roxistar Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 My boyfriend and I are very close and someday want to be married. We are very comfortable with each other and our relationship. Bout a year ago we talked of having a threesome with another girl. I like this idea and Im totally comfortable with it. However, I have set some ground rules like no one from work, no friends or friend of a friend.... Basically meeting someone new for this endeavor. I dont want to make things complicated in our regular life as i believe these things should be private and only between us. I dont want friends knowing because it is private and frankly it is none of their business. And not inviting anyone from work, well... Im sure everyone could understand that. Finding a girl to have fun with us and experiment has been increasingly difficult. Youd think with how the media portrays our generation as being overly sexual, and no regards of how many partners we sleep with, etc., that it would be so easy. I guess my question is: Are there really any women out there that have threesomes with couples? Or are these women just fantasies and myths? Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 Have you tried adult friend finders? Or a swingers club? Link to post Share on other sites
Author roxistar Posted February 29, 2008 Author Share Posted February 29, 2008 No I havent. I guess I should give it a try, the most unsettling thing being that I dont want to have to keep turning down couples( man and woman) who want to swing. And I guess I question if single women or women couples actually have threesomes with male and female couples? As for the adult friend finder.... a lot of it looks fake to me. And I dont know any people who have actually tried this or not. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 I heard that these group swappings or group orgies or whatever are common but I've never really encountered the sort. It's not something you would bring up in a conversation, because in general it is considered taboo. But there should always be necessary cautions that needs to be carried like whether the persons have stds, or fit that promiscuous category and willing to engage in such activities. I'm not sure where you can about finding these groups but you should make sure that should you go about it online, make sure the site you're search is legit and safe. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 I'm sure you can find sites online that cater to this kind of thing, but make sure that you protect yourself and that your BF uses protections as well. A lot of people don't take into consideration that you can get STDs from lesbian interaction just like any other sexual experience where fluid exchange is involved, and IME few women use protection when they are with another woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author roxistar Posted March 1, 2008 Author Share Posted March 1, 2008 I am aware of all the possible std's and such and will take proper precaution.... The hard part is how to go about this I guess. Sometimes I feel like the set of rules i have that Im being too picky or something. But I dont want this to complicate my life. I just want to have fun with my boyfriend really. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted March 1, 2008 Share Posted March 1, 2008 No I havent. I guess I should give it a try, the most unsettling thing being that I dont want to have to keep turning down couples( man and woman) who want to swing. And I guess I question if single women or women couples actually have threesomes with male and female couples? As for the adult friend finder.... a lot of it looks fake to me. And I dont know any people who have actually tried this or not. I've never been to a swingers club, but I have a friend who used to go often. Apparently they allow women in on their own, while men can only enter if they are accompanied by a woman. Furthermore I know that my friend met people at the club, and invited them for "quieter" encounters later. I have also been on adult friend finder and I can assure you there are plenty of bi- women there. I never met up with any of them - so I cannot tell you much more than that. Bottom line is I think you'll need to do a bunch of research, and of course weed through the trolls. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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