How can I get him to back

[LEB]

Ok, you will think I'm crazy for saying I love him and I want to have a commited relationship with him just like my friends say. But I suppose when you truly love someone you will weather the storm with them. Anyway, I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and we lived together during that time for 8 months. During that time we started abusiness together and things were pretty good until I discovered that during the times when I was asleep or not at home he was placing personal ads as well as reading personal ads. That's when the relationship got bad. I was hurt and acted out by trying to control the situation. I did everything short of staging a break in to cause the computer to just disappear. I was naturally jealous but he said there was no commitment therefore it was none of my business. Well needless to say he moved out and moved a couple of hours away. It took me 6 months to get my life straightened out. But about 4 days after he found out that I was happily seeing someone else he decided he would move back and did. Well the first few times he called I turned him down and did not return his calls. But then I broke down (because he is the one that I truly love) and went back out with him. One thing lead to another and next thing I know I am not spending too many nights at home anymore. Up until recently everything was going good. He was attentive, and loving and affectionate.....the whole nine yards. Even would apologize if he was near his computer when I was around. Actually made sure I was sitting there when he checked his e-mail (lol). Anyway, the converstaion about the relationship came up just the other day and he said that he was happy in this relatioship with me however, he did not want to be in a relationship at all. His reason was "love never lasts". Well I told him that since he did not want to be in a relationship and I was looking for a future that I had no choice but to seperate myself fom him. He then told me that he had not said anything about this because he did not want to lose mebut he wanted to be freinds. I told him that I could not be friends and pretend that I don't care about him. Anyway, we have since then talked and the conversation went ok. But today, I called him in efforts to just establish a line of communication once again (because I do love him) and asked could he get together with me to talk. He said no and that he did not have time. He was extremely rude to me. I don't understand what he's going through. He does not want to lose me and likes being in a relationship with me but does not want to be in a relationship at all. Somebody please give me some feedback on this one. He's been acting crazy lately all together. He's talking about changing his whole career among other things. He's only 25 and I'm 29. Does his age play a part in this or is it that he's scared or what? Any advice would be appreciated.

[Shirley]

Ok, you will think I'm crazy for saying I love him and I want to have a commited relationship with him just like my friends say. But I suppose when you truly love someone you will weather the storm with them. Anyway, I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and we lived together during that time for 8 months. During that time we started abusiness together and things were pretty good until I discovered that during the times when I was asleep or not at home he was placing personal ads as well as reading personal ads. That's when the relationship got bad. I was hurt and acted out by trying to control the situation. I did everything short of staging a break in to cause the computer to just disappear. I was naturally jealous but he said there was no commitment therefore it was none of my business. Well needless to say he moved out and moved a couple of hours away. It took me 6 months to get my life straightened out. But about 4 days after he found out that I was happily seeing someone else he decided he would move back and did. Well the first few times he called I turned him down and did not return his calls. But then I broke down (because he is the one that I truly love) and went back out with him. One thing lead to another and next thing I know I am not spending too many nights at home anymore. Up until recently everything was going good. He was attentive, and loving and affectionate.....the whole nine yards. Even would apologize if he was near his computer when I was around. Actually made sure I was sitting there when he checked his e-mail (lol). Anyway, the converstaion about the relationship came up just the other day and he said that he was happy in this relatioship with me however, he did not want to be in a relationship at all. His reason was "love never lasts". Well I told him that since he did not want to be in a relationship and I was looking for a future that I had no choice but to seperate myself fom him. He then told me that he had not said anything about this because he did not want to lose mebut he wanted to be freinds. I told him that I could not be friends and pretend that I don't care about him. Anyway, we have since then talked and the conversation went ok. But today, I called him in efforts to just establish a line of communication once again (because I do love him) and asked could he get together with me to talk. He said no and that he did not have time. He was extremely rude to me. I don't understand what he's going through. He does not want to lose me and likes being in a relationship with me but does not want to be in a relationship at all. Somebody please give me some feedback on this one. He's been acting crazy lately all together. He's talking about changing his whole career among other things. He's only 25 and I'm 29. Does his age play a part in this or is it that he's scared or what? Any advice would be appreciated.

 

Hi!

 

This man wants to stay single and just have fun with as many women as he can right now. Which means that he doesn't love you the way you think he does. Yes, he likes you there for him, but men do like to be taken care of. And contrary to what many people believe, age has nothing to do with love. I married my husband more than 20 years ago. I was nineteen. And we are still as happy together as we were the day we got married. True love does not die. Ever!

[james]

Leb, I'm a guy, but I totally,almost agree with Shirley..find someone who cares just about you and no one else... James

Hi! This man wants to stay single and just have fun with as many women as he can right now. Which means that he doesn't love you the way you think he does. Yes, he likes you there for him, but men do like to be taken care of. And contrary to what many people believe, age has nothing to do with love. I married my husband more than 20 years ago. I was nineteen. And we are still as happy together as we were the day we got married. True love does not die. Ever!