shanny Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I have dated guys that are not your "typical" hotties. Most of them I was friends with first and their personality made them hot. They were people that if I didn't know them first and they asked me out I would have said no. Personality can do A LOT. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 What do you all consder sexy anyway? I would like to be more fit and am making arrangments to work on that, however I know I am beautiful, sexy and turn heads, even though I have more to love... Men usually go for the woman who is has less then more, meaning body weight... however eveyone is an individual... now I know that extremely obese is a turnoff.. there is a limit to healthy and attractiveness.. It takes more then just a perfect body to keep a man intriged.. Am I totally wrong here? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 around 5'6" and at least 300 in person...I go to the gym, I look after myself, why would I want to get with someone that obviously was a bit of a couch slug... I find it amazing. Even a guy that looks like "that" would want to date a fit girl that goes to the gym. Those guys should look at themselves in the mirror and date another one that looks like them. But no, even guys that look like George Constanza want to date a supermodel and no less. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 There is more to attractiveness then just size... Attitude Style Cleanliness Passion Interests Sense of humor Link to post Share on other sites
Arch Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I know some guys say chubby chicks are better when they do them from the top because belly fat works as a cushion. on the other hand , you can hit each others bone with skinny chicks. So if he likes you being fat because of this reason, would you still date him? WTF, why the hell does everyone think I am a chick , Arch is a unisex name dammit. But if a girl liked me because I was about 20 pounds over weight I wouldn't mind dating her because she is attracted to the way I look, its not like I am changing something for her. But I don't find really skinny girls attractive at all, when they lay on there back spread eagle you can always see there hip bones. Link to post Share on other sites
SOS_Please Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 This is a really interesting topic. You know, there's a contemporary philosopher by the name of Crosby (can't think of his first name) who wrote an essay on the "incommunicable person." It's that "something" about someone that transcends the superficial--analogous, maybe, to the soul. It's a beautifully written essay, and I highly recommend it to the OP as well as some of the more superficial posters on here. That being said, I understand why there is a tendancy toward SOME aspect of superficiallity. Most of us want someone who will complement our lifestyle (i.e. if you are atheletic, you want to date someone who is equally so; if you are a drinker, you want to date someone who drinks; etc.). We all have--no matter how virtuous a person is--some kind of ideal person whether it is regarding looks, status, intellect, etc. Personally, I don't care so much about looks, but more about intellect and character--which as noble as that seems is still superficial to a degree. Regardless, I refuse to date anyone who is not educated. I also tend to go for dark hair and light eyes, but that's really just coincidental, not preferencial (sp?). Link to post Share on other sites
Arch Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 You're trying not to but you have already formed your opinion, haven't you? hahaha yea, but I am still open to hearing your argument. I don't see why cars matter tho, Warren Buffett lived in the same house for 20 years, and always owned inexpensive cars - he had billions. Maybe he just realized that money did not make him happy, but the process of earning it did. I don't look at how much someone owns in deciding to date them, if I had a huge amount of assets I would pro-actively try to look like I lived in the middle class range simply because I would want a girl who was attracted to me, not my assets. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 so other then body size and shape what do you all consider sexy? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I find it amazing. Even a guy that looks like "that" would want to date a fit girl that goes to the gym. Those guys should look at themselves in the mirror and date another one that looks like them. But no, even guys that look like George Constanza want to date a supermodel and no less. Just so you're aware, Jason Alexander (George) has been married over 25 years and his wife Daena is anything but a bow-wow. http://www.imdb.com/media/rm711236352/nm0864465 Ah...."like".... Link to post Share on other sites
Arch Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 so other then body size and shape what do you all consider sexy? Quiet, little or no makeup, glasses are attractive but either way is fine, and piercings. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Quiet, little or no makeup, glasses are attractive but either way is fine, and piercings. so if she was a little overweight..then you would still find her attractive? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 so other then body size and shape what do you all consider sexy? A woman's eyes are very sexy, followed closely by her lips and her expressions. Interestingly, such attributes change very little over time, compared to other physical parts. I'm assuming we're talking strictly physical stuff here, not intellect or personality. Link to post Share on other sites
Arch Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 so if she was a little overweight..then you would still find her attractive? Yes I would. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 It is so funny what most girls I know find attractive I am turned off by... Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Just so you're aware, Jason Alexander (George) has been married over 25 years and his wife Daena is anything but a bow-wow. http://www.imdb.com/media/rm711236352/nm0864465 Ah...."like".... See what I mean. She's much taller, model skinny, and much prettier than he is. No matter what guys look like, they want to date a supermodel. Link to post Share on other sites
Arch Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 See what I mean. She's much taller, model skinny, and much prettier than he is. No matter what guys look like, they want to date a supermodel. false, correction SOME do, not all. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 sex appeal has nothing to do with size (within reason) It is all about perceptions Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I do find it amusing when people have this laundry list of little "requirements" that someone must have before they are considered datable. My limited experience has shown that when you actually get to know someone, much of the list ends up being thrown out the window. Most of my "list" incorporates much more than physical attributes. as P says below: There is more to attractiveness then just size... Attitude Style Cleanliness Passion Interests Sense of humor For me to find someone attractive, then they need to meet certain "requirements" in these areas. Some of these things you can only ascertain AFTER you have met someone in person, some of them can be ascertained beforehand. We are attracted to people for reasons- those reasons can be compiled into a list of "requirements" or not, but its all the same whatever you call it. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 See what I mean. She's much taller, model skinny, and much prettier than he is. No matter what guys look like, they want to date a supermodel. I've seen the same behavior in women all my life. I'm Jason's twin brother Neither sex has the market cornered on superficiality.... Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Neither sex has the market cornered on superficiality.... ahh, but the men are closing in on it! Link to post Share on other sites
MexicanBillBacker Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I'm 17 and I'm in love with a girl who is overweight. I don't give a **** if she's overweight, she's the girl of my dreams and I'd never change anything in her. Too bad I'm not the guy of hers Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I'm 17 and I'm in love with a girl who is overweight. I don't give a **** if she's overweight, she's the girl of my dreams and I'd never change anything in her. Too bad I'm not the guy of hers Aww. Sorry to hear about that dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 when I said the company owned it, I relized your dad was the ceo or whatever. and to tell you guys the truth you can own a jet and a nice car and you don't even have to be that rich. I gaurantee the not only is the jet her father suposedly owns not only owned by the company, but also through a partnership with other people. She probably doesn't even relize that fact, I'm suprised she knew it was owned by the company at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Teacher's Pet Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 thats because you're 23. Just wait young man, the general rule is the more hair on your chest the less you'll have on your head The more hair I lose, the more head I get! -TP see what I did there? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Everyone wishes they could be like me. Smart and cool, handsome, wealthy and so sexy. They need a hero, somebody who is just like me! Link to post Share on other sites
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