Nowhere2Turn Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 So I was getting all kinds of vibes from this girl, but I didn't wanna burst my bubble yet--but I just had a feeling about this one, it was 'different' lol. Just the way we'd glance and smile and all those kinda things, either that or I just reminded her of a dead loved brother, I dunno Anyway, the one thing I can't figure what to do is whether to keep sparks flying, I mean, it seems like the beginning phase is all about momentum, and in dating and attraction, seems like one break in momentum can kill it. So like, every class I feel like something 'better' has to happen than the last. Well not better, but it has to grow somehow, you know? Like, if we end up not really talking, or it becomes kind of 'normal friend in class' vibe it's over. I know that's pretty black n white but isn't it kind of true? And how is 'classroom' dating different than real world dating, where you're continually in a place you'll see each other. 2, 3 times a week, 16 weeks. I always get confused on the pace and timing, since going too fast seems desperate since you'll see them all the time, but too slow you lose the momentum and kill it.. Anyway side note, this is just what happened, I think. I kinda broke the momentum. DAMNNNNNNN!!! Well, maybe not. She's an angel too, she's amazing and gorgeous Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 So man up and ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 i guess your more afraid of being rejected and having to stay in the same class as the girl who rejected you for 16 weeks? either way, you're gonna be living in misery wondering if you and her ever would make a good couple, or just knowing that it was never meant to be. Of course thats just looking at it on the negative side of things. Maybe the sparks will fly and heck, you might have your girlfriend in a class with you for the next 16 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nowhere2Turn Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 I should've mann'd up but d**m I'm such a pansy nowdays, I don't know what happened to me. You know it ain't as easy to just man it up, you need to have some stuff built up in yourself beforehand to do that. First off you gotta know things, I can't just be like uhh you wanna hang out sometime? That is so lame and undecisive I couldn't do that to myself. I'm really cold to dating it's been a while. Although we seemed to hit it off I still think I showed a bit of nervousness.. not like geeky nervousness more like 'I completely forgot how this is supposed to work' nerviousness.. but I guess to women it's all the same right? Link to post Share on other sites
wookinpanub Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Have you talked to her at all yet? If you haven't just start a simple conversation just to break the ice, get over that first conversation hump. Just be like what did you think of that last test or something. It doesn't matter what, just do it. Go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nowhere2Turn Posted February 29, 2008 Author Share Posted February 29, 2008 Have you talked to her at all yet? If you haven't just start a simple conversation just to break the ice, get over that first conversation hump. Just be like what did you think of that last test or something. It doesn't matter what, just do it. Go from there. Yeah, of couse. I just feel weird asking for her number right now. It's not just with her it's every girl I meet when I take a class, I feel like asking for her number is redundant because we'll see each other all the time. I guess I feel like anonymous guy in class, don't feel like this is a dating site or bar where you meet someone and they expect you to get their digits. I feel like every girl is not looking to hook up with a guy they meet in class, they just want a guy for an hour or two who's cool and makes the class fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 your just worrying yourself too much thats all its a common problem with men and girls they like if she likes you enough, the nervousness only means to her that you like her as well and she'll either accept it and not hold it against you (unless this happens every time and you never are at ease when around her) or she'll reject you; probably b/c she doesn't want to lead you on. and whats wrong with asking a girl to grab a bite to eat? or to just take a walk somewhere? or go see an exhibit or show? we're only human beings and this is reality. . . its not a movie where everything has to be perfect in order to get that girl. in truth just learn to realize that its not the end all be all if this girl doesn't work out for you; there are plenty of other women out there, and just b/c you think she likes you doesn't always mean shes right for you. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 I feel like every girl is not looking to hook up with a guy they meet in class To quote Vince Vaughn in Old School: "Well Columbus wasn't looking for America, my man, but that turned out to be pretty okay for everyone." Maybe she's not expecting to get picked up but that doesn't mean she wouldn't like it. If you ask her out she may turn you down or she may end up mounting you and riding you until the cows come home. Risk versus reward, man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nowhere2Turn Posted February 29, 2008 Author Share Posted February 29, 2008 Arite cool guys. I'm askin her next time. I jus ain't feeliln like a lion, waiting for the little bunny.. oh wait that was swingers. Still VV tho. I actually never seen old school.. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 most women at bars and night clubs arn't that easy to just pick up. Women you have a class or activity durring the week are probably far less gaurded and easier to develop a relationship with. You don't have to ask her for her number flat out, if she gives you a hint like mentions a movie she's looking foward to seeing or a food she likes, just be flirty and sugest that you go togather, when she says yes set a time or what ever and then take out your phone and ask for her number. Link to post Share on other sites
LikesMeNot Posted March 1, 2008 Share Posted March 1, 2008 Arite cool guys. I'm askin her next time. I jus ain't feeliln like a lion, waiting for the little bunny.. oh wait that was swingers. Still VV tho. I actually never seen old school.. I'm in a similar situation. Don't sweat it, just stay calm, and do it smoothly, as bluntly asking the question can make you come across as a creep. If you're so uncomfortable to ask her for your phone #, then talk about a random topic that you can tie to a discussion on phones. Then transition the talk to phones. As she talks, she'll be less shy. Then just pop it, saying: "Hey, what's your phone number?" If you get it, don't forget to call her. C'mon man, you can do it, and Lucasarts is right, this world isn't perfect, so stick to what is possible and do it! Link to post Share on other sites
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