but don't worry baby I love you and will miss you like crazy." lol Ugh, go away feelings, go away!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
redsoxfan84 Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Like the others said, I'm sure it's because of the reputation Las Vegas has gotten. I went with my SO to Vegas last year. To be honest, he found many of the women who were...advertising...to be both amusing and low-class. I wouldn't stress over it. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Oh please! Have you been to Vegas lately? They've been trying to turn it into a family fun destination. It's really just one big tourist trap! I cannot imagine anything "evil" there actually being attractive to anyone. Trust me there are far better things to be worrying about. Feel better? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 (edited) Oh please! Have you been to Vegas lately? They've been trying to turn it into a family fun destination. It's really just one big tourist trap! I cannot imagine anything "evil" there actually being attractive to anyone. Trust me there are far better things to be worrying about. Feel better? I have never been to CA, so no I haven't been to Vegas lately. Like I said, I'm going to try not to worry about it, I've just heard crazy stories about Vegas adventures. So the image of that freaks me out..thats all! Sorry but 4 guys in their mid 20s going to Vegas for a bachelor party aren't going to be hitting up any of the family joints, if you know what i'm saying... Edited February 28, 2008 by Lauriebell82 Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I have never been to CA, so no I haven't been to Vegas lately. Well you'd have to go to NV to go to Vegas. FWIW, if you trusted your bf completely you wouldn't be getting freaked out. There's a part of you--either conscious or subconscious--that doesn't fully trust him. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I have never been to CA, so no I haven't been to Vegas lately. Like I said, I'm going to try not to worry about it, I've just heard crazy stories about Vegas adventures. So the image of that freaks me out..thats all! Going to Vegas for a bach party is no more risk of his cheating than a normal bach party situation. You either trust your b/f or you don't lauriebelle. Talk it over with him once more and see if you can't get the right kind of reassurance from him. Is he prone to being more randy with other women, when drunk? If not, I think you have your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 So my bf is a groomsman in his friend's wedding and he just told me that they (my bf and two other guys) are planning on taking him to Las Vegas for his bachelor party. That means casinos, bars, strip clubs, ect. Ugh, I trust my bf completely and know he would never cheat on me or anything but I'm still freaked out/scared. Why is this? Because a part of you does not trust him completely. Has he ever done or said anything for you to not trust him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 No guys, he honestly has done nothing to make me not trust him. And yes I do trust him. The reason it freaks me out is not really not that I think he is going to cheat on me, because I know he wouldn't do that to me. I guess it's more the partying and strip clubs and things just makes me a little jealous or something. I don't know how to describe it. And I know his freinds are going to be checking out girls and stuff, and I know my bf doesn't have interest in any girls but I guess its more jealousy then worrying about his cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 Well you'd have to go to NV to go to Vegas. FWIW, if you trusted your bf completely you wouldn't be getting freaked out. There's a part of you--either conscious or subconscious--that doesn't fully trust him. LOL, whoops NV I mean. My brain is a little fried from studying for the National Counselor Exam. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 and I know my bf doesn't have interest in any girlsquote] I love it when women make these statements... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 No guys, he honestly has done nothing to make me not trust him. And yes I do trust him. The reason it freaks me out is not really not that I think he is going to cheat on me, because I know he wouldn't do that to me. I guess it's more the partying and strip clubs and things just makes me a little jealous or something. I don't know how to describe it. And I know his freinds are going to be checking out girls and stuff, and I know my bf doesn't have interest in any girls but I guess its more jealousy then worrying about his cheating. Do you get like this everytime he goes out with his friends and without you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 and I know my bf doesn't have interest in any girlsquote] I love it when women make these statements... What do you mean? All I meant was that my bf doesn't have any romantic interest in other girls..and I trust him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 Do you get like this everytime he goes out with his friends and without you? No, not at all. He goes out with his friends all the time. He's gone on weekend trips as well, and I don't mind. I think maybe because this is an extended vacation type deal where they are going to be out partying and all. Oh well, I'll get over it. It's not a big deal, I'm sure he'll have fun. I'm probably just overanalyzing again. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 No, not at all. He goes out with his friends all the time. He's gone on weekend trips as well, and I don't mind. I think maybe because this is an extended vacation type deal where they are going to be out partying and all. Oh well, I'll get over it. It's not a big deal, I'm sure he'll have fun. I'm probably just overanalyzing again. Exactly. Not a big deal. You two have been together for a long time, so this shouldn't even be an issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 No, not at all. He goes out with his friends all the time. He's gone on weekend trips as well, and I don't mind. I think maybe because this is an extended vacation type deal where they are going to be out partying and all. Oh well, I'll get over it. It's not a big deal, I'm sure he'll have fun. I'm probably just overanalyzing again. For whatever reason, sometimes certain events or situations trigger irrational emotions from each of us. In your case, it's the thought of Vegas, in my case, it was the thought of someone just like my ex-H. In my situation, a discussion really helped to put my mind at rest. You either have to trust them or you might as well call it quits. While I'll never condone blind faith, trust in a relationship is key to it making or breaking. Link to post Share on other sites
Legend Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Oh god LB. grow up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 Oh god LB. grow up. Don't respond to my thread if you are blatantly going to criticism me. That's not help, thats just being mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 For whatever reason, sometimes certain events or situations trigger irrational emotions from each of us. In your case, it's the thought of Vegas, in my case, it was the thought of someone just like my ex-H. In my situation, a discussion really helped to put my mind at rest. You either have to trust them or you might as well call it quits. While I'll never condone blind faith, trust in a relationship is key to it making or breaking. I had a talk with him tonight and he said I have nothing to worry about, that it's just a fun vacation with his friends and that he would call me everyday. I didn't really need the reassurance, he just offered it and it was nice. So I'm not going to worry about it anymore..I probably worried a littel too much as it is. But I really do trust him, I know he would never cheat on me or anything like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I had a talk with him tonight and he said I have nothing to worry about, that it's just a fun vacation with his friends and that he would call me everyday. I didn't really need the reassurance, he just offered it and it was nice. So I'm not going to worry about it anymore..I probably worried a littel too much as it is. But I really do trust him, I know he would never cheat on me or anything like that. That's exactly the way to do it. Talk it out and see if he has it in him to offer the reassurance. No doubt you could have worked your own way through it but a helping hand never hurts. Look to who he is and if he's the type that might cheat. From all you've posted about him on LS, he doesn't strike me as that type. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Basically the questions you have to ask yourself are: have you ever felt insecure about your boyfriend's fidelity in the relationship? Have you ever been jealous when he talks to other girls? The whole time you've been together, has he once acted in any way to make you suspect that he would cheat? Ask yourself those questions, and if they all come to NO, then I think you should give your bf some credit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 That's exactly the way to do it. Talk it out and see if he has it in him to offer the reassurance. No doubt you could have worked your own way through it but a helping hand never hurts. Look to who he is and if he's the type that might cheat. From all you've posted about him on LS, he doesn't strike me as that type. No he's not at all. His ex gf who was his first love cheated on him and broke his heart so I don't believe he would ever cheat on anyone because of that. And I know how much he loves me so I don't think he could do anything like that to me. Thanks for the help..I guess I was just being a little paranoid and silly. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 No he's not at all. His ex gf who was his first love cheated on him and broke his heart so I don't believe he would ever cheat on anyone because of that. And I know how much he loves me so I don't think he could do anything like that to me. Thanks for the help..I guess I was just being a little paranoid and silly. Glad to hear that. You're welcome. You dealt with it right away, he reacted in an empathetic manner and things didn't escalate. I see improvement in your communication style. This is good. Link to post Share on other sites
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