Small towns and single people

[lonelyone]

Hi everyone,

I'm 37 and single, and don't particularily like being single.

 

I live in a small town about 1 hour away from the city. (I grew up in the city, plus my family lives there.) I moved here about 2 years ago to take an accounting job, because the jobs in the city were more competitive. But now that I've got enough experience, I'm considering moving back to the city.

 

Things are okay in this town, and I've managed to become involved with certain musical activities. But everybody here is married, and even though I keep busy, I feel a lot of lonliness pulling at me.

 

Am I being naive by thinking I'll be happier back in the city? Is the city truly a better place for singles? Not that I'm a swinging party type, but I still think I could bond with other singles, and maybe meet a man, in the city. Is this a naive thing to think?

 

Thanks for reading. If you have input, I'll welcome it!

Edited March 1, 2008 by lonelyone

[carhill]

Married people have single friends. Network

[Curmudgeon]

Am I being naive by thinking I'll be happier back in the city? Is the city truly a better place for singles? Not that I'm a swinging party type, but I still think I could bond with other singles, and maybe meet a man, in the city. Is this a naive thing to think?

 

Just hopeful. Having lived in eight states (several more than once) and four countries during the course of my lifetime I can assure you that "you" follows you wherever you go.

 

See what you can do to meet people where you are. As carhill has said, others can introduce you to those who are available. When I divorced it seemed as if every married woman I knew had a friend who would "just love to meet you." I'm sure that works for women as well.

 

You don't have to step outside your comfort zone to meet men. They're out there. They should be trying to meet you unless you've put up a barrier.

[fral945]

I will say I'm in a similar situation. 28, single in a small town for 4 years. Then again, I don't advertise, and I don't really have any close friends, so those could be my problems right there. I don't feel I fit it well where I am and am consider moving to a bigger city.

 

For me at least, I think there is more opportunity to meet people with more common interests as myself. There is not as much of a variety of people in small towns as in a suburb or bigger city (if they are here, they sure are hard to find!) One thing I will say about moving to another town is that most of the people there probably won't know your past and you can start over a bit. It may not work, but it probably couldn't hurt to try. Just my two cents.