BuenaSucia Posted July 4, 2003 Share Posted July 4, 2003 I'm new here, but I thought I'd try to get some objective advice. I've been involved with this guy since September. At first we were just a booty call, then we became best friends along with having amazing sex. It was amazing until April when he completely shut down, sent me an email and said that he loved me but only as a friend. I went to his house to give him his stuff and we ended up getting back together. That lasted about a month, then one day he canceled plans when I was 3 exits away from his house after sitting in rush hour traffic. When I got home, there was an email waiting for me to never contact him again. A few days later, he was sending me a million text messages saying that he was so sorry blah blah blah. Well, I ended up seeing him and he cried for two hours straight and talked about how much he regretted hurting me and how badly he wanted it to work. I reluctantly took him back but with specific terms. He's been in a bad place for the past couple of months for a variety of reasons and I know that this crabby, tormented person is not who he really is. However, a week ago he told me that he just wasn't happy in our relationship and thought that we shouldn't see each other romantically anymore. I told him then that I didn't think that I would be able to be his friend. It's just too hard. Ok...so enough of that background...we went out yesterday and had an amazing time. We finally talked candidly without emotion and he said that he was sorry, but just felt so conflicted about our relationship. He felt like we were both pushing a car that had four flat tires. I told him that I disagreed and said that he basically nutted up and went into a panic and ran. No response to that. When I asked him what friendship meant to him he said, "Well, everything will be the same, we just won't have sex." To me, however, sex was the least of it. Anyway, when we were out yesterday he said out of nowhere "I sure am horny". I told him that I didn't know how to help him with the situation since we're just friends. Of course I'd love to eff his brains out, but that's cool. He also made several "girlfriend" remarks to me. Is the door open? I have always believed in us. The chemistry, ease and connection that we have is remarkable...and I've done my share of dating. This doesn not come along everyday. Thanks for reading this novel. I'd love advice, especially from men on how to make this happen. I know holding out on any sexual activity is critical, but my goodness it's tough. We're going camping tomorrow just for one night and I'm a little curious as to what's going to happen. Thanks so much!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 4, 2003 Share Posted July 4, 2003 Just how much does this guy have to jerk you around before you learn??? If you're horney, screw him. But as far as a longlasting romance, you will not find it with him. Don't even think about that anymore. I hope you will consider dating other people who are more stable and with whom you can share your life in all of its aspects. This started out as a booty call...and seems it will end that way as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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