Nowhere2Turn Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 Hi guys, Well been getting some good advice from this board.. and think I need to give myself a mega dose of self esteem building. But first, I really need a little bit of a 'cheater', because I'm really stubborn and can't fake self-esteem w/o something to back it up. In all honesty, if I meet a girl or make some new friend tomorrow, my self-esteem would bump up about 9 points on a scale of 10. But until that happens, I need to 'pull it out of thin air'. One concern I have is this: CAN PEOPLE SEE LOW SELF-ESTEEM? What I mean is, do you think no matter how much a person tries to cover it up, does it still show through? And how? What are the signs? Because I want to find those signs and see if I can recognize them in myself, and "FAKE" them long enough until I can materialize some real form of substance in my life thus giving me REAL self-esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 Hi guys, Well been getting some good advice from this board.. and think I need to give myself a mega dose of self esteem building. But first, I really need a little bit of a 'cheater', because I'm really stubborn and can't fake self-esteem w/o something to back it up. In all honesty, if I meet a girl or make some new friend tomorrow, my self-esteem would bump up about 9 points on a scale of 10. But until that happens, I need to 'pull it out of thin air'. One concern I have is this: CAN PEOPLE SEE LOW SELF-ESTEEM? What I mean is, do you think no matter how much a person tries to cover it up, does it still show through? And how? What are the signs? Because I want to find those signs and see if I can recognize them in myself, and "FAKE" them long enough until I can materialize some real form of substance in my life thus giving me REAL self-esteem. Yes, they can see low self esteem. The way you recover is to NOT seek approval from others but from yourself. If you learn to make yourself happy and not focus on making others happy confidence will start building. If you learn to love and respect yourself, confidence will build even more. Stop worrying about what others think about you or that you have to make them happy. Distance yourself from people who feed on your low sense of self esteem. Don't worry about how you look. And if you really need to look good, hit the gym. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 Yes, they can see low self esteem. The way you recover is to NOT seek approval from others but from yourself. If you learn to make yourself happy and not focus on making others happy confidence will start building. If you learn to love and respect yourself, confidence will build even more. Stop worrying about what others think about you or that you have to make them happy. Distance yourself from people who feed on your low sense of self esteem. Don't worry about how you look. And if you really need to look good, hit the gym. Good post. Women especially are great at seeing low self-esteem guys. They will run away from them. No one likes damaged goods. Even the grocery stores pull them from the shelves or sell them at a reduce cost. However, we are better than dent cans. We can rebuild and remould ourselves to be better. Focus on YOU. Make YOU happy and people will gravitate towards the positive energy you give off. It's your CHI or aura that will make things happen for you..... Link to post Share on other sites
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