pricillia Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Yes but if he moves to Canada.. he can still have a career too, people move for people all the time, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But let's slow things down he is just going on a third date and wanted to show a nice sentiment. That means something... what is he supposed to do club her and pull her by her hair.. Come on I think that your putting fear into something where there does not need to be any at all.. chocolate, flowers a card, a sweet jesture, either way it is a man showing a woman that he is into her.. Link to post Share on other sites
BUENG1 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 OMG no not that....you don't want to be happy and start a life... Dude why are you trying to control him...let him do what feels right.. He is just asking what he should do on a third date... Quit it... Your advice reads as if its only purpose is arguing with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 so just take it and see where it goes, right? what happens when it is time for her to go home? i have to bring it up then, dont i? no.. not at all... it's wayyy too early in the relationship now.. she's here until next July /August.. so there are still a few months to go... Wait and see how it goes in a few months.. if the love grow between the two of you.. you'll know when it's time.. don't rush things.. don't scare her.. because you're not sure enough of her feelings yet... you can't propose to her.. Be patient... go to your 3rd date.. then 4th, then 5th.. etc.. and see how it goes.. don't RUSH.. that's the secret.. trust me on that one... I am trying to help here.. trust me I am.. I am an experienced woman.. I know what I'm talking about.. Link to post Share on other sites
BUENG1 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Yes but if he moves to Canada.. he can still have a career too, people move for people all the time, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But let's slow things down he is just going on a third date and wanted to show a nice sentiment. That means something... what is he supposed to do club her and pull her by her hair.. Come on I think that your putting fear into something where there does not need to be any at all.. chocolate, flowers a card, a sweet jesture, either way it is a man showing a woman that he is into her.. Yea people move for others when they are married......or have some sort of commitment together. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 You really think its reasonable for someone to move from one country and uproot themselves for someone they've known for probably a couple weeks, and seen only 3 times? Really? Um no I did not say that, He is worried that she will not know how he feels about her by the time she leaves He is asking advice on how to leave a lasting impression. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Here's the OP's first thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t145499/ Note my advice I noted flowers were quite commonly carried about during our three trips to Oz last year, but no clue as to convention or perception. Our Aussie male friends are an interesting dichotomy of coarseness and gentlemanly behavior. I was quite impressed with how they treated their ladies in public. Very European. I'll reiterate what I said in the prior thread. Steady as she goes Forget the what-if scenarios for now. Concentrate on the moment and be mindful of the rest of your "life". It's easy to lose yourself in the black hole of "female". Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 This thread needs to be put back on topic! Allow me: Anyone suggest tying a bow around your penis? Back to topic: Any thoughts of moving to canada is out at this moment because it is rash and drastic, and not something you would consider the thought of for someone you've only dated 2 times. Why are you making it so complicated? She's not your gf right now. The both of you are casually dating, which means despite the exchange of affections, does not spell out committment. Let me write that again: COMMITTMENT. You know all I can say is that luckily she has no idea that you're posting on here, should she have seen all of these posts, she'll have run off back to Canada and never travel to Australia again. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted March 3, 2008 Senior Moderators Share Posted March 3, 2008 This thread has become tragically off topic. I mean I just deleted almost a dozen posts that have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the original topic. This is so inconsiderate and disrespectful. I am simply too tired to go through the entire thread to eliminate all the off topic posts. I'll do that tomorrow. Meanwhile, if you can't stay on topic go to the off topic thread. Many thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 our third date will be at like an art gallery, because i know she loves this kind of stuff Here is an idea. Draw a silly picture of you two. Abstract stick figures with your names above and a heart in crayon, might be cute. Give it to her after the gallery visit. Or, if you think you can get away with it (security?)...affix your lurvy pic to the wall (even if just the door on the way out). So she has an endearing momento of the date. I would like it. Sounds like she enjoys your company and is interested. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 I stick with the no present on 3rd date. Too early. but if you must, buy her a candy bar. or better yet, get a ring box and cut a hole in the bottom. Then, put your finger through the hole with fake blood. Thats a trick you dont get to use often. Actually, save that one for engagment Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Okay, If the stick figure/heart drawing is too much. How about just a drawing of a flower? That way it doesn't die, it is free and she still gets a small keepsake. If you were super suave you would have it framed and hung in the gallery ahead of time. Entitled a flower for name and signed by you. You could probably get permission if you asked the right person. Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Yeah, if you want to score big points, you talk to her ahead of time and get her to mention her likes without being too obvious, like favorite color, animal, candy bar, flower, etc. Then, get her a little trinket reflecting that. This shows you pay attention and actually give a crap Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 This thread has become tragically off topic. I mean I just deleted almost a dozen posts that have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the original topic. This is so inconsiderate and disrespectful. I am simply too tired to go through the entire thread to eliminate all the off topic posts. I'll do that tomorrow. Meanwhile, if you can't stay on topic go to the off topic thread. Many thanks! Holy crap!! I can't believe this thread has gone on for 5 pages, hahaha!! WTF is that about? Tony, for once we agree. This thread should have been over after my original statement, by which I stand firmly. OP - the worst thing you can do with a girl is try too hard, seem needy, desperate, or impatient. It makes you think you want A RELATIONSHIP but not HER. She wants you to want HER, not just a relationship with SOMEONE. Make sense? Women have incredible intuition for this kind of thing. Believe me, I used to be in your mindset. There's a reason I changed my thinking, and guess what? It works... EDIT - 8 pages?! -shakes head- Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Set your user control panel to 40 posts per page and it's only 3 pages Maybe OP could share with her a printout of this thread for a good laugh LOL... that's a gift that keeps on giving... Link to post Share on other sites
insideout1 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 Give the gift of sinceity and honesty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lmslms Posted March 3, 2008 Author Share Posted March 3, 2008 thanks or all ur replies guys, but today at work i got offered a job of a lifetime in the United Kingdom for 1 year, it was completely outta the blue, so i have done some hard thinking and think it may be best that i go for my career. any one agree?, i mean i could stay in contact with this girl and maybe in the future something may happen again. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 thanks or all ur replies guys, but today at work i got offered a job of a lifetime in the United Kingdom for 1 year, it was completely outta the blue, so i have done some hard thinking and think it may be best that i go for my career. any one agree?, i mean i could stay in contact with this girl and maybe in the future something may happen again. GOOD.. Good for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lmslms Posted March 3, 2008 Author Share Posted March 3, 2008 GOOD.. Good for you! my parents live in the UK, so i really sat down for an hour by myself and weighed up all my options. me and this girl still went out tonight, i actually took her to an opera concert. and i spoke to her about it aswell. she is studying LAW at a pretty prestigious University in Sydney, the university of NSW, and i am sure down the track she will have less and less time or me, which i now aprreciate as it will mean she will be better herself with her studies, yet we will still stay in contact. maybe this is a blessing in disquise Link to post Share on other sites
Author lmslms Posted March 3, 2008 Author Share Posted March 3, 2008 my parents live in the UK, so i really sat down for an hour by myself and weighed up all my options. me and this girl ( Stephanie-Lee, hence my username-HHHAHAHAHHA) still went out tonight, i actually took her to an opera concert. and i spoke to her about it aswell. she is studying LAW at a pretty prestigious University in Sydney, the university of NSW, and i am sure down the track she will have less and less time for me, which i now aprreciate as it will mean she will be bettering herself with her studies, yet we will still stay in contact. maybe this is a blessing in disquise ............................ Link to post Share on other sites
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