lmslms Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 how many dates until u ask the girl to be ur girlfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 A few months, minimum one month, or, 12 dates. Again - RELAX!!! All of this intensity is going to scare her off with the desperation. Just chill and let it happen on its own! Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Oh your back I agree with Jilly Bean calm down let things progress in time here a bit. I think if you ask this soon it will be creepy I agree one month or so and then if things are still going great ask away! Also just wanted to say I noticed some one told you that sex may be a good idea I'd again wait a bit but thats just me. You def seam to want to hurry things up and I'd hate for it all to fall apart on you because you rushed things to much on her. Link to post Share on other sites
BChris66 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Good advise here, I had date #3 lst night myself, only at the arm around her waist, her head on my shoulder stage myself. Still no kissing, and certainly no mention of steady BF/GF yet, although her friends seem to think we're developing into something. Don't rush anything, just let it take it's course, if she likes you she'll keep agreeing to spend time with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Winfield Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 If she is going to be your girlfriend, you'll just know without even bringing the subject up (as everything will fall into place and feel "right")... Give it time, and enjoy "now" as opposed to what "might" be! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 three.. No seriously.. there is no minimum/maximum dates to become gf/bf.. you'll know when it's time.. don't worry.. Where's the rush to make it 'official' .. she won't vanish... take a deep breath.. and most of all relax... it will come naturally... Good luck.. remember.. don't look desperate.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Put that engagement ring away! Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 Put that engagement ring away! Don't give him any ideas carhill lol... Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 If she is going to be your girlfriend, you'll just know without even bringing the subject up (as everything will fall into place and feel "right")... Give it time, and enjoy "now" as opposed to what "might" be! I agree, everyone's different. there's no specific time frame for when things will happen or when is a good time to bring up the question. Link to post Share on other sites
fray718 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 I agree, everyone's different. there's no specific time frame for when things will happen or when is a good time to bring up the question. I agree. You should do what 'feels' right. If you wait too long, she might get anxious and start looking elsewhere, but if you dont wait long enough, she might think you're insincere or creepy. Do it based on how you feel. My current bf asked me after 3 weeks on the 7th date and while that seems soon, it felt right. We both knew though. I knew he wanted me and he knew I wanted him. Link to post Share on other sites
maryjane1 Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 You must claim her body first. Link to post Share on other sites
FormerNiceGuy Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 When you get laid. Real talk. Link to post Share on other sites
crazieshnurple Posted March 2, 2008 Share Posted March 2, 2008 whenever it feels right... my bf and i became "official" 4th time we hang out, even though we had only hung out totally alone once, and things have so far worked out splendidly Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 You'll just know. There's no time limitation to it. When you feel that she's became something more than just a casual date and you see yourself spending all your free time with her and nobody else then thats when you know. Link to post Share on other sites
pajamaman Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 next time you see her, just grab her and kiss her. do not ask. if she welcome the kiss and reciprocate, you are in. if she turns away, you are out. do it as soon as possible. if you wait any longer, you might get put in the FZ. never ask her to be your gf. never. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 As many as you can get away with. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 As many as you can get away with. Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 You must claim her body first. Wow thats kinda creepy the way he/she said that. Anyways whats all this you have to have sex quick kinda talk? Thats the mind set that can lead to probs/miscommunication afterwords just to clear up for the OP. Just cause you have sex doesn't mean your officially a couple. You will have this guy thinking if he can bed her she will be his gf. I think sex should come later in the relationship after something special has already evolved between the 2 of you. But I guess I'm to old fashioned anymore go figure lol.. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 how many dates until u ask the girl to be ur girlfriend? Too many people rush for the exclusivity line. The dating period should be the time that you patiently wait for your feelings to teel you whether she's good for you or not. I personally have found the 10-week mark to be the end of the "honeymoon" period with someone and that next two weeks can be a great indicator of what you guys have together. Don't rush... courting periods exist for a reason. Otherwise, as an answer, minimun of 6 weeks methinks. Link to post Share on other sites
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