IWALH Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 I have decided to completely leave Loveshack and I just wanted to say thank you to EVERYONE who encouraged me and thanks even for the "tough love" that I needed to hear last summer to finally get out of the affair and stay out. I have been in "no contact" with xMM since the end of June 2008 and I never plan to resume that contact again. I know for a fact I will stick to this. The only way I would ever talk to him again is through a lawyer, mediator, judge, etc. I am sure I will still think about him from time to time and get angry or sad and whatnot, but I know I am pretty close to getting over him... more than halfway at least. I learned a LOT from these boards, which I am SO grateful for. If it wasn't for Loveshack, then who knows where I would be right now! Probably still waiting around for dear old MM. I have decided to leave permanently because I just had a discussion with my friend and I had a brief meeting with a lawyer earlier this week and both pointed out some things. I told my friend I was on here writing about my problems again and she said that was a bad idea because xMM and his wife knew my screen name last summer and they might still be checking up on me. While I HIGHLY doubt that they are checking up on me (they aren't exactly very computer savvy so I doubt they'd remember how to get here, etc...plus I think they are working on their marriage and seeing what I am up to probably wouldn't help) there is that chance, and I don't want to be paranoid about them seeing how I am feeling and such. They are not allowed that privilege. The lawyer I spoke with said that the things I have said on here won't hurt me in court, but it would be advisable to not continue to say anything on here. The most important reason, however, is all that coming on Loveshack makes me do is think even more about him. Most of the time when I think about him, I jump on here and vent my frustrations. But it just prolongs those feelings. From now on I am just going to deal with them as they come and immediately do something to distract myself (which is what I usually do anyway). I just don't think it is healthy for me to prolong any thoughts of him that come into my head. I do think this website is amazing for women who are going through the turmoil of an affair. And please truly listen to the advice of all the women who have been in your shoes before. I know that's easy to say... trust me. I'll miss you all! Some of you became like a sort of "family." Take care and God bless!!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 You take care of yourself! And your daughter too. And, if you ever decide to come back to LS one day in the future, join as a new member. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 God bless you and blessing on your future. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 what about us fellas? Link to post Share on other sites
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