Cheat on my hands?

[JShimmy]

So, I'm been dating this girl for 6 months and we've been official for 1 1/2 months... We were supposed to go see a Broadway show today in New York for her valentines day present.. Well this is what happened...

 

We slept in different rooms tonight cause i was snoring heavily.. she came and woke me up at like 4 am to you know, mess around.. so after that she didn't wanna move so i decided i'd go downstairs where she was originally sleeping.. Here cell phone was beeping, like she had a message.. so i checked it... it was just some girl saying have fun tomorrow... but i decided to check her text messages, well cause i just did... so she didn't have any in the inbox but 3, and 244 in the sent messages... So i read the sent ones... There were 5 to this guy who she claims is her friend... He has a girlfriend also... So i check the messages... and the first one was that she said you really are sexy... the next one said you know i was the best you ever had... the next one said i really want you but we can't... then the last one said, maybe... you can squeze it....

 

I was furious... So im so pissed i kicked her out like anyone would do.. she is telling me it is all just a joke and i knew they use to hang out like a year ago... but she said that they were sitting across from eachother with a group of friends and were just texting to eachother back and forth while at the table.. this got me so mad.. she said that he is one of her best friends.. and they were joking.. i'm figuring he said something like i like to tap that ass, and she said maybe, you can squeeze it...

 

She said i have a right too be mad, and i am furious.. not to mention i threw away 300 dollars on tickets for today... She says she loves me, never would ever cheat on me, and that this really looks bad but they were just playing around since the table they were at was very interesting.. I'm a really good guy and i don't deserve this..

 

Any suggestions? I don't think i should take her back.. even if it was just a joke, i think she meant the stuff she said to him... I'm so frusterated i don't even know what to do...

[carhill]

I don't know, but I'm definitely going to buy some Verizon stock

 

Does your relationship turn on this one incident or have there been others? How long ago were those messages sent? Why are you going through her cell phone anyway?

 

I'm married and when my wife's phone beeps or rings I hand it to her. I've never looked in it other than when she asks me to. What goes on in that thing doesn't have anything to do with the health of our marriage. She comes home because she wants to; well that and I'm a really good cook

[Bryanp]

If you believe what she is saying then you are out of your mind. She is caught red-handed and is now doing damage control. I guess your relationship it is a big joke to her. It seems obvious she has been screwing this guy behind your back and making you look like a fool. I am sorry for you but now you know not to waste any more time on such a person.

[redclay13]

You did the right thing and don't take her back regardless of what she says. Toss out any items she didn't take when you told her to leave. Walk away and don't look back.

[Dman]

Hmm. She says it's a friend. I find that a little bit hard to believe. I flirt with a lot of my friends, but I never say things like "you know I was the best you ever had" and "I want you but can't". That's a bit too far if you ask me.

Seems like this person is more than a friend. Maybe she was only trying to tell you it was nothing more than a friend because she felt guilty over the money you had just spent on her?

The weird thing is she has no messages in her inbox but seems to have forgotten about her sent messages. Just think - why did she delete her inbox in the first place? What is she trying to hide?

And something must have been bugging you, maybe subconsciously for you to check her phone in the first place.

My advice is get rid. You're too nice a person to be wasted on her.